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rcinokc · 11-18-2011, 11:20 AM

What Jasser said. Fear of getting too close and all the mess that can bring.

LuckJack · 11-18-2011, 12:17 PM

Perhaps the session was so "good" they are worried about two things.

1. What if the next session is not as "good".
2. What if it is?

Guest081013-1 · 11-18-2011, 12:28 PM

I have peronally had sessions with several that have come back three times or more.. because of the fun. I have serveral regulars that come once a month and some once a week. It's the conversation and the consistent personality and services being the same that drive them to come back. The knowing that I have never had an "OFF" kind of day... where I don't give them my all and full attentiion BCD. Some have wanted more after a short time of knowing me, but it's the lines that you can't cross that you have to be sure of and make known. If the sessions are professional, yet friendly, consistent, services always at their best, and mood always set... you will always have regular returning gent's. I love having "TOO MUCH FUN!!!"

SASpurfan · 11-18-2011, 12:37 PM

Dannie, I think you know how I feel about this issue. See you again soon!
SAS

Guest062124 · 11-18-2011, 12:47 PM

Oh don't get me started.....

I have heard it several times..

"I have to step away."

"I am having emotional issues."

"I have let my feelings cross the line."

"I heard you have a boyfriend, so I can't compete or don't want to come in between you two."

All very flattering, but the bottom line is we are not here looking for love. We are here to have fun. TOO much fun is a good thing as long as you let it be that.

I get up in the morning wanting to have TOO MUCH FUN...how can that be a bad thing?

Great Post Dannie.

SASpurfan · 11-18-2011, 01:01 PM

+ 1 to what Ms Foster had to say. And it is difficult to have too much fun with Reese.

SAS

Guest062124 · 11-18-2011, 01:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SASpurfan

+ 1 to what Ms Foster had to say. And it is difficult to have too much fun with Reese.

SAS

You make it easy!

Seriously...why make something so fun, difficult? It doesn't have to be cut and dry, but it isn't high school either.

If you enjoy yourself with someone...it can only get better!

Hercules · 11-18-2011, 02:14 PM

Reminds me how mothers would tell their daughters to not give it away on the first date or else a guy would have no reason to ask her out again.....?

If I find a chick I like I'm gonna try to boink the hell outa her as many times as allowed. Problem is time. Can't see how some of the guys here get so much time to go ass wrangling when I have a tough time finding a just a few minutes to spank the monkey.

Boltfan · 11-18-2011, 03:23 PM

Unfortunately not enough are here just for the sportfucking aspect of all this. They lack emotional attachment at home so "it was too good" is, as others have said, really "I can't get attached".

Caleb · 11-18-2011, 06:36 PM

<-- More than ready for too much fun!! Would love to know what that feels like. Don't get me wrong, my short time in the hobby has been a blast. Just having a hard time contemplating too much fun. If a little is good, then more is better, no? Not quite sure how to get to too much.

Perhaps I need to connect with Dannie and Reese. Could well be the case that I do not know what I do not know.

Guest081013-1 · 11-18-2011, 07:47 PM

I love to have FUN ALL THE TIME... So.. nothing is never enough.. or too much.

Fort Worth Punk · 11-18-2011, 08:51 PM

Actually that has happened. I was frank with the lady and we ended up dating.

eccienewbie · 11-18-2011, 08:55 PM

I suppose it's possible that some would try to leave on a high note and forego subsequent visits for that reason. I can see that, and then there's the possibility of "addiction" and a desire to nip it in the bud to avoid going back over and over and over again. And to avoid becoming emotionally attached.

As for me, I'll just keep pushin' my luck once I find a good thing. Some sessions will be better than others, of course, but a couple of really nice visits (with non-BCD activities being as important as BCD) will lead to a pretty generous line of credit in my book. As a result, "spectacular" isn't required every time. And I live just far enough out in the sticks to where I don't have to worry about the addiction part. It's not just a 10 minute drive for me to get to the ladies that I've found to be special. So, if I make the trip, or make arrangements in advance when I know I'll be in your neck of the woods, I guess you know my thoughts about you.

FishGuy13 · 11-18-2011, 09:44 PM

The only thing that sorta makes sense is the idea of fear of the emotional attachment, when we are not getting that part of the realationship some-where else either no S/O or the S/O is is cold.
Other wise, I am with the rest of the crowd, too much fun sounds like your heart exploding during a great 'O' and leaving her with some bad guilt. Then again she could take comfort in knowing I went out happy and if my soul has a memory I know it would smile!

up4u · 11-18-2011, 10:22 PM

Dannie,
I agree with so much on here, but the bottom line (BTW Dannie I sent you a PM) shouldn't a "Hobby" be fun and if is not then you should pick another "Hobby".

Second, I think you do have to learn a lot about yourself and how to deal with all the emotions that do arise from "The Hobby". Once you can do that let the fun begin and the more fun the better...and there is not such a thing as "To Much Fun"! Now everyones idea of more may differ. Some may think more providers to see, some may think more experiences with that one or two providers you connect with, which could include both the physical connection and emotional connection. The physical being obvious the emotional a little harder to understand for most people.

It has taken me about 5 years of hobbying, with over 25 reviews and many more sessions and a fair amount of heartbreak and emotional struggles to finally figure it out and that has happened fairly recently.

Have Fun and Be Safe!
Happy Holidays!
UP4u