Ladies: Has an angry wife ever called you?

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by alluringava

I'm not the one concerned about infidelity. My point was that I understood her anger but she had no right to threaten me, harass me

I think You are right!
And given this understanding I can see better now where you come from, and I think after all these threats and happenings your response was appropriate.
I understand better than you might think where this comes from. I have been in similar shoes under different circumstances, and my reactions were similar to yours. Maybe , considering my then-reaction, as justified as it might have been back then, I was "overly" protective about the "other persons" POV. Because yours was just too similar to mine in many regards, and your post was - I assume - mainly written in anger, so the fact, that you have indeed been sympathetic first,
might have slipped the general impression I got. Again, I am sorry, I did not mean to offend you.

These threats are indeed dangerous and gross, no matter how shocked she was. But I am sure the husband contributed to that behaviour. Freakin`clients always try to save their asses first, so MAYBE he told her something that triggered that overly idiotic response, because she thought you must be "on to him".

I am sorry if I misjudged your reaction at first. I thought she just "binge-called" you a hundred times because she was not satisfied with the reaction she got, and wanted more answers.

But that (no words...)

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

The totally irresponsible one here is you, Nina. Trying to over-psychoanalyze this incident with your limited knowledge of psychology.

Actively searching fights again with me, Charles?? My friend London is not here anymore, not my friend Naomi so often anymore, who you usually insult or make threads about, so you have to finally resort to insulting me (you know better about my knowledge of psychology, so don`t try to pretend your intentions are "civil" .....).

Are you not bored already? Just stop pooping in my threads and pooping at me. No matter whatever it is I am saying you will always insult and poop against me. Just go get a life....

Done here!

[Staci's Sugar]

Hi I'm staci and I had one call last week so when I asked who her husband was she got all mad and told me like you don't know your skipping with him . Oh well lol

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by ninasastri

Actively searching fights again with me, Charles?? My friend London is not here anymore, not my friend Naomi so often anymore, who you usually insult or make threads about, so you have to finally resort to insulting me (you know better about my knowledge of psychology, so don`t try to pretend your intentions are "civil" .....).

Are you not bored already? Just stop pooping in my threads and pooping at me. No matter whatever it is I am saying you will always insult and poop against me. Just go get a life....

Done here!

I don't know why he constantly pick fights with us for no reason.
I've come to realize it's either boredom or infatuation so now I just ignore the snide jabs/attacks and only respond to his positive remarks. Remember these people don't know you and those that do, you. That's all that matters :hugs:.

Z

[pyramider]

I like it when wives call me . . . it usually means I get to have sex. Even better when they catch their hubbies, revenge sex is so goooooood.

[Budman]

Originally Posted by alluringava

I was just discussing this with a gentleman about why my number is restricted when I call clients back.


Some time ago, apparently a man's wife found my number on his cell ( and another girl's number) and started calling and calling and calling. I mean at least 40 times. I answered the phone and tried to be polite about it, but she called me all the foulest names in the book and it was like, lady, why don't you go yell at your husband?!

She would not stop bothering me and finally I said, " You know, I can see why your husband wanted to see escorts. If you would just shut up and suck his dick more often, that might be the solution to his infidelity. "

She stopped calling.

IMO this response sucks. Have you ever heard the expression "deny, deny, deny"? It sounds like this guy is in the middle of some deep shit with his SO. You have no idea what he has told her and instead of keeping your mouth shut you give her ammo to kill him. Your response is kind of funny for a story but if this was your actual reply then you blew it.

[Missy Mariposa]

I got a PM on another board from a wife once from a regular client's handle. It went something like this:

Is this site real? Did you sleep with my husband? We have a small child. Please tell me the truth.

I replied "You need to speak to your husband". She PMed everyone he had reviewed. He made a couple posts after that, then his user title changed to "in the dog house" and we never heard from him again.

[Naomi4u]

I have to agree with the others. Do some of you not understand that these men have probably been married for year and years with kids. I wouldn't dare jeopardize a client's relationship with his wife like this. If one of my clients get a divorce, I don't want to be the reason. I understand Ava going off the way she did but for me, I would have said "I'm sorry I just bought this phone yesterday, you've got the wrong girl" or activated call block on my phone. It's not our place to get involved.

[Guest081115-1]

Originally Posted by ZarahAdams

I have to agree with the others. Do some of you not understand that these men have probably been married for year and years with kids. I wouldn't dare jeopardize a client's relationship with his wife like this. If one of my clients get a divorce, I don't want to be the reason. I understand Ava going off the way she did but for me, I would said "I'm sorry I just bought this phone yesterday, you've got the wrong girl" or activated call block on my phone. It's not our place to get involved.

I agreed with you. That was how I handled my situation. she texted me. "Did I slept with her husband" I replied.."What? I do not know you or your husband" She kept on texting a few more messages.. I honestly did not remember him or his real name. LOL!
But I spent a small fee to have my number changed and hide my number as "private" Only my regular client had my number.

[ck1942]

Some interesting discourse above....

imho, there is no "perfect" way to handle the angered s.o.

Denial on the first call is quite plausible, but after that best to try to ignore the calls and, of course, if you can figure out the male role model, let him know his s.o is on his case (and yours).

After that, best, I think to try to manage or ignore incoming calls or texts. Mark the incoming number as "trouble" and hit the reject button immediately.

You can, of course, complain to your phone company about the harassing calls or texts, or, if you can figure out the caller's phone company, complain there.

Would that there be an "app" that would forward such calls to the cops or to 9-1-1 and show as coming from the caller's phone. But until that happens....

One (definitely) juvenile response would be to put the caller's phone number up on backpage.com as an escort with cheap rates and outrageous services and let them deal with the incoming flood of calls. j/k of course!

As an aside, I personally consider most providers as "therapists" who have preserved many a marriage. But that's my own personal view, of course, amd subject to great debate by non-believers.

[Roothead]

Sorry.... but married men do this with the knowledge that they might screw up and the SO gets involved.... shit happens I guess.... that said, denial, for all parties would logically be the preferred course... but given what AA indicated she went through, I think she as totally justified...

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by Budman

IMO this response sucks. Have you ever heard the expression "deny, deny, deny"? It sounds like this guy is in the middle of some deep shit with his SO. You have no idea what he has told her and instead of keeping your mouth shut you give her ammo to kill him. Your response is kind of funny for a story but if this was your actual reply then you blew it.

I have to defend Ava here. If this guy is in some deep shit with his SO, then he should have had the guts to tell his SO the truth, which he most certainbly clearly didn`t, AND he should have protected Ava from the outfall of his immaturity. I mean keepintg privders numbers on cell phones? Who does that? And if wife knew Ava was just a provider he had casual meetings with, I am pretty sure she would not have binge called Ava and threatened her. No one, not even a wife in pain, freaks out that much over a provider. So, chances are that the hubby told wife some crazy story on how Ava wants to get into a relationship witzh him, and he refused. Many married men act like that, when people find numbers on their phones. He4 sure did not admit he intentionally saw Ava. Probably blamed all on her. Because trust me, no one, reacts like such a psycho, if he got normal and comprehensible explanations of the "oh it was just sex" level.
Nina

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by ck1942

As an aside, I personally consider most providers as "therapists" who have preserved many a marriage. But that's my own personal view, of course, amd subject to great debate by non-believers.

I agree, and there are plenty of historical and sociological facts that support that notion. The whole workld of the providers we live in is based on marriage and the fact that cheating has to be done secretely.

[Sweet N Little]

Ive always had a back up plan if I was caught off guard, since I used to work in the"blank" industry ..I could say. " I work for a so and so company, he could have my number from that. Otherwise I don't have a clue..sorry I couldn't be of more help .

A friend of mine said she would say "I ran an ad for a "whatever" and have gotten so many replies I don't recall that name.


Deny,Deny,Deny..

[SlowHand50]

Originally Posted by Sweet N Little

Ive always had a back up plan if I was caught off guard, since I used to work in the"blank" industry ..I could say. " I work for a so and so company, he could have my number from that. Otherwise I don't have a clue..sorry I couldn't be of more help .

A friend of mine said she would say "I ran an ad for a "whatever" and have gotten so many replies I don't recall that name.


Deny,Deny,Deny..

Excellent answer . . . and strategy . . .