If I am meeting a newbie I expect the donation set in plain sight right away or handed to me in a card.
*blushing* I love my cards and keep them if they are obviously picked for me but if they are a 10 sec any card I toss them. Once I was given a happy Chanukah card...in July... Lmfao.
I also keep the sweet notes and the little card given to me by Gents that bring flowers. One of my regulars brings me flowers every time and knows I keep the card so he writes a line of a Poem on each one. So far I have 2 1/2 poems worth of cards. I think its sweet.
My advice is do something she will remember you by so she can be a solid reference for a long time. 2 roses, flowers, chocolate, a book,nuts (hi David
) a note,a short poem,a doodle...on her envelope, or something like that. She well be bound to remember you that way, I have been in the hobby for years and I still remember a doodle someone drew on my envelope of 2 cherries from one if my very first dates ever. If you have an average date and all if you don't do something awesome or terrible she may forget you haha. I vote on the awesome side. There is once gent all of us ladies know him as the red silk boxer guy, he ALWAYS wears them, how can you forget that?