What would you do?

[Guest072624]

I also agree with LD. Although the couples sessions ive been in they do clarify who the attention should mainly be on and in most situations its on the woman.

[BFCjosh]

Originally Posted by Sonya

Maybe I worded that poorly. I see how you could misunderstand.

Some of us may have just misunderstood. I too thought you were asking if you should tell the wife if the guy comes back and tries to schedule a one-on-one appointment. But it sounds like you were asking a different question.

It is nice to have new topics.

[Sarunga]

Love the show. Restores faith in humanity.

[Hot to Trot Daphne]

Originally Posted by Sonya

Yeah I agree. Some women don't know their jealous untill its mid session.

Umm, yeah. One of my first threesomes ever, I was 18, the chick initiated it and took a very active role in scouting. When it finally came down to do the do, we were at their house, on the bed, me on my back up on my elbows while he was datying. I let my head roll back, closed my eyes, and let out a moan. The next thing I hear is



She was standing beside him and had punched him in the back of the head! He jumps up, which made me jump up, and she was very upset. I didn't say anything the whole time, just started getting dressed. Besides, they called ME over there and I wasn't especially interested in either of them.

I put my clothes on, as does he; she has on a robe. I open the door and walk outside while she's going off on him the whole time. Cursing and punching him, throwing his shirt on his head, oh she called him everything but a child of God that night.

I get in my car, and he comes out the house and starts walking down the sidewalk. She runs out of the house, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry" she's saying with tears in her eyes while she comes to my car door. We talk for a minute.. I told her that's not what I came over here for, sorry if I did anything to upset her. She says, "no, no, I was just tripping for a minute."

Then she calls for him, he comes walking back, and we go inside (DON'T ASK ME WHY). After some tea ( I did NOT want any alcohol) we continue again, this time I start with her and it was totally better. Probably because she realized she was being an ass and trying to make up for it; and I did want her to feel insecure at all, especially not in her own house.

He and I fucked twice a week for a few months by ourselves afterwards. Turns to find out he was married to someone else anyhow, left her with a kid, she stalked him so I was out of there. So all in all he was a dog, and she was bat shit crazy.

Go figure.

After that fiasco and watching how things can be ruined with no preset boundaries, I have rules to this shit. In no particular order:

• try to avoid going to their house, meet on neutral territory
• pay more attention to the chica, you don't want an unhappy bitch you don't know in the same room with you while you're fucking her man
• no sneaky nookie with the hubby unless I was already fucking him beforehand
• keep your damn eyes open

[Dorian Gray]

Originally Posted by SNL9933

Don't you worry...when I get back I have something to eliminate your boredom....

a puppy?

[pyramider]

Probably a kitten.

[Sonya]

I already have a puppy and I'm allergic to cats.

[boardman]

I'm hypoallergenic...js

[Sonya]

Well that's good because I sure do love pussy.

[phillyintexas]

Originally Posted by BFCjosh

Some of us may have just misunderstood. I too thought you were asking if you should tell the wife if the guy comes back and tries to schedule a one-on-one appointment. But it sounds like you were asking a different question.

It is nice to have new topics.

thanks for your post. I thought I had lost it or something. I read it exactly as you did

[jbravo_123]

Originally Posted by BFCjosh

Some of us may have just misunderstood. I too thought you were asking if you should tell the wife if the guy comes back and tries to schedule a one-on-one appointment. But it sounds like you were asking a different question.

It is nice to have new topics.

This is what I had also read it as.

I guess the question is about how one should act during a couples session?

Think about all the interpersonal issues that can happen between a provider and client alone, now add a third person into the mix. It's important for everyone to be on the same page (in terms of boundaries, expectations, etc) due to the potential for bad things to happen.

It's not to say that couples sessions should be avoided (God knows, it's already hard enough to find couples-friendly providers as is!), but that you
do have to take a little more care in what can be a very fun experience.

LD pretty much hit it on the head in that the female in the couple is usually the most important one there. The guy is well, a guy. He's going to be ecstatic just to be there. Make the lady happy and the dude will be happy.

[Alyssa XOXO]

Anything Sonya, I'm Interested... Hell, got me Think'n of Convert'n..

[Fancyinheels]

I've done a few couples sessions, admittedly not as successfully as I would have liked because I was more uncertain what to do with the woman than the man. It is more difficult to know the thoughts of a wife when you are playing with her husband, so I always try to talk to both prior and during, but that doesn't always work out or end up the way that I thought it would. I'm much more comfortable with a MFM Hobby world double, as I pretty well know what all the expectations are and the provider and I chat beforehand honestly about what borders are okay to cross. I'm not bi, but I'm willing to be convinced. I do appreciate the beauty, taste, and texture of the female body, but I'm the first to admit that I might need a road map to any country other than this lassie's Ireland.

I took this thread as a question by the provider on the appropriateness of seeing the hubby separate, not whether or not she should ask/tell the wife. There is no "code" applicable; it's the same as seeing any other man in a committed "real world" relationship. The only two people who matter are the ones in the room at the time, and what happens in that room stays in that room.