It's all in the manner in which you ask.
What has been happening to me recently, and I find it rather rude, is I've had a few men write me and ask me to write back and tell them why I'm worth seeing for X amount of dollars.
For example, one guy wrote and asked something along the lines of telling me to give him a sales pitch. I don't know why I should do that.
And how would I do it? It's so out there to me. Or just asking me if I'm worth it.
I've had clients call me and tell me that they have so much money to spend. That's fine. Let me be the first person to say no ... or maybe yes.
I have one guy who will often tell me that he has $180 today and will that work? The key is that the next time that I see him, he'll have the full rate.
Most of the time, when you offer a guy a special, for the next several years, you'll never get him off of that rate. Or if you push the issue, then you won't see him again.
Specials are a funny thing. They bite you in the ass so often down the line.
There was one guy, and he's on here now, and there was an issue of $50. LOVELY man. Just a great client.
And I shouldn't have pushed the issue. I got the $50 that he shorted me. But I never saw him again which is a shame. He was, and probably still is, a very sexy man.
However, it's that damn special that raises it's head and often, it makes a difference. Which is why you're RARELY seeing me offer specials even though I'm open to it.
Just too many issues with trying to get your regular rate in the future.
Asking is fine. Just be polite about it.
Elisabeth