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pjs2010 · 03-04-2011, 06:55 AM

Alright, so at the risk of coming across in a pathetic light I wanted to pose this question here so both sides could respond. I wouldn't say I have seen a ton of providers but have seen several. The majority of the time I have left wanting more. I would put the blame for that all on me because I've had a hard time shaking the nerves once I get in the room. I build up a lot of ideas of what "I'm going to do this time, and then always sort of chicken out. Have planned on hour stays and multiple rounds and bolted after the initial go. Some of the reasoning for that has been disappointment that the provider didn't look more like the pics or I didn't feel a click. Either way those could be excuses.

But here is the question: if I know what I want is that something I should ask up front to see if the provider is down for? I'm not looking for extreme stuff. I would describe here but not sure of the rules of this forum. So, how do I make it happen to fulfill those dreams?

guest010313 · 03-04-2011, 09:26 AM

Be open about what you want. You have a better chance to have the experience you desire if you say something. Most of us aren't psychic lol.

pjs2010 · 03-04-2011, 10:28 AM

Haha, very true. When is the time to bring it up? On the phone? When I arrive?

MsElena · 03-04-2011, 11:07 AM

Maybe you could post something in the locker room and see what type of response you get from the guys. They might be able to steer you in the right direction if they have an idea.

Most ladies won't discuss what happens during a session beforehand.

guest010313 · 03-04-2011, 11:11 AM

Entirely dependent on the provider. Some women do not want to talk about that before they are in front of you, some are comfortable chatting over email, some over the phone. Again, be as communicative as possible. When you contact a provider let them know that you have a particular "scene" in mind and ask if they would be comfortable discussing it before the appointment.

Wizard of Ahhhhs · 03-04-2011, 11:14 AM

As we all know, the time to NOT ask those types of intimately detailed questions is in the initial contact, before you are properly screened. You'll end up with a click and a dial tone on the other end of the line.

If you do MOST of your own homework ahead of time, through looking at her ads, her web site, other people's reviews, etc., you're going to have a pretty decent idea of what's on the table, so to speak, and what's not.

And remember, just because a lady might provide one type of service for one gentleman doesn't mean she'll do it for anybody. Most important acronym to remember... YMMV.

Once you see a provider and she "gets comfortable" with you, your options may compound exponentially. That comfortability factor may take 5 visits, or it may only take just 5 minutes. That's her call. Until then, be patient, be cautious, and be courteous.

My 2 cents...

Play safely...!

Longermonger · 03-04-2011, 10:35 PM

Give us a hint. Do you want to be pegged? Do you want her to wear pigtails? Do you have a foot fetish? Golden shower? Greek? Want to turn all the lights off? 69?

Maybe you want to role play. Is that it? You're the college professor and she wants an 'A' reeeeeal bad.

KCQuestor · 03-06-2011, 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Longermonger

Maybe you want to role play. Is that it? You're the college professor and she wants an 'A' reeeeeal bad.

I did that once. Then three months later I was giving a guest lecture to a sophomore class and she was in the front row. Freaked me right out.. at first. Fueled some nice fantasies for a while after.