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Old 09-26-2018, 07:43 AM   #1
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Talking Do you ever feel judged by people for your fetish ?

Do you ever feel judged by people for your particular fetish ???

Either Real world or hobby ??. I do.

I know - some of you tough guys and girls will just say

SCREW WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK !!!! but there does come a time where some of us do some self- evaluation and think - ok - am I normal ?

Is this normal ? Does this mean I'm somehow damaged on the inside ?

Hopefully not and probably not.... I just wondered and would love your feedback here...
I'm a Switch and I enjoy both the Sub role as well as the Sensual Dom role

as well as different kinds of role play and

Severe severe dirty talk ! Dirty talk that is so severe that most people don't do it.

Maybe that is the one I worry about.... haha !

Am I screwed up ? haha !

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Old 09-26-2018, 09:41 AM   #2
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oh hun, you like what you like. be proud. be brave, be nasty as fuck. screw the judgmental people. they do not have as much fun as we do and their choices are more limited by their diminished capacity for pleasure, imagination and joy. we just have more options. I have no shame. I am super proud perve. ride your fantasies like a wild horse and hold on tight and enjoy the ride baby. we got this corner of the market and we should revel in the nasty reality we share and find joy in it.
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Old 09-26-2018, 09:53 AM   #3
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Yes, I get judged more than I prefer therefore I’m very choosy about who I approach with my fetishes and how I explain it!

On the other hand, I’m VERY grateful when I find a provider who can indulge me! They generally understand how powerful fetishes can be for a person.
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Old 09-26-2018, 09:58 AM   #4
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I do worry about what providers think so I tend to restrain what I ask for and stay pretty vanilla with my sessions.

I know I need to let go of that. In the times that I have opened even just a bit there are times that the results have often been great.
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Old 09-26-2018, 11:04 AM   #5
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100% - even with providers (including those I have seen more than once as well as ones I have an extremely high % chance of never seeing again due to location/travel), I still feel judged.

Some of this is purely internal, I simply cannot get past the thought that the provider (or providers on those occasions I get to experience a double) leave the session and in minimum silently judge me or more overtly judge me verbally with other providers.

I do try and stick to known providers, but finding one who I really like and is experienced in my particular fetish is tough...my current favorite is not local so I must wait for her travel and even then it’s hard to coordinate with work and other personal commitments.
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Old 09-26-2018, 11:49 AM   #6
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I'm so glad I asked this - these comments are GREAT !

You all help me ! Hugs ! ( hopefully more comments will come
too ) ....
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Old 09-26-2018, 12:19 PM   #7
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Yes. Now I’m super careful about what and with whom I share.

In a RW relarionship i asked her to kiss me after I came in her mouth. She told me that was gay, got dressed and left. That was the last time we saw each other. I rationalized it that she was too closed minded to make it long term, but it hurt deeply.
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Old 09-26-2018, 02:19 PM   #8
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I've had a few providers tell me about weird fetishes clients have asked for. But then again what's weird to one person is normal to another. I kind of play it by ear if I want something g outside of the norm and see how the session is going before I ask. Nothing to crazy personally
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Old 09-26-2018, 03:38 PM   #9
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Meh..since I started hobbying and doing the SB thing, I've stretched the envelope of anything I thought I'd ever do... did the TS thing a few times. Even just straight up cock sucking off of Craigslist and BP before they went away.

And to think it all started with a massage with a happy ending... that girl told me about Eccie and then the whole world opened up!

I love women but I'm very orally oriented and enjoy giving head to guys too. I've been pretty open with the last few women I've been with and they were pretty shocked at first but I guess I'm a good enough catch that they were either OK with me doing it occasionally as long as they knew or they asked me to not do it.

I enjoy what I enjoy and if people have heartburn with it... f'ck'em. Who are they to me anyway? I don't think you're damaged on the inside for enjoying something that turns other people off. You're only damaged if you feel that way or if you are hurting others with your desires.
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Old 09-26-2018, 03:40 PM   #10
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Yes. Now I’m super careful about what and with whom I share.

In a RW relarionship i asked her to kiss me after I came in her mouth. She told me that was gay, got dressed and left. That was the last time we saw each other. I rationalized it that she was too closed minded to make it long term, but it hurt deeply.
And if that RW relationship had gone anywhere... you would have been bored out of your fucking mind in bed... Better she put the gun to it's head early than prolong the suffering.
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Old 09-26-2018, 04:42 PM   #11
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And if that RW relationship had gone anywhere... you would have been bored out of your fucking mind in bed... Better she put the gun to it's head early than prolong the suffering.
I agree. I just choose who I share with. I have also made it a point to not associate with people that are not of like mind.
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Old 09-26-2018, 08:33 PM   #12
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I've worried about it but honestly was hoping to meet people on here to explore more things. Now I see it's not that the desires are lacking , we're all just to concerned w/judgmental people.. I guess this is why I try to never judge even if I don't understand or am not into the same things.
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Old 09-26-2018, 09:58 PM   #13
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I thank all the providers I have seen in the past, teaching me that it's ok to be freeky.

I use all the information I have learned in my dating life. Most time it weeds out civi women.
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Old 09-27-2018, 11:38 AM   #14
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... Am I screwed up ?

Zena.
No. You sound pretty normal to me.
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Old 09-27-2018, 03:47 PM   #15
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Meh..since I started hobbying and doing the SB thing, I've stretched the envelope of anything I thought I'd ever do... did the TS thing a few times. Even just straight up cock sucking off of Craigslist and BP before they went away.

And to think it all started with a massage with a happy ending... that girl told me about Eccie and then the whole world opened up!

I love women but I'm very orally oriented and enjoy giving head to guys too. I've been pretty open with the last few women I've been with and they were pretty shocked at first but I guess I'm a good enough catch that they were either OK with me doing it occasionally as long as they knew or they asked me to not do it.

I enjoy what I enjoy and if people have heartburn with it... f'ck'em. Who are they to me anyway? I don't think you're damaged on the inside for enjoying something that turns other people off. You're only damaged if you feel that way or if you are hurting others with your desires.

You sounds YUMMY!!!!
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