Consideration for the betrayed wife

[Loonygirl]

Just wondered if any providers considered NOT having sex with married gentlemen? My best friend found out her hubby cheated with an escort, and it totally ruined her life. She is a beautiful, loving woman whose husband got addicted to porn and took it to the next level, and she doesn't deserve the pain and devastation this has brought on her and her children. It was totally wrong for said hubby to betray her this way, but I wondered if providers ever think about the damage they do to others with their sexual dalliances with married men. It is really sad that women care so little about the hearts of others as to help break them.

[wreckshop]

I'm sure 0% of them give a shit.

the number may rise to 20% giving a shit if their client continuously throws out his moral hang-ups about the situation.

the number may rise to 30% if the client does the aforementioned but consistently claims that he loves his wife.

[watchoutthegameisrigged]

Providers keep a hell of a lot more marriages together than they break up. Most of the married men here are here because their wives don't give a damn anymore about their sex life at home. And leave their men wanting.

[pyramider]

Originally Posted by Loonygirl

Just wondered if any providers considered NOT having sex with married gentlemen? My best friend found out her hubby cheated with an escort, and it totally ruined her life. She is a beautiful, loving woman whose husband got addicted to porn and took it to the next level, and she doesn't deserve the pain and devastation this has brought on her and her children. It was totally wrong for said hubby to betray her this way, but I wondered if providers ever think about the damage they do to others with their sexual dalliances with married men. It is really sad that women care so little about the hearts of others as to help break them.

Loony, I recommend that your friend look in the mirror ... Read the following linck...

http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?...&highlight=psa

The providers provide a service that is many cases is not being met at home. Read the linck above and comment on the original post and comments. I thinck you will understand things better at that point.

[Guest123018]

Originally Posted by watchoutthegameisrigged

Providers keep a hell of a lot more marriages together than they break up.

Agreed watchout


I could tell the hurt wife
and her husband/client how to
keep things exciting and 100 at
home but why would i cut my
own throat?
I'm an escort not a marriage
counselor.
The hurt wife has a problem
w/her husband not anyone on
this board.

Providers do not break up marriages
the two parties married are in
control of that

[dj8rocks]

It's another example that if wives and girlfriends were taking care of business at home, strippers and hookers would be out of business.

[Loonygirl]

Well, this situation, I can promise, was not like that. I am watching this family grieve over what this has done. My friend was there for her sexually in any way. His addiction to porn made any normal woman unsatisfying, and he sought the risky sex of a prostitute. When the wife found out and this threw the marriage into a tailspin, this man was broken. I have never seen anything so sad. It was HIS fault for doing that to his wife, and I know he regrets it every day. It is just a shame that paid sex is so easily accessible, especially through facebook and instagram. That is how this man got involved.

[Loonygirl]

And I get what you are saying about some wives not doing right, etc...but it isn't always true and you mustn't judge. If seeing a provider is all that is holding a marriage together, it would be better to be broken apart. Cheating is never right. If you don't want your wife, leave her. Get another wife (or pay for sex, whatever).
And it IS the man's fault, but does it mean that his "affair partner" has no accountability? We are all a part of society, and, when families fall apart, everyone suffers. Put whatever philosophy you like on it, I can never view the affair partner as blameless when the "lifeblood" of the marriage is on her hands, too. Even if you don't like it, these wronged families have faces, have hearts, and it is very wrong to discount their suffering.

[Still Looking]

Originally Posted by Loonygirl

Just wondered if any providers considered NOT having sex with married gentlemen? My best friend found out her hubby cheated with an escort, and it totally ruined her life. She is a beautiful, loving woman whose husband got addicted to porn and took it to the next level, and she doesn't deserve the pain and devastation this has brought on her and her children. It was totally wrong for said hubby to betray her this way, but I wondered if providers ever think about the damage they do to others with their sexual dalliances with married men. It is really sad that women care so little about the hearts of others as to help break them.

Its simple... hookers don't have hearts.

[BBW Katrina]

There's an icebox where my heart used to be...

[Loonygirl]

Originally Posted by BBW Katrina

There's an icebox where my heart used to be...

Well, I guess that must be true in order to allow providers to sleep at night, but it is very sad. Maybe some of them are so jaded that they no longer care. I get it. But it would be nice to know that some humanity was lurking in there somewhere. If people don't care about what they do to each other, what kind of world are we creating for ourselves? I'm sorry, but what the providers do DOES matter. If they want to do it, that is their business, but I just wish they would confine it to singles. Married people should not be with providers. If they are unsatisfied in their marriages, they should work on them or leave. Providers should not let themselves be a crutch that allows brokenness and poison to seep into families and homes. I know they don't care, but I think they will come to regret it one day. If they could look into my friend's tear-filled eyes, I know they would...

[RALPHEY BOY]

Loonygirl I have wondered this too. How you married guys risk to much for just some pussy?? ..

If your marriage sucks divorce her!! and fuk any and everything you want!!

issue is 80% of guys here are married so if you choose to do this, you have to encompass all because us Single Guys cannot keep your busy enough.,.

[Fast Gunn]

From what I have seen, a provider already has a difficult enough life without you trying to hang an unjustified guilt trip on her head.

Any man who strays from his wife already has unresolved issues and the provider he sees is only a means of release not the cause.

. . .If your friend is as beautiful as you say then she should not have much problem finding someone else who would be satisfied with what she has to offer. Both parties must be satisfied for a marriage to work and that is why the majority of marriages do not work out.

Originally Posted by Loonygirl

Just wondered if any providers considered NOT having sex with married gentlemen? My best friend found out her hubby cheated with an escort, and it totally ruined her life. She is a beautiful, loving woman whose husband got addicted to porn and took it to the next level, and she doesn't deserve the pain and devastation this has brought on her and her children. It was totally wrong for said hubby to betray her this way, but I wondered if providers ever think about the damage they do to others with their sexual dalliances with married men. It is really sad that women care so little about the hearts of others as to help break them.

[pyramider]

Originally Posted by Loonygirl

Well, this situation, I can promise, was not like that. I am watching this family grieve over what this has done. My friend was there for her sexually in any way. His addiction to porn made any normal woman unsatisfying, and he sought the risky sex of a prostitute. When the wife found out and this threw the marriage into a tailspin, this man was broken. I have never seen anything so sad. It was HIS fault for doing that to his wife, and I know he regrets it every day. It is just a shame that paid sex is so easily accessible, especially through facebook and instagram. That is how this man got involved.

IF she was truly available how would he have the time and energy to become addicted to porn. You do not know if she was there. Saying it and being it are two different things. IF he did become addicted to porn wouldn't going after the porn industry be a more accurate target?

Originally Posted by Loonygirl

And I get what you are saying about some wives not doing right, etc...but it isn't always true and you mustn't judge. If seeing a provider is all that is holding a marriage together, it would be better to be broken apart. Cheating is never right. If you don't want your wife, leave her. Get another wife (or pay for sex, whatever).
And it IS the man's fault, but does it mean that his "affair partner" has no accountability? We are all a part of society, and, when families fall apart, everyone suffers. Put whatever philosophy you like on it, I can never view the affair partner as blameless when the "lifeblood" of the marriage is on her hands, too. Even if you don't like it, these wronged families have faces, have hearts, and it is very wrong to discount their suffering.

IF your friend actually did her part in the relationship, I said IF, then she should ditch the dumbass. I do not thinck you read my PSA in the linck. Seeing an escort and having an affair are two different things. Seeing an escort is fantasy and usually no emotional connection. An affair is an ongoing RELATIONSHIP. One is physical, the affair is physical and emotional. Your argument loses its steam when you go off the tracks.

A man makes a decision, there are actions/reactions/consequences to those decisions. The providers do not really care why a man is contacting them. They actually have cards in the game of the man's relationship. Thincking the providers should do anything beyond what they already do is a mistake on your part.

Remember it takes two people to create and maintain a relationship. Sex and intimacy are a part of the relationship. Once that is gone the rest starts to crumble much like a road that falls into disrepair. You may thinck you were there sexually for him, but were you? Really? If you were really doing your part, which I tend to doubt, dump him. The only damage done is by the man and his wife because neither of them really considered the consequences of their actions. Mirrors are tough to really look at...

[pyramider]

Originally Posted by RALPHEY BOY

Loonygirl I have wondered this too. How you married guys risk to much for just some pussy?? ..

If your marriage sucks divorce her!! and fuk any and everything you want!!

issue is 80% of guys here are married so if you choose to do this, you have to encompass all because us Single Guys cannot keep your busy enough.,.

A lot of times its cheaper to keep her. Women when they feel hurt lash out. It is seen in divorces every day. Not settling for 50% of the assets, they feel the need to go after more and more and more.