so...what if I like you?

[quest4sin]

Seems to me that a quick text of thanks etc... is just a good business practice. I mean, I would know what it is (business) and would respect it as just that plus who doesn't like a little ego boost business or not.

Anyway, could and probably is a slippery slope but if it makes you feel good and he matches your pace, I say text away

[bartipero]

Looks like everyone has an opinion, so here's mine. It's okay to contact a guy you clicked with, but if it were me I would be flattered, but would be suspicious it was just marketing until shown otherwise. I disagree with those who say it's a bad idea, but do think it requires real caution so neither misreads the situation. I'm only going to believe it if the next step is 'no charge' and no ongoing expectations. The charge or a markdown negates any genuineness.

Ask if he's interested in hanging out and simply make it clear it's 'no strings attached', just personal interest. Guys are direct so you have to be, too, though you can be tactful. Then in that process make it clear that if you want to play it's still NSA and 'no charge.' From there it's mutual which may mean you can't always do that.

Tact, trust & communication is the key here to relationship management, but you will have to read him and both be clear on that. He doesn't want a burden, to feel obligated, or be marketed or a girlfriend. You don't want taken advantage of, a boyfriend or a psycho or maybe a regular thing. If you lose a client or have to walk away, then fine, that's the breaks. I've had the situation of being invited for me not money. I didn't take it serious and was suspicious as to whether it was just marketing and wondered until in the course of inviting me out she said, "Oh, I don't mean for money or anything like that."

[BigMikeinKC]

Remember there is a difference between a PM and a text. Never text a client unless he gives a specific okay.

A simple PM of had a "great time, hope to see you again" is nice and lets the guy know you appreciate him.

A PM out of the blue, not so much.

Recently I received a PM from a visiting provider to whom I responded to her post. A generic question post. The PM was something like "Hi sexy, I'm in town want to play." Having never seen the provider before, I replied with a negative. That type of PM is a turn off at least to me.

[equation]

....so, how did it turn out?

[KCQuestor]

A few years ago I became good friends with a provider. We would meet up for lunch or dinner and a movie sometimes, as friends. Then one night around 10:00 she calls me and asks what I was doing. i told her I was sitting around watching a movie. She asked if she could come over. She did, and we watched a movie and at popcorn and chatted, and then she left.

A few days later she asked me why I didn't make a move with her. I told her that considering our professional relationship, I was never going to "make a move" unless I was willing to pay her or else she told me explicitly that she was off the clock. She thought about that, and it was a good rule for us for the next few months. By then we realized that we weren't right for each other and we stopped seeing each other at all. We are still Facebook friends though.

Short cut: if you have a professional relationship, you have to be clear if you want it to not be professional for a bit.

[bigcockpussylicker]

Originally Posted by KCQuestor

A few days later she asked me why I didn't make a move with her. I told her that considering our professional relationship,

sounds like you missed out on some good/free sex for a while

Originally Posted by KCQuestor

Short cut: if you have a professional relationship, you have to be clear if you want it to not be professional for a bit.

yeah, cause women are always the logical ones, right?
I have a cleaning gal who cleans weekly and if she texted me and wanted to come over and watch movie/eat and then started to do dishes, etc, I'd never say, STOP, we have a professional relationship blah blah blah

cause we don't
she cleans for me, she gets paid,its simple
she wants to come over and hang out and then wants to clean, she can, I'm not making her do a damn thing.
she wants money?she needs to clarify that as we have a "professional relationship" right?

unlike cleaning, girls/guys get horny and "logic" goes out the window.. again, sounds like you missed out on some free sex...
opps

[Guest013121]

Oh yes, cuz free sex is what it's all about....

[i'va biggen]

Originally Posted by Gemma34

Oh yes, cuz free sex is what it's all about....

You betcha, sign me up.....LOL

[lowstress67]

I agree that things have to stay professional to some extent, no matter how much connection there is. I've become close with a couple of providers over the last couple of years, and they give me special rates, sometimes to the extent of me just covering the room and some food and drink for the evening. Freebies get complicated in a hurry, so best to avoid them.

[SexySapphire]

I always have a great time in my appointments... I mean, who doesn't like getting fucked? But sometimes it is extra fun when you have a certain unexplainable connection. I just let them know how great of a time I had and hope they come back for more in the near future.

[Guest013121]

Well I don't get fucked. I do's the fucking!

[JS42]

Originally Posted by Gemma34

Well I don't get fucked. I do's the fucking!

Piggy banking off the title of this thread. I'm starting to like you Gemma, so again, you need to knock this shit off! It's not fair!

[Wizard of Ahhhhs]

Originally Posted by KCQuestor

Short cut: if you have a professional relationship, you have to be clear if you want it to not be professional for a bit.

Been there, done that, KCQ. I can relate... <sigh>

Originally Posted by Gemma34

Well I don't get fucked. I do's the fucking!

Prove it!!

[KCQuestor]

Originally Posted by bigcockpussylicker

sounds like you missed out on some good/free sex for a while

There was plenty of good free sex later, after I cleared up my expectations.

This wasn't the first time something like this came up, but the reverse has also. I've told the story here, and some guys on the board know it, but there was a time I was at a party and I was messing around with a girl that I knew was a provider. But as this was just a casual party with a bunch of other people, I didn't think anything of it when she started blowing me. But then when it was done she said I owed her money.

Another time I took a provider to a party where there were a lot of other providers. We were friends and hung out a lot, but I always paid her if we had sex. We split up and I fooled around with another woman, while her partner was with my friend. After, I went to pay the woman and she declined, saying this was just a fun night for her. I realized that meant her partner wouldn't be paying my friend -- so I did. I said it was from the other guy, but I wasn't going to let her work for free when she didn't know the situation.

If the lady is a professional I will never initiate sex unless I am willing to pay for it.

[bigcockpussylicker]

Originally Posted by Gemma34

Oh yes, cuz free sex is what it's all about....

seeing as they are now facebook friends and that's it, free sex would have been memorable at least..

or enlighten us, us the guys on the hooker board, what is it all about??