It maybe all about technique

[cuddlyteddybear]

Originally Posted by BigDeal

I actually would rather perform DATY and have always been good at it..."practice makes perfect"

I like it more than getting oral.....I like to see how I can make a woman squirm!!

The problem is that we ALL think we're good at it. LOL. Not saying you're not. Just sayin.

[Wizard of Ahhhhs]

Originally Posted by love2fishfork

I don't think there's any such thing as "Great DATY technique"!

What may be GREAT for one girl, may completely turn off the next. No two people like the same thing. And since we can't read minds, we need to be taught, and not allow our ego's to be shattered.

Of course the same applies to BJ's as well.

The good thing is it's really fun practicing!

I guess I would have to disagree with you, fishfork... there is "great DATY technique". But, with that technique comes the understanding that your entire 2nd paragraph is spot-on. That no two women are alike in how they like to be licked. Understanding that difference, listening to the lady, and performing as they like it, is what makes for that great technique, and not just dive in with a "one type of lick fits all" cookie-cutter approach.

+1's on the BJ's and the practicing, too!

[BigDeal]

Originally Posted by cuddlyteddybear

The problem is that we ALL think we're good at it. LOL. Not saying you're not. Just sayin.

Well Ive never gotten the tap but as far "we all think we are good at it" I not sure I agree...I think some guys arent really into it...so that would mean they probrably got the tap somewhere along the line and decided they better improve on other areas of their game!

My belief is if you arent into it like some girls arent into blowjobs would seem to me you wont be very good at it...IMO

[BigDeal]

Originally Posted by Wizard of Ahhhhs

I guess I would have to disagree with you, fishfork... there is "great DATY technique". But, with that technique comes the understanding that your entire 2nd paragraph is spot-on. That no two women are alike in how they like to be licked. Understanding that difference, listening to the lady, and performing as they like it, is what makes for that great technique, and not just dive in with a "one type of lick fits all" cookie-cutter approach.

+1's on the BJ's and the practicing, too!

I agree with you Wiz on no 2 girls are alike....some like the finger inserted....some dont....some like their clit sucked on some dont (ie Tabie...lick dont suck)

[KCSmutMonkey]

Originally Posted by cuddlyteddybear

The problem is that we ALL think we're good at it. LOL. Not saying you're not. Just sayin.

I've been told I'm good at it. Our lovely ladies would never lie, right? :-) Using that evidence, I'm also HUGE!! (Ok, not really!)

[Guest030817]

To OP question...I hope that it's not good food or I am screwed. I'm not very domestic but very good at outsourcing. It seems that great carryout would be much easier an cheaper than great services at home. I'm hoping that some wonderful man is on the same track with me and will fulfill my princess destiny.

I don't think great daty is the way to a woman's heart and soul....however it def.is a factor and I wouldn't spend longterm time with someone who wasn't at a minimum interested and trainable. I should mention that anytime that you can get a woman to orgasm she releases oxytocin which is a bonding hormone (why many women confuse sex and love.) Providers in general are able to block that...which I haven't quite figured out, nor has the medical community. (Thesis paper?)

There are general techniques that scientifically are pleasurable to men/women based on the understanding of anatomy and physiology. That's a good basic understanding to have when addressing this issue. With that said...everyone is different in what really takes them "there."

Research, read, practice and pay attention to your partner's body language and communicate! That is if an enjoyable experience is as important as it seems to be as evidenced by many ppl's time spent on ECCIE.

I learned my skills by asking people to tell or better yet show me what they like. In addition I will gladly tell a partner lighter, harder, here or there....or better yet just grab their hand or head and put it where I want it and show you how I want it done.

I wanted to learn to squirt. Consulted with a provider who could, researched, practiced and the rest is history. If you want to do something well you have to communicate. This is awkward for some in the hobby....particularily if a one time visit.

Some of the best daty that I have received has been from other women as they know what feels good. Riding a face works pretty well too.

Xoxo,

Ari

[BigDeal]

Originally Posted by Ari816

There are general techniques that scientifically are pleasurable to men/women based on the understanding of anatomy and physiology. That's a good basic understanding to have when addressng this issue. With that said...everyone is different in what really takes them "there."

Research, read, practice and pay attention to your partner's body language and communicate! That is if an enjoyable experience is as important as it seems to be as evidenced by many ppl's time spent on ECCIE.

I learned my skills by asking people to tell or better yet show me what they like. In addition I will gladly tell a partner lighter, harder, here or there....or better yet just grab their hand or head and put it where I want it and show you how I want it done.

I wanted to learn to squirt. Consulted with a provider who could, researched, practiced and the rest is history. If you want to do something well you have to communicate. This is awkward for some in the hobby....particularily if a one time visit.

Some of the best daty that I have received has been from other women as they know what feels good. Riding a face works pretty well too.

Xoxo,

Ari

You aint seen me yet baby!!LOL

Use my face as a saddle please....yum!

[Guest030817]

In time BD, giddy up!

[Fastcar]

After watching Ari and Bobby together,I felt like I was attending a masters level course on oral skills. As Three Dog Night sang " I seen so many things I ain't never seen before".

[1963Cobra]

Originally Posted by Ari816

To OP question...I hope that it's not good food or I am screwed. I'm not very domestic but very good at outsourcing. It seems that great carryout would be much easier an cheaper than great services at home. I'm hoping that some wonderful man is on the same track with me and will fulfill my princess destiny.

I don't think great daty is the way to a woman's heart and soul....however it def.is a factor and I wouldn't spend longterm time with someone who wasn't at a minimum interested and trainable. I should mention that anytime that you can get a woman to orgasm she releases oxytocin which is a bonding hormone (why many women confuse sex and love.) Providers in general are able to block that...which I haven't quite figured out, nor has the medical community. (Thesis paper?)

There are general techniques that scientifically are pleasurable to men/women based on the understanding of anatomy and physiology. That's a good basic understanding to have when addressing this issue. With that said...everyone is different in what really takes them "there."

Research, read, practice and pay attention to your partner's body language and communicate! That is if an enjoyable experience is as important as it seems to be as evidenced by many ppl's time spent on ECCIE.

I learned my skills by asking people to tell or better yet show me what they like. In addition I will gladly tell a partner lighter, harder, here or there....or better yet just grab their hand or head and put it where I want it and show you how I want it done.

I wanted to learn to squirt. Consulted with a provider who could, researched, practiced and the rest is history. If you want to do something well you have to communicate. This is awkward for some in the hobby....particularily if a one time visit.

Some of the best daty that I have received has been from other women as they know what feels good. Riding a face works pretty well too.

Xoxo,

Ari

When being ridden by ARI be careful not to drown.... but wow was it fun. And yes her oral is wonderful and I just love beng told what to do.. I can be taught and look forward to our next lesson oh oh Professor of the O.

[Wizard of Ahhhhs]

Originally Posted by Ari816

I don't think great daty is the way to a woman's heart and soul...

Well, crap... why didn't someone tell me that years ago?!?!?

Actually, Ari, excellent points in your post, dear. I agree wholeheartedly with everything you said (well, except for the heart and soul thing).

And I'm still always wanting to plant my face on your avatar! Yum!

[Guest030817]

Originally Posted by Wizard of Ahhhhs

Actually, Ari, excellent points in your post, dear. I agree wholeheartedly with everything you said (well, except for the heart and soul thing).
Yum!

What about the non-domestic princess thing, ya down with that? That would be a fun new topic. In theory of course...we all know it doesn't work out like that (well at least those of us who have tried it "mwah" or are smart enough not to have).

Housekeeper $
Nanny $
Cook/Eating out $
Live in nympho playmate- priceless or disaster? LMAO

My ex's would probably say both!!!

*Hello ex-lovers.. if you still stalk me on eccie you know you are only feeding my exhibitionist fantasies! Xoxoxo*