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BrookeButtons · 10-19-2011, 10:05 AM

This has happen to me a few times, so I figured I would ask the gents a little more about this, it also ties in with what I believe should be good TCB skills on the gents part (yes men, you all should have good TCB skills as well as us, or at lease don't bitch about a ladies when yours are just as bad) since TCB skills has been brought up a lot lately a long with what is the proper time to respond back to a gentlemen about if a lady is busy or not etc.

Once you have decided to see a lady (one you have never seen before) how to do handle setting up an initial appointment? Do you plan/allow time for screening? Or do you hope that the lady won't screen you and just say sure come on over?

I only ask because this happened this past Sunday and it made me wonder.

Break it down; I got an email from ECCIE stating that a member sent me an email message around 3:30ish-4. (I was available until 5pm that day). I respond within 5 minutes stating that with my schedule for the day, and screening process (never seen the man before) I wouldn't be able to screen and see him that day like he wished. I asked if he would like to go ahead with my screening process (simple, 2 refs required) so this way later in the week or on another weekend in the urge of wanting to see me, we could just set up.

All to get no response. I even sent a friendly email Monday asking if he wanted to go ahead and be prescreened so this wouldn't happen in the future.
To me this just reinstates that TCB skills should not just be judge on the ladies part, yes we are running a business, but we aren't the only ones that sometimes have no TCB skills. Simple thanks but no thanks go a long ways. To me now the person that started communication with me has me left not really in a rush to respond to further contact from him.

Don't get me wrong, I am not losing any sleep over this. I just wondered if most of you prefer to be prescreened or if you even take the screening process into play? I get that in the heat of the moment the last thing you're thinking about is "who can vouch for me and quick so I can see this lady a.s.a.p.!". So let’s have it gents…

guest032013 · 10-19-2011, 10:21 AM

Some people are spontaneous Others like planning. Sounds like some impulsive behavior, which must be agreeable to both players for it to work

Peace

offshoredrilling · 10-19-2011, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by whosdair

Some people are spontaneous Others like planning. Sounds like some impulsive behavior, which must be agreeable to both players for it to work

Peace

He still should pm or email back. just sayin

I fall on the spontaneous side myself. hate planning. But its a must shopping on this board for a first time with. Also a must with most providers on the board after the first few time. just the way it is

ConsultantGuy · 10-19-2011, 11:10 AM

I personally like the prescreening. My schedule changes for when I am available, and does not always allow for prompt screening relative to my opportune time to meet. To me any advance planning works in the hobby as well as career and daily lives.

My question to you Brooke (or any other provider) is when I am prescreened but don’t have the opportunity to meet due to either yours and or my schedule – how long does the prescreening last? I have been on the sidelines for a while, but still plan on going back into the game. I would find anyone’s comment on this helpful.

BrookeButtons · 10-19-2011, 11:13 AM

I get wantinig to see someone in the heat of the moment, but with most ladies askiing for references, one would not be able to do in such a short notice as the gent in question did.

I think a simple thanks for letting me know your policy isn't too much too ask for. Since so many gents get their panties in a bunch over a lady not responding back letting them know she is busy or booked

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My question to you Brooke (or any other provider) is when I am prescreened but don’t have the opportunity to meet due to either yours and or my schedule – how long does the prescreening last?

As long as you are screened and a time period goes by and when you finally deciede to set up a meeting with myself, I would just ask if you had any newer references. If you answer no, I'll go based on that. Especially if up front you are honest that your schedule doesn't always allow hobbying and there are gaps in when you have last seen a lady.

Being up front that even though you would love to hobby more often but can't isn't a bad thing. Just like how every year since I have started, I see a gent maybe 1-3 times around Christmas and that is it. It is his only hobby play time. I don't make him be re-screened each year.

offshoredrilling · 10-19-2011, 11:17 AM

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Originally Posted by BrookeButtons

I get wantinig to see someone in the heat of the moment, but with most ladies askiing for references, one would not be able to do in such a short notice as the gent in question did.

I think a simple thanks for letting me know your policy isn't too much too ask for. Since so many gents or gals get their panties in a bunch over a lady not responding back letting them know she is busy or booked

Since so many gents or gals get their panties in a bunch over nothing

ConsultantGuy · 10-19-2011, 11:21 AM

Good to know and thank you Brooke

Crystalaries · 10-19-2011, 11:47 AM

I would have to say that your pre-screening would last for a few months. Once you are ready for the actual appt I would ask if you had any new refs. If not than the initial screening would pan out. Just try and keep some kind of contact during that time.

montana1958 · 10-19-2011, 12:42 PM

Agree that the gent should have responded back to you Brooke. I would put myself in the spontaneous category with my hobby time. Because schedules change and my availability is different most days it is difficult to meet on short notice. I do try and it does happen often. There have been times when I filled out the online application process some girls used. And other times I mention my handle here with the mention of my reviews and tell them to check with anyone I reviewed for a reference. When trying to meet touring girls I give a few names and e-mail addresses when asking to meet and try to communicate with e-mail’s to get to know her a bit.

But here is a question for you Brooke and the other ladies out there. Would someone like myself or other guys here with the reviews listed and active participation on the boards suffice with your reference process. It has happened before for me and some girls checked with who I reviewed to see what type of girl I liked to even tell if I would like to meet her. I thought that was great tcb skills and knowing your market. Or is it asking too much to say check my reviews. There may be girls there I might not mention as a reference that they might actually know. I think I asked this in another thread some time ago and never got an answer.

NYGman · 10-19-2011, 03:01 PM

I was on the other end of that Brooke, and I was prescreened only for a provider to blow me off on a scheduled appointment. I think the least a person can do is communicate to you if they aren't going to follow through. Its just common courtesy and respect.

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Originally Posted by BrookeButtons

This has happen to me a few times, so I figured I would ask the gents a little more about this, it also ties in with what I believe should be good TCB skills on the gents part (yes men, you all should have good TCB skills as well as us, or at lease don't bitch about a ladies when yours are just as bad) since TCB skills has been brought up a lot lately a long with what is the proper time to respond back to a gentlemen about if a lady is busy or not etc.

Once you have decided to see a lady (one you have never seen before) how to do handle setting up an initial appointment? Do you plan/allow time for screening? Or do you hope that the lady won't screen you and just say sure come on over?

I only ask because this happened this past Sunday and it made me wonder.

Break it down; I got an email from ECCIE stating that a member sent me an email message around 3:30ish-4. (I was available until 5pm that day). I respond within 5 minutes stating that with my schedule for the day, and screening process (never seen the man before) I wouldn't be able to screen and see him that day like he wished. I asked if he would like to go ahead with my screening process (simple, 2 refs required) so this way later in the week or on another weekend in the urge of wanting to see me, we could just set up.

All to get no response. I even sent a friendly email Monday asking if he wanted to go ahead and be prescreened so this wouldn't happen in the future.
To me this just reinstates that TCB skills should not just be judge on the ladies part, yes we are running a business, but we aren't the only ones that sometimes have no TCB skills. Simple thanks but no thanks go a long ways. To me now the person that started communication with me has me left not really in a rush to respond to further contact from him.

Don't get me wrong, I am not losing any sleep over this. I just wondered if most of you prefer to be prescreened or if you even take the screening process into play? I get that in the heat of the moment the last thing you're thinking about is "who can vouch for me and quick so I can see this lady a.s.a.p.!". So let’s have it gents…

BrookeButtons · 10-19-2011, 03:51 PM

NY so sorry that happened to you. Communication is key!!! Yes it may take a little spice out of the meeting but to have both parties on the same page is better than to go based on heat of the moment and one party left feeling taken advantage of or left wondering WTH happened!!

Montana-Here is the thing with saying "look at my reviews". Say someone creates a fake email account, one similar to Montana and starts trying to see ladies. The person says he is Montana from ECCIE blah blah blah.... How would the lady know truly that she is speaking with the real Montana?

I remember seeing a while back someone was posing as OSD. And I have had people in the past drop names to me such as I am so and so on this review board to find out that it is a guy that just trying to get by the screening process.

For myself, a lady known for screening, telling me to use reviews as a vouch isn't a problem. In fact, if I am aware of your handle and see you have reviews I like to read them, see what activities you look for that might not be on my menue. Such as CIM(not saying you request this so please take no offense) and then know how to handle it when you spring it on me during the appointment. I'll contact more than 2 ladies, make sure the information that in which you used to set up the appointment is valid and I will also send a PM to the handle to make sure that the owner of the reviews and handle is the one stating "yes!! I did want to visit".

A wonderful provider of Upstate NY once gave me that very advice, when a gentlemen just says he is from this board and gives his handle out, to make sure you send him a PM to double verify he does want to meet. And if he doesn't, well he now knows someone is posing of him.

Lexxxy · 10-19-2011, 04:56 PM

This is a major reason why I prefer to see Gents that write multiple reviews. If one of their most recent references never gets back to me I will still see the Gent because there are plenty of other leads. It just makes screening faster and easier.
If someone has no board presence, never written any reviews, and only BP references I most likely wont see them on the fly and sometimes not at all.
I will admit that sometimes when I use my Droid I lose PMs and don't realize until I am home from work and check on my laptop OR when my inbox is to max capacity and I have to delete PMs and go "Hmmm, I don't remember reading that?!?!" Also if someone writes me something crude or "what can I get for yada yada yada" or just "rates?" I wont bother writing back, I'm not a street walker, I don't except cat calls.

NormalBob · 10-19-2011, 05:45 PM

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Originally Posted by BrookeButtons

In fact, if I am aware of your handle and see you have reviews I like to read them, see what activities you look for that might not be on my menue. Such as CIM(not saying you request this so please take no offense) and then know how to handle it when you spring it on me during the appointment.

Just a slight detour and y'all can stay on your line of thought.

I've always thought of it as my responsibility to find out what the woman's menu is and then play within those lines.

I suspect a whole lot of guys are like me in one regard. We'll do just about anything.

My deal is that I want to do the crazy ass shit with a woman who is into crazy ass shit. It's like trying to put a round peg in a round hole in a manner of speaking.

If the woman isn't enjoying it, I'm not enjoying it.

There is one exceptional woman I won't mention. She knows I like Greek and is there for me even when its not something she really enjoys. I thought I would feel bad doing it anyway but she's pretty great at taking care of needs so it didn't feel like I was pushing where I wasn't wanted.

In short, I guess I wouldn't read too much into what someone has done in other sessions in terms of thinking that's the expectations coming in on meeting you for the first time.

onlyyoungonce · 10-19-2011, 06:08 PM

For me personally, if I've never seen the girl, I always send out an email ahead of when I plan on hoping to see them (at least the day before) just in case there are any screening process and as a feeler to see if they are interested. I actually feel more comfortable with girls that do some sort of screening.

I'm a person of habit and I like structure, so I never "spontaneously" decide I'm going to try and see somebody. But on the other hand, it seems like a lot of girls run on "spontaneous" types of operations and I wonder if they'll even acknowledge or remember if we did set something up. I love it when I show up and they seem organized and fully expecting me and I'd say it's about half the time that happens. So I'd say both for providers and clients it's about 50/50 for those who are spontaneous and those that are structured. Different personalities.

BrookeButtons · 10-19-2011, 06:56 PM

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In short, I guess I wouldn't read too much into what someone has done in other sessions in terms of thinking that's the expectations coming in on meeting you for the first time.

Reading multiple reviews can give a sense. If every review they write, they enjoyed DATY...chances are the gent is going to want DATY.

All that was ment by my comment is that if 9 out of 10 reviews have CIM on it, chances are that guy is gonna want to do CIM with me.... A lady can get a feel for how/what the appointment will go based on past reviews.