Love and the hobby

[Goose7093]

I’m an older guy. I’ve been in the hobby for 20+ years. I know it’s pay for play, and I’ve had no illusions that it is anything more. That’s served me well…until I met Pammy.

She was just different, or things were different with her, than anyone else I had seen. Things were authentic, and I found myself struggling to keep my emotions in check. After many months, I came clean and told her. It didn’t scare her at all. With some guidance and boundaries, we grew close, as friends and lovers. While I’m not “in love” with her, I do love and care for her.

We say “I love you” to one another, knowing it isn’t meaning taking things further.

I’m sure it’s happened to others out there, and I wonder how you handled it. Did you walk away? Did you tell them? Was it just one-sided? I know we don’t, and should not, expect that here, or look for it here. But is does happen from time to time.

[Ripmany]

To care for some you need, means, identify a need, and hart. If she nice to you better than my exes and accepting. I will form a hart. I have not found a provider with out needs that easily. There means I look specials and many providers spend out of my league.

[Seline]

This happens a lot more than you think. I know many providers who married men they met in the hobby. If anyone decides they want to marry a provider, make sure you both have a great story of how you met, because that seems to be the number one question asked at a dinner or other event. It would be very awkward to have two different stories. LOL

[Mort Watt]

I would just tell them "we met online!"

[DallasBella]

A mutual loving relationship is not the same as a stalker. If you are not crossing any boundaries, then there is no issue with meeting a wonderful person. My last “boyfriend “actually started as a Client. He was the same age as my dad. Met my family as well.

[Mplay]

I know one that left her husband and took the kids to a client. Another girl was pissed because he was her best client lol! Not sure if it was love or convenience.

[CaptainG]

I met one too that taught me things the hard way.
We were in love…. So she convinced me
I spent thousands on fake illnesses before I finally (after three years) found out that her real illness was a big problem.
She overdid her “medicine” and ended up in a hospital before I finally wised up.

Really hard way to learn!!!

Never get involved with these providers - ain’t worth it

[averageguy12367]

I've met 3. Only 1 has exchanged "I love you". We do things outside of the hobby, but it is strictly pay for play with them. I already have a full time girlfriend who knows I do this, so I've never wanted to try to push it farther.

[KCFalcon77]

As the ladies said, it happens. When you treat someone well there may end up being feelings. Saw my ATF for a couple of years and then we made a mutual decision to spend time "off the clock" . That became overnights, weekends, and longer. We just found we both really enjoyed being together. She knew I was married, (46 years) and would not leave my family, but we continued on our "secret life". She retired 6 years ago, and I still go to see her when I can every couple of months and we spend the whole weekend together as a couple. While there's no "quid pro quo" I do help her with financial issues when needed, (she's never asked me for a dime) and I take care of everything on our date weekends. She knows that I love her, and she says likewise. I have no reason to doubt her feelings. After all its what you do, NOT what you say that matters. She'd been two bad marriages and divorce, and she tells me neither of her husbands every treated her the way I do. There are some wonderful ladies in the hobby, who are just regular people trying to get through life the best they can. Everyone needs someone who treats them special.