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Zabrina Sarafina · 05-18-2013, 12:58 AM

Now I'll be honest here and admit I don't feel compelled to do this on a regular basis, so when I do meet someone that makes me feel all mushy and emotional after our date, I have to send them a cute lil thank you note, it's the least I can do.

So my question for you I guess is...how do you like to be thanked as in written, what words do you like to hear.... I think I'm a pretty decent writer except when I'm feeling over emotional, then all I can say or write is that's great, you're fantastic, this is lovely, pretty limited vocabulary lol!

How do you thank someone for blowing your mind for giving you one of the best dates of your hobby life? How do you express that? As an Aries, we're just not comfortable in expressing the full depth of our feelings, even though we feel deeply. It's hard

I wish we as providers could write the gentlemen reviews!

pyramider · 05-18-2013, 04:46 AM

You can review the fucktards. boardman in Houston is the most reviewed fucktard on icky.

Just send a simple text, and be honest. Also, allow the fucktard to be gone at least 15 minutes or he may want to come right back to you.

oden · 05-18-2013, 05:17 AM

Include an example of the behavior you admired in the message. That way the recipient knows its not just a routine thank you but personalized to them.

Old-T · 05-18-2013, 09:50 AM

Anything honest and personal is greatly valued. If I write one I always mention something specific, even if just what she wore or something she said.

As to reviewing a guy, if that is the best way to express your thoughts, do so and just send it to him.

evietaylor · 05-18-2013, 10:04 AM

If the rendezvous went well, I always send a "thank you" email unless, the gentleman beats me to it. When I say 'it went well', that doesn't necessarily mean he blew my mind, it means he's safe, clean, respectful, & deserves a reference. I'm all about safety so, I make it clear that he can use me as a reference & having a reputable ref is the best thing he can have in this hobby. If he did blow my mind, of course, I tell him.

There are occasionally a few guys who don't get a thank you from me & there's usually a good reason for that. Doesn't mean I won't give them a reference (he's not LE), but doesn't mean I'd see them again either.

A few months ago I sent a gent a thank you & he said it was the first thank you email he had received in 3 hears of hobbying. I was floored. I've heard some ladies say they think it's the patron's responsibility to send the thank you for servicing them. Personally, I think that's absurd. These guys are gifting us with their hard earned money. Give them a little thanks for pete's sake.

Zabrina Sarafina · 05-18-2013, 12:03 PM

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Originally Posted by evietaylor

These guys are gifting us with their hard earned money. Give them a little thanks for pete's sake.

Yes..that too not only do you get your mind blown but actually paid for the dream date! I always feel I'm living a life that's too good for me. I never want it to end. These guys are the reason I am so passionate about it

pyramider · 05-18-2013, 12:07 PM

If words escape you just send a taint photo as thancks.

plainjoe · 05-18-2013, 05:13 PM

Any note from a lady is appreciated. I always send a note of thanks to the ladies, but at times, the ladies beat me to the note. Based on Evie's input, I will have to read the notes more carefully and read between the lines. However, most of my sessions go well because I do my due diligence and do my research.

Ed Highlight · 05-18-2013, 08:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Zabrina Sarafina

Now I'll be honest here and admit I don't feel compelled to do this on a regular basis, so when I do meet someone that makes me feel all mushy and emotional after our date, I have to send them a cute lil thank you note, it's the least I can do.

So my question for you I guess is...how do you like to be thanked as in written, what words do you like to hear.... How do you thank someone for blowing your mind for giving you one of the best dates of your hobby life? How do you express that?...

The proper words are "Thanks Ed, next one is on me!!".....That'll do it.

RedLeg505 · 05-18-2013, 08:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Zabrina Sarafina

Yes..that too not only do you get your mind blown but actually paid for the dream date! I always feel I'm living a life that's too good for me. I never want it to end. These guys are the reason I am so passionate about it

I always try to send a thank you note to a provider I've had a session with. Maybe I'm just lucky but every session I've had since finding the hobby community has be good enough to deserve a sincere THANK YOU from me.

I realize I paid for the time, but if it was a good session and I'm grateful for the experience, a simple note to say it isn't all that difficult to write.

On two occasions I got beat to the note by the provider, but in almost every case, the provider was as much fun to chat with after as she was during the session.

So, a thank you note from the Provider wouldn't put me off in the least, but I like to be the one to send it if I can beat them to it.

awl4knot · 05-19-2013, 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Zabrina Sarafina

Now I'll be honest here and admit I don't feel compelled to do this on a regular basis, so when I do meet someone that makes me feel all mushy and emotional after our date, I have to send them a cute lil thank you note, it's the least I can do.

So my question for you I guess is...how do you like to be thanked as in written, what words do you like to hear.... I think I'm a pretty decent writer except when I'm feeling over emotional, then all I can say or write is that's great, you're fantastic, this is lovely, pretty limited vocabulary lol!

How do you thank someone for blowing your mind for giving you one of the best dates of your hobby life? How do you express that? As an Aries, we're just not comfortable in expressing the full depth of our feelings, even though we feel deeply. It's hard

I wish we as providers could write the gentlemen reviews!

You've expressed the dilemma quite well. Writing a thank you note that contains genuine feelings of thanks and appreciation but does not cross the line to become emotionally obvious is very, very difficult, perhaps even impossible. The result is a string of cliches that reads like a string of cliches. The result is a poor note that fulfills the requirements of good manners but doesn't advance the cause of a better relationship.

Part of the problem may be is that you (and others) may not really know what they want to express. Do you really want to him to know that you've experience real emotion (yes, infatuation is an emotion, albeit shallow and fleeting) from what is supposed to be an emotionally cool but sexually hot endeavor? Do you want to subtly intrigue him and inflame his ego so he comes back quickly; thereby satisfying your needs, but maybe creating an attachment that will create problems when your ardor fades?. Of course, you realize that the opposite can occur: you could frighten him and lose him as customer.

I've experienced this when a very erudite provider wrote a thank you note that I thought was a bit too much but she hid her feelings enough in her elegant and funny prose that I forgot about it and saw her a second time. But the second session still had an emotional content that I am not inclined to deal with and I doubt that I will see her again.

But the other shoe was on my foot lately. A current favorite told me she is moving in a few months. I thought my emotions were limited to a fondness for her, but the news jolted me far more than I expected. I was going to send her an email expressing my dismay, but I decided not to do so. When she goes, I'll send a note of cliches and leave it at that. This is what happens in our ambiguous demimonde.