Likinikki and JJ are wise.
I've been struggling with the issue for some time. A better condom helps but isn't the complete solution. I personally learned the type of lube used makes a difference as well. I had been trying to use various liquid lubes, astro and a few others. They didn't help, made a mess, and were risky for slippage. Very recently, as in a few hours ago, I conducted further research

this time using Astroglide Gel. OMG!

Two mind blowing bells later...
I feel the need for further research to confirm this finding, but my hazy memory of a recent doubles session where I was "prepared" seems to include a tube laying about.
Condoms suck. We are just trying to make the best of a poor situation.