GFE Expectations

[BigMatt]

I think Ginger nailed it! Personally I really enjoy good conversation and someone who can make me laugh. As one poster said it takes two to tango and fortunately for me and I am sure a lot of other hobbyist out there, I think I have a good personality and sense of humor so i would think it would make the gfe experience easier for the lady to provide. Of course it also doesn't hurt that I am so damn good looking and have the body of a god and am practically perfect in every way! Lol

[Howl at the Moon]

I remember reading a piece of a sociology study on marriage. When they got around to talking about sex, the summary was that a large number of men described their wives sexually as either uninterested, disengaged or as having a long list of things that she will not do.

I make a distinction about intimacy. While sex can create intimacy, it is not the only way to create and maintain it. Want to try REAL intimacy? Sit naked accross from someone you love and are committed to and just look into each others' eyes for 5 minutes. No cheating- be fully present- no thinking about baseball or your favorite hobby partner. And no touching! If you can really see and be seen that way, it is one of the most intimate (and vulnerable) things you can do.

GFE for me is more about engagement and the long list of things a woman wants to do and will enjoy doing. I want to spend time with a woman who wants to spend time with me and gets fully engaged in our activities. Of course, like every other man, I also want to believe that she is having a great time and getting off- and of course while there are things that cannot be faked, we are never really going to know. For me it is (even the believable fiction of) having a willing and engaged partner, who is as interested in my pleasure as her own. that means I have to put in the same effort and the same interest in her having a good time that I want her to put in for me. Even though there is an envelope involved- if I show up expecting "service" then I am not doing much to create a GFE experience and will likely get just that- "service". Each to his own, but that is not what it is about for me.

While not a frequent hobbier, most of the women I have met are in the business because they want to be- and as such enjoy their work. As long as I do not show up as a reason for her not to, then I do not mind the envelope so much. It may be an odd comparison, but I also pay my dentist. S/he need not be in love with me, but in addition to training, cleanliness and skill, I sure as hell want my dentist to enjoy the work they have chosen.

[Guest032112]

Originally Posted by Howl at the Moon

. . . It may be an odd comparison, but I also pay my dentist. S/he need not be in love with me, but in addition to training, cleanliness and skill, I sure as hell want my dentist to enjoy the work they have chosen.

Obviously, Howl has no problem compartmentalizing. For the record, ladies, I've never thought of any of you in the same thought as my dentist and his hairy hand!

On the other hand, most have explained GFE as an attitude or the illusion of emotional engagment. How and where do you draw the line to keep it from becoming blurred? And ladies, how do you handle it when that line does become too blurry?

[horserider]

For me one thing that keeps the line clear is I don't know the lady. I mean really know her. I think the line would be blurred if I spent time with her outside of hobbying and knew, for example her favorite color and say her favorite food and several other personal things. If I knew her "moods" and actually experienced them. In the same thought maybe for a really true, good GFE the lines do get blurred..................for an hour or two. Just my 2 cents worth.

[ucafreaky]

My own little world......
Just for me personally, I have never been the hit it and wuit it kind of guy. While there have been some good times with girls I barely knew, those were momentarily satisfying and only left me desiring more. That desire led me down the path of several failed relationships simply because I wanted the closeness and intimacy with someone. Eventually I found someone that not only can put up with me, , but that I truley enjoy spending time with. However, like in every relationship things could be better in certain areas. In the area of the bedroom, I love my SO but miss some of the fun I had with other girls. For me the discovery period is some of the most fun. Thus my quandry!! How could I get the enjoyment of the physical side of life, but avoid the hit and quit mentality. I eventually found my answer, GFE!!!!!!!!!!
A true GFE for me is one that makes me feel that they want to be there. Both parties are exactly where they desire to be for however long that desire lasts. GFE is an attitude. One lady I have seen takes the time to remember my name, and will actually use it during our fun. I enjoy the conversations before during and after. Not just the small talk but even the sometimes might be embarresing stuff that might happen. GFE is more than kissing or even having fun. There are two lady's on this board whom I havae not been able to see due to scheduling problems, yet we have talked enough that I will actually get a text every once in awhile just to say hi. A true GFE will make me feel that while I might not be the most important person to them, I am also not the least. In essance they care. About me, about their reputation, about the money, whatever it is they care and I appreciate it!
To all of you wonderful ladies that I have seen that have given me such wonderful experiances, I truely want to say THANK YOU!!! If I have seen you recently and have not written a review, I apoligize and will soon rectify that, it has just been a very busy time for me lately.

Advice to those new to GFE: Both Parties Involved
-kissing is more than lips meeting. (There is emotion. Fake it if you must, I know you know how.)
-eye contact is not a bad thing
-we all know what this is. (Dont beat around the bush, but dont compare me to others either.)
-HAVE FUN!!! (If either one is interested in just plain old boring sex, there are marriges for that. Ask what the other enjoys. Guys the lady's have fantasy's too, and you might could help them out once in a while. Lady's, the guys are hoping you can do something, anything, that they cant get elsewhere.)

Happy Hobbying

[ErectionDemolitionSpclst]

Allow me if you will, ever so humbly, my Regal ECCIElonians to bring forth to you -

GFE BEYOND EXPLANATION! (It's NOT just a mere "session" (Gosh, I really hate that term), but it's an experience you will never forget.)

That is what I am the ipitome' of!


Love & Light,

MaryMagdalene

[Sweet N Little]

I guess with being single I am more selfish, I see it as your there to be my boyfriend, ....all for me That way everything flows naturally

[JDNorthface]

Originally Posted by ufriend2912

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What makes it a good GFE for me is the lady's attitude (whether genuine or contrived). The activities and degree of safety employed by the companion are not the qualifying factors.

JMHO, FWIW.

I agree. Attitude. An open willingness to say anything and be anything and enjoy everything with the understanding that it doesn't lead to anything beyond the session.

[Guest032112]

Originally Posted by Sweet N Little

I guess with being single I am more selfish, I see it as your there to be my boyfriend, ....all for me That way everything flows naturally

And that attitude has made you one of Central Arkansas's Favorites! And of course there are some of us who feel like we've known you forever.

[figure_artist]

Originally Posted by Sweet N Little

I guess with being single I am more selfish, I see it as your there to be my boyfriend, ....all for me That way everything flows naturally

+1

[B.Wayne]

I had always been confused by this term. Not until meeting Brittany did I really get the concept and understanding. It's crazy. It's like I can really shut my brain off, and put the B.S. aside and just relax and get to know someone. For me it takes it to another level when I can have my mind stimulated, along with other things. lol I can't really put my finger on it but she is just personable and easy to talk to. The biggest turn on is that I can truely just go with it and it feels natural is the best I can describe it.

[The Dude]

Originally Posted by Ginger Doll

I think you're referring to the Wife Experience. Lol

I already have that experience.

[Makayla of Missouri]

Originally Posted by Howl at the Moon

I remember reading a piece of a sociology study on marriage. When they got around to talking about sex, the summary was that a large number of men described their wives sexually as either uninterested, disengaged or as having a long list of things that she will not do.

Having majored in Sociology, and having had a lifetime of social theory shoved down my throat (hmmm... maybe it should have been something ELSE!), I can attest to the information you have reported.

I like to cuddle, talk about nonsense, passionately kiss, be sensual in lovemaking, and finish as you grab the back of my neck, gently lifting my head, making me look into your eyes as we both feel the intense rush....

All this, among other things. I do believe Mr. Chan had it right, and Ginger always seems to know how to word things to make it seem so wonderful! Spot on, you two!

[Guest082513-02]

I admit it confuses me. At first thought GFE would be like what a girlfriend would offer... conversation, bbbj, dfk, and maybe snuggle time post boink?

Forget that! If I had a boyfriend Greek and PSE options would be included with the above!

Now... CIM would not be a GFE thing for me... You do CIM and you will get the MWE.(married woman experience.. example: You CIM and after falling on floor in convulsions, I am going to throw you a pillow, porn, and KY and tell your ass to go make love to the couch!).. LOL!!

[TechOne]

Originally Posted by LusciousLacy

I admit it confuses me. At first thought GFE would be like what a girlfriend would offer... conversation, bbbj, dfk, and maybe snuggle time post boink?

Forget that! If I had a boyfriend Greek and PSE options would be included with the above!

Now... CIM would not be a GFE thing for me... You do CIM and you will get the MWE.(married woman experience.. example: You CIM and after falling on floor in convulsions, I am going to throw you a pillow, porn, and KY and tell your ass to go make love to the couch!).. LOL!!

Love it!