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Originally Posted by Whispers
Originally Posted by galaxon00 
How does drama here on the board get in the way of trying to make an appointment Jade?
involving that. But unless you are dealing with a person who uses the board for just that, you have to deal with and wade through a lot of excess baggage drama people involve themselves in; just to try to make appointments.
Once again how? Ads are in the ad section and reviews in the review section and both can be read with no involvement in drama. Now if you are saying Jade is too involved in the drama to pay you any attention I can understand that. Wait... Aren't YOU Jade?
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I'll take a serious stab at this if anyone is really interested.... although my feeling
is that most people reading couldn't care less as they either enjoy the drama
or ignore it. I went to my first social this last week and one thing I found myself
asking quite a few people in person is "What's up with all the drama?" since I usually don't get involved in the forums as filtering through all the bickering
and nastiness does get rather draining.
Here are some things I've detected in my own behavior and picked up on
from others based on things I've read which might get in the way of appointments:
1) I (and others have admitted) have not posted reviews on certain providers
because of potential backlash. Even though many of us base who we set our
next appointments with based on reviews we read, many (potentially extremely
valuable) reviews aren't getting written due to fear of things like:
A) If Provider X knew you saw Provider Y you'd get blacklisted
B) Providers requesting NOT to be reviewed because they are either trying to
stay UTR, or think having been seen by a certain monger would affect their
business in other negative way
2) Providers asking certain details of the session be left out or changed because
it might reflect badly on them -- many mongers feel they MUST comply with
the requests if they want to see that provider again. Or the WK enjoys
helping out their new ATF (although I'm not sure THIS action is based on
"drama").
3) Perhaps more valuable and quality posters are NOT posting good insight
because they don't want to be sucked in to the drama. I, myself, have
not clicked "Submit" after spending some time to write several posts because
in the end, it just wasn't worth the risk/hassle of posting. In fact I probably
shouldn't be posting THIS reply because I'm likely to receive more flak than
I want. -- so the bottom line is we could be running off a more intelligent group
of good people because there are a handful that keep perpetuating the drama.
4) This drama is not only in co-ed, but quite prevalent in with the reviews as well.
Where one monger makes uncalled for remarks against another. Reading over
some reviews could make one feel on edge about IF they want to even
contribute (seeming to choose some "side" in the OK Corral) and then become
a target themselves... so we might be losing wider participation.
5) Loss of trust. I've noticed, due to several various episodes of drama, that it's
hard to trust who is being honest. If the lack of trust extends beyond a
certain tipping point, then what value does the board have at all, when so much
of everything posted could be non-sense.
-- Of course many will still say "the value is in the entertainment of
all said non-sense". And on that note, I will truncate my ramble and
let a few of you enjoy this bit of entertainment as well.
ps. Because of the way #3 is written... I want to be sure to add that I am
NOT suggesting I am intelligent or a valuable contributor myself... but others
may be. ( <-- more drama deflecting)
