What is it about fetishes that appeal to us

[SashandTorture]

My turn...

Watersports - no thank you
Fisting - very fun
BDSM - with someone you trust and within your limits is great fun
DP - oh hell yeah
no talking - can't wait to try it...

[ElisabethWhispers]

Originally Posted by burkalini

Ok guys I get the comedy. But we might want to stick to the subject. lol I guess we all laugh when we talk about stuff that makes us nervous.

Actually, I think that they were being sincere. There was a topic about that very thing in the Dallas area, I think. It takes all variations.

Waking a stranger up and having sex with her is another one that is kindof sexy. (Prearranged, of course!)

And as far as answering your questions, well ... I think that for me, instead of saying what is sick and what is not ... I will add to this topic that as many of us get older, and more experienced, we wish to try things that we have never tried and are curious about.

Add a big helping of modern-day porn, and viola! All sorts of activities are being considered that although have been around for eons, they just weren't out in the forefront like they are now.

Just a few late night thoughts.

Elisabeth

[The Fetishist]

Can't talk fetish without The Fetishist chiming in.

All of the above except silence I have tried, and like S&T - love all of them but Watersports.

I believe like EW that we find as we become more mature that we lose some of our inhibitions and what seemed icky and weird in our 20's is more "Hmmmmmm, OK!" in our more open perspective. I can remember back to the fisrt time someone asked to be spanked, I was "Whaaaaaaaaaat. oh no!" and 6 months later had an array of paddles. I love fetishes, and intend to try as many as I can. they keep the fun alive and keep the sex spicy.

I have done invasion fantasies, La Migra fantasies, but silent session, Hmmmmmm, OK!

I would rather try something and not like it, rather than not try something and regret it. I am working on several peoples fantasy requests now, and am loving the ideas that come to me. I am the dirty secret provider, oops, facilitator.

Fetish

[Cpalmson]

Watersports-- no!

Fisting-- I'd be willing if she were willing.

BDSM-- Yes, but I've heard of way too many provider doms who take it too seriously which in turn either means no sex b/c of her "rules" or no fun in that it becomes a chore.

Double penatration-- Sure. a duo session with me and one gal wearing a strap-on doing it to the other gal. Sounds like fun. (I don't do MMF dates).

Silent session sounds interesting. I read somewhere that a guy would regularly do this. He'd pre-arrange a date with a provider and tell her to where to go. The guy would then blindfold himself, get on the bed, and wait for the provider to arrive. The provider was to enter unannounced, give a BJ or do CG/RCG or both and then leave. No words spoken and the guy would never see the provider. Don't think I'd go that far, but the idea of just getting down to business without talking sounds incredibly sensual and raw.

Can't believe anyone hasn't mentioned anal, foot worshiping or breast worshiping. I know some think anal is mainstream, but I kinda lump into the fetish category. Finally for the life of me, I've never, ever understood the foot fetish thing. I can somewhat get the breast fetish but not a foot fetish.

[Cpalmson]

Originally Posted by Irish Vixen

one of my fantasies a date without a word being spoken only using touch and looks...very hot...I think we all have a side that is outside society "normal box" an I think it is great and being that open minded and trusting with a another person is awesome..some examples//being blindfolded and never knowing what to expect, I like pushing the limits an trying new things another is to be in a crowded night club wearing heels and sort dress and fucking in the corner with everyone aound...oh so many more ideas running through my mind..need that cool shower....wicked grin

I like the way you think! I also like the idea of "sex with strangers". I've always wanted to set up a session with a random provider. Have limited pre-date conversation other than to tell a her a time and place to meet (like a hotel bar) with a code word so that we would recognize each other. Once we had established recognition, we'd just go to the room and let nature take it's course. For this to work, I would not read any of her reviews, so I wouldn't know what was on or off the menu. Also, the provider would have to be willing to see someone based on little information about the guy, so it would probably only work if both parties were something like P411. I think it would be fun to break the contrived standard type dates and be more like hooking up.

[rrabbit6926]

Cpal,

I like the mystic of your idea on meeting up with said provider but isn't that the whole point of the hobby. Its suppose to be a sure thing. Now for a role playing theme I might have to give that one a try. Have said provider sit at a bar, getting hit on by every guy there. Yet your the lucky bastard that gets to take her to bed .

[Cpalmson]

Originally Posted by rrabbit6926

Cpal,

I like the mystic of your idea on meeting up with said provider but isn't that the whole point of the hobby. Its suppose to be a sure thing. Now for a role playing theme I might have to give that one a try. Have said provider sit at a bar, getting hit on by every guy there. Yet your the lucky bastard that gets to take her to bed .

Sure the hobby is suppose to be a sure thing, but if you've read reviews a, b and c on a certain provider, you know what to expect. On the other hand, if you don't know a provider's review history, you are working with a blank slate. You get to experience her without any preconceived ideas. In a sense, you are giving her all the control and maybe the scenario really gets her hot to the point she treats it like a "civie" date rather than a hobby date. Who knows maybe she's a CBJ girl but you end up getting a BBBJ.

[rrabbit6926]

I have had dates where I was actually surpized. Most reviews show something different then what I was offered. I always keep that on the down low outta respect since we all know YMMV with each encounter.

[burkalini]

Well I guess by the lack of replies we are still a little too nervous to give our opinions on this stuff. Oh well maybe another time.

[DallasRain]

No it is a great topic BURK!

I had a guy write me today about fisting...In My opinion is "If ya like it then do it"...If ya don't that is cool too

[Still Looking]

Originally Posted by burkalini

OK lets talk about them. You know the things that people do but don't really admit to. I'm talking about the ones that people will say ooh! that's sick but in reality have probably thought about or tried themselves. Let's list a few and discuss them.

1. Watersports. Ok some people like to get peed on or they like to pee on others. Does this turn you one? Does it make you sick?

If some one pisses on me they better have running as their next best attribute! I can't comprehend why people do this!?

2. Fisting. Can you wrap your head around this one? Does putting your whole hand in a gal get you going? I have done this a few times and to be quite honest have had some amazing results because of it. What do you think?

Put an entire fist in a lady’s vagina? I love TIGHT vaginas! Why would I put my fist in it? Never had anyone request this. Most women seem to discourage even one finger let alone a fist! Once again incomprehensible to me!

3. BDSM Does roughing it make you wet or hard? This seems to be the most common of the edge fetishes. All the Doms or the Subs of the board speak up.

If I'm beating the crap out of some one there is a serious lack of communication. I call that Violence! I assume were NOT talking about a pat on the butt here!

4. Double penetration. Have you ever done a session with another guy and DPed a provider. Providers have you done this or have a fantasy to let it happen? Guys does this make us feel a little weird to have our cocks so close to another? Is crossing swords too much of a possibility to let us try it?

I fly solo and have NEVER needed or wanted a copilot!

There a are a few others but you get the idea. Shit if we can't talk about them on this board where can we. OK time to chime in and let us know what you think.

Mr. Burk I addressed you're fetishes. While I judge NO ONE, it is very confusing to me that you would think of me as a comedian for having my fetish? Or perhaps you feel my fetish is NOT a fetish? I certainly did not intend to high jack YOUR thread. If you feel I did so, it was unintentional. I was merely sharing my feelings and desires. Like you said, "Shit if we can't talk about them on this board where can we?"

Just an observation on my part, but if I read where a provider desired or promoted "Fisting" I would scratch her off of any list I might have. I'm sure the same goes for other hobbyist also. A business oriented provider might realize this, and think it in her best interest NOT to chime in. I could be wrong, but it might contribute to the lack of posts from providers.

[burkalini]

Originally Posted by Still Looking

Mr. Burk I addressed you're fetishes. While I judge NO ONE, it is very confusing to me that you would think of me as a comedian for having my fetish? Or perhaps you feel my fetish is NOT a fetish? I certainly did not intend to high jack YOUR thread. If you feel I did so, it was unintentional. I was merely sharing my feelings and desires. Like you said, "Shit if we can't talk about them on this board where can we?"

Just an observation on my part, but if I read where a provider desired or promoted "Fisting" I would scratch her off of any list I might have. I'm sure the same goes for other hobbyist also. A business oriented provider might realize this, and think it in her best interest NOT to chime in. I could be wrong, but it might contribute to the lack of posts from providers.

Sorry for the misinterpretation. I literally thought you were joking having never heard of the silent fetish before. My bad. It looks like your fetish is also not that uncommon by the replies to it. I was trying to get people to talk about the fetishes that are considered nasty so people silently enjoy them. I have tried all of them but the DP because I am still nervous about having my cock close to another guys. I guess you either have to be real secure to do that or are a little bi. Anyway still trying to get some more opinions on them or any that I left out so come all you people and chime in. Oh yea on your a provider that allows fisting must have a large pussy in entirely untrue. You just have to slowly work up to it and believe it or not it goes back to it's original size. Remember women have babies that are way bigger than your fist or your cock and they snap back from that.

[Sweet N Little]

I think that its cool to push your limits and try new things , ya never know you just might like it

[Still Looking]

Originally Posted by burkalini

Sorry for the misinterpretation. I literally thought you were joking having never heard of the silent fetish before. My bad. It looks like your fetish is also not that uncommon by the replies to it. I was trying to get people to talk about the fetishes that are considered nasty so people silently enjoy them. I have tried all of them but the DP because I am still nervous about having my cock close to another guys. I guess you either have to be real secure to do that or are a little bi. Anyway still trying to get some more opinions on them or any that I left out so come all you people and chime in. Oh yea on your a provider that allows fisting must have a large pussy in entirely untrue. You just have to slowly work up to it and believe it or not it goes back to it's original size. Remember women have babies that are way bigger than your fist or your cock and they snap back from that.

Hummmm... sounds like Mr. Burk knows of what he speaks! How about it ladies? Is this true? If it is... how long before it... Snaps back???

Like SNL says, I think it’s good to try new things, but...... dam! I'll compare this to going out to eat. I love Steak & Lobster. I catch myself wanting to try new items, so I try the special. While it was good, most of the time I wish I would have ordered the steak and lobster!

BBBJ is about one of the nicest things a man can experience! Add a couple of tongue rings? Lip piercing? I never thought to throw in a bicycle chain to improve the experience! Some things are just wonderful just the way they are! But that’s just me I guess.

[seductivesarah]

i love fetishes...well to a certain degree but i do not knock those i cant hang with. I think they are great for self exploration as well as pleasure. I feel having someone take you to a limit you have never been to before and then receiving pleasure from it or finding pleasure in it is not only good for us sexually but also mentally, new things are always good, u will never know till you try

QuotationsTo have someone give you control of their bodies and minds, to be entrusted with the responsibility to take care of them, to have someone willing to suffer for you, to forsake pride and dignity to please you... what other gift in this world can possibility equate to that? And more importantly, what makes you worthy to receive it?