Why?

[OneSweetRub]

I would say… if the issue is not with you, and the providers you are looking to schedule with are routinely doing a bait-and-switch, maybe you need to start working with different providers that are a little higher class. If it is the same provider that is stone-walling you, I would take a hint… she isn’t in to you.
Something else to pay attention to, if you have a regular provider you like, is sometimes she may say “no” to normal activities because she has something going on that makes her feel uncomfortable. Not to get gynecological with you, but women have complicated plumbing. There are days when certain things just don’t feel pleasant at all. If she is putting up resistance, she probably has a reason… I am very communicative with my clients about what I allow on any given day, and will share why if something is off limits that day.
Last bit of housekeeping…. Keep your hands and fingers clean. I get guys that want to play in the honey all the time…. And they look like they just came straight from the engine of a Detroit Diesel without bothering to wash their hands.
I hope those tidbits help. Show up clean. Be a gentleman, be willing to pay (or give extra when called for), and make sure you are shopping with girls that truly offer what you are expecting… not girls trying to snag you in with bargain basement pricing.
You truly get what you pay for.

[PleasureAficionado]

Originally Posted by chiefsfan51

I'm always showered and clean and I also keep my house clean, I also dont have any addictions or smoke, I was basically asking when you text them they say they don't do certain things that they have listed on their ads, not when meeting up,but I do completely understand what onegoodrub was saying and I actually agree with her.

[Rooter]

Originally Posted by OneSweetRub

Why do providers list activities they advertise they engage in and then back out? It’s not always because we are liars, cunts and thieving whores. From my vast personal experience with clients, going back over 10 years, sometimes ya’ll walk in fucking nasty! We get men that come in from the gym that haven’t showered. We get guys coming in from lawn mowing, weed eating, construction, baling hay, roofing, working construction, etc…. Sometimes just really heavy guys that have sat in a car and farted in their drawers all day! Fuck!
On the flip side of that, some come in and they are just not attractive. Snaggle-toothed, knock-kneed… You want to DFK, while your teeth are rotting out of your head or you smell like you smoked the camel’s balls instead of the cigarettes, or you want a BBBJ and you smell like yeast because the fat folds weren’t dried properly, or you have questionable lumps, warts or rashes, or maybe your penis is just weird.
There are lots of reasons why providers call a play once they have met/seen the client.
For the clients’ part, are you coming in clean, showered, dressed better than a homeless person, and having either brushed your teeth or eaten a mint? That is still no guarantee of service. But (generally speaking for all reading) make sure YOUR business is clean and in order before just being pissed at the providers for not living up to your expectations…which are, in many instances, and unless you are paying premium escort prices, , grossly unrealistic.
If you check with local county health officials, STD’s are on the rise… even cases of syphllis have risen. Many of the “hookers” in town are addicts, so that comes with its own risked not even associated with your activities.
Are you asking these providers to show you their health papers before plopping it in their mouths? Are you willing to go get tested every six weeks and show them yours for the privilege of doing anything bareback? How many mouths and pussies do you want to stick it in, with no protection, and hoping the provider is actually as clean as she says she is?
Now think of how many cocks that girl has sucked with no protection. Is going home with a new case of herpes (or taking it home to your wive) worth the 5 minutes of bliss?
Providers have a right to refuse a service and are doing you and other clients a favor by being picky. If they pick up a disease, how many men do you think they have spread it to before they even realize there is something wrong. And do you think she’ll contact you to let you know she was diagnosed with something?
A real-world example from my own experience. A client, who was not a very regular client I had only seen a couple times, messaged me to tell me he had a trich infection he was sure he’d contracted from me, and that I needed to get treated and tell my clients.
The issue with that, as I explained to him, was that we had zero sexual contact, other than a HE. There had been no intimate kissing, no s€x or bbbj… just massage and HJ. And once I explained that I was a massage provider, he remembered… but was left to wonder which provider had infected him.
Another aspect, as I have replied in posts about screening, is that providers have a right to say no… you spend a few minutes with us over the course of our lifetimes… if we get a disease from you, WE live with that… sometimes our whole lives. Are you going to pay our hospital bills and insurance premiums? A $2 rubber for protection is better than a big hospital bill. Better than having to schedule an appointment and explain why you have a drippy dick… or a nasty rash you gave to your kids because you scratched your balls and then touched something they sit on.
The best, and most reliable, way to get the services you desire from a provider is to show up clean and attractive. Be respectful. Get to know the provider a little, see if there is organic chemistry. From my own experience, and not speaking for other providers, I am way more apt to do extras for clients that act like gentlemen (and comport themselves as such on the review boards) than I am to give anything extra to some pushy, entitled fuck that has unrealistic expectations, doesn’t care about his or my safety or comfort, and gets on the boards to talk shit and whine like a little bitch.
If you have hookers playing games, maybe you should look for, and be prepared to pay for, a more professional provider. ����♀️The ones playing games are most likely not the ones you want anything bareback from anyway…

Great comment, and thanks for letting the guys on here get a glimpse into what life is like for others. That's always important to read. You bring up a important concept, consent. Everyone should have the right to decide what and what they don't want to do. Things are never going to be all wine and roses, due to the nature of the transaction. You are thrust in the role of being the fantasy and fetish factory for this individual.
There are no rules only arbitrary values and wants. I don't know if a weird penis is enough to be out, but of course you shouldn't have to deal with something like hygiene if it's totally in that person's control.

[Rooter]

For me this illustrates a couple of sad truths. I never have cared much for the way many of the guys on here talk about the girls they see. Not always overtly, but subtlety at times. And a lot of providers really think of their clients with disdain. Not all on on either side. But it seems sad. Bring involved in activities you don't want to do and thinking because your paying for something it gives you the right not to seethe humanity in someone, not our proudest moments. But sometimes understanding and friendships flourish.