Well it finally happened...

[Guest071613-2]

Originally Posted by Glenn Quagmire

Not just the providers. I would not let him suck my cock, either.

I don't care who you are, that was some funny sh*t right there

[Torito]

I have only had the meeting happen one time. I walked into a little bakery and saw a familiar face as she paid for her goodies. I had seen her a few times and we enjoyed each other as people as well as the business meeting. She knows I am not married. She saw me, ran across the room, gave me a big hug. Then she insisted on buying my goodies and a drink so we could sit down and visit a while.

So shoot me for enjoying her.

Torito

[Sir Lancelot]

Oh Torito,

I recall you telling me about that. And I'll tell you guys this girl he is talking about is a really sweet one.

Torito's post makes it clear that the way you react must be measured by the situation as well as the relationship you have with each other. Obviously if one of you is not alone, totally ignore each other. But if it is obvious that the situation is safe, a very simple nod of the head and "How you do'in?" is probably OK (note that no name was used). Let the separate reactions dictate things.

I am a very outgoing person (my friends say I've never met a stranger) and I enjoy starting up conversations with people I meet out and around. I just like people and make friends easily. So no one who knows me would be surprised by me speaking to someone crossing my path.

Note that I'm not sugegsting in any way you should make it obvious you know them - but a nod of the head and "Hi there" is pretty safe for almost any situation.

SL

[Guest112916]

Think of it as a BigFoot or UFO sighting. Stay quiet and move along.

[Prolongus]

Originally Posted by Rambro Creed

I pity you people. This hobby has apparently cornered you into some non-social cave, to where only operate and interact with other humans via the internet...on an escort board.

Trust me, nobody gives a shit about either one of you. To them you're just two people who spoke. Careful with the excessive paranoia. It kills your sex drive.

Except the SO nearby who just needs one...more...little...thing... TO PUSH HIM/HER OVER THE EDGE from slightly pissed to PSYCHO CITY.
Bye-bye, mansion...hello trailer.
Bye-bye, Mercedes...hello, Yugo.
Bye-bye Hobby...hello, Rosie Palm.

You're jus' fuckin' with us...right, Rambo?

[bistraight69]

We hobby as a couple so when this happens my wife always gets a kiss and a hug (the opportunity to cop a feel).

[pyramider]

Originally Posted by Glenn Quagmire

Not just the providers. I would not let him suck my cock, either.

I am just quoting the post because it was funny.


The thing is no one can be sure if either party is alone. Respect the private time you may have had to together and keep it private. The concept of discretion is foreign to some.

[sooner0010]

Well, I was thinking it would be up to the guy to initiate the hello since the wifey/gf might be close by. However, the provider could have a bf/hubby near by as well. So, I'd say it's best to give a little smile and keep walking. If it's a provider you see a lot, perhaps you could laugh about it during your next session.

[Guest030617]

Originally Posted by bobcatalpha3-6

Hell, I say hi to my parole officer when I see her in Walmart

[Randy4Candy]

Dang, this is beginning to sound like some of the sh*t we pull over in the National Sandbox! I don't see anything wrong with a little nod of acknowledgment if two people pass each other and they are aware of the other's presence, but that's about all. Nothing any more or less than one would do in the same situation when passing a complete stranger. We're not exactly talking dropping to one knee and belting out a few choruses of "Mammy," but it always pays to be vewy, vewy cautions.

Dammit, Dannie! I thought I was the only recipient of your 1.2" of dangling death! WTF?!? Oopsie, I missed where you typed twelve.

[Randall Creed]

Originally Posted by Prolongus

Except the SO nearby who just needs one...more...little...thing... TO PUSH HIM/HER OVER THE EDGE from slightly pissed to PSYCHO CITY.
Bye-bye, mansion...hello trailer.
Bye-bye, Mercedes...hello, Yugo.
Bye-bye Hobby...hello, Rosie Palm.

You're jus' fuckin' with us...right, Rambo?

Heh.

Umm, no.
I'm not married, so it's hard for me to fathom being caught in that position. That said, I've heard a saying that relates to the hobby for married men: don't shit where you eat. If a married guy hobbies in a way that it might overlap with his personal [married] life, then he needs to hunt in other territories.

Again, we're talking a simple acknowledgement here. Hell, it can be just visual. Locking eyes and a smile, maybe raised brow, and both keep on walking in opposite directions. How hard is that.

[SD2011]

Originally Posted by Rambro Creed

Heh.

Umm, no.
I'm not married, so it's hard for me to fathom being caught in that position. That said, I've heard a saying that relates to the hobby for married men: don't shit where you eat. If a married guy hobbies in a way that it might overlap with his personal [married] life, then he needs to hunt in other territories.

Again, we're talking a simple acknowledgement here. Hell, it can be just visual. Locking eyes and a smile, maybe raised brow, and both keep on walking in opposite directions. How hard is that.

I'm in agreement. It all depends on the situation, the gal, and her own comfort level. Being single, it's not such a big deal yet I wouldn't run up to a provider in a public place because that part of her life (and mine) is kept out of sight. However, if she wishes to say hello or talk, she is certainly welcome to. I've only had one experience of this and it was fine (hobby talk never even came up) it was just a hello/small talk moment. Seen her since and no drama, no issues just like we like it.

[jbravo_123]

I would say it's safest just to err on the side of caution and just smile and maybe say "hi" like you would a stranger if you make eye contact. If she comes over and starts talking normally, then you know things are cool.

[roaringfork]

This thread reminds me of a little transaction I had with a stripper, two decades ago when I was new to the whole scene. I had come to the club on the occasion of her twentieth birthday, which was also to be her final day of work there, before she moved on to bigger and better things. After I seated myself, she saw me and walked over, then bent over the table with her face close to mine, both our heads concealed by her luxuriant hair. Not understanding what was required of me (and certainly not wanting violate any no-touch policies which might be in force) I gave her a careful pat on her back, instead of the expected peck on the cheek. She walked away looking wounded, so I was of course relieved to find out several days later that another girl at the club was also the lady's roommate: "Hey, could you do me a favor? When you see R*** again, would you tell her I finally figured out that I owe her a kiss?"

Yeah, I know. The newly retired R*** showed up in civvies later in the evening, and was evidently given my message. I sit here now with both eyes in their sockets and a full set of testicles, but only thanks to the timely intervention of a couple of her colleagues, who managed to convince her that the pleasure of leaving me crippled for rest of my life might be outweighed by the trouble of carrying a felony conviction through the rest of hers.

I guess that The Illusion Of Positive Regard for which we pay could sometimes conceal simple friendliness or (more likely) simple indifference, rather than violent contempt; but if you're really in the hobby for the thrill of emotional risk, then why not just stick with your girlfriend, wife or boss?

[Guest050619-1]

I get what you're saying, RC.....when I initially started hobbying, my rule of thumb was "only out of town" (ie: Houston, Austin, San Antonio) while on business trips. The thing is....man, the "hunting" here in Big D is simply too enticing. We all know the abundance of talent that's here in Dallas-Ft Worth and it's difficult to resist. Hence, many married (myself included) take the risk.

Personally, I've run into 2 providers here in the metroplex during that time. Once at a Whole Foods (I saw her, she didn't see me)....I glanced her way, thought "wow...she looks great"....but inside I knew the right thing to do was move on, check out and get on with my day. I was by myself as was she, but felt acknowledging her (coming up and saying something) would be crossing the line.

The other time was totally different....with my SO along with a couple of clients and their wives.....we're entering a fine restaurant just as (my ATF) was leaving with two of her (smoking hottt) g/f's. We recognized each other but casually made our way past those waiting in the foyer; offering nothing more than a quick glance. But I must admit, the adrenalin shot my brain and heart got was staggering.....I could physically feel vital life support functions going haywire upon seeing her.

I couldn't hit the bar and down a triple Goose on the Rocks fast enough.

She and I laughed about about it several days later during our next session.....but years later I can honestly say it's a situation I hope to never repeat.

Originally Posted by Rambro Creed

Heh.

Umm, no.
I'm not married, so it's hard for me to fathom being caught in that position. That said, I've heard a saying that relates to the hobby for married men: don't shit where you eat. If a married guy hobbies in a way that it might overlap with his personal [married] life, then he needs to hunt in other territories.

Again, we're talking a simple acknowledgement here. Hell, it can be just visual. Locking eyes and a smile, maybe raised brow, and both keep on walking in opposite directions. How hard is that.