New Thread for the topic "Is it Wrong for a Guy to Hold Back?"

[NormalBob]

I don't want to hijack the other thread where this topic was raised as a tertiary issue; but, the way it is described struck me as being odd.

The implication of the commentary in that thread is that it is somehow a bad thing for a guy to hold off his orgasm so that he can participate in sexual intercourse for a longer period of time.

Did I read that right?

Is it a bad thing to slow the rush to release?

I certainly do that in essentially every session except for the women who have demonstrated to me that if I cum, they ain't done.

One of our Sweet ladies took me through three rounds in an hour session because she made it her priority during our session. Result? When I visit her, I don't go to the lengths I do with the one-and-done set to find ways to put off my release.

And there is a one-and-done set. That set of beautiful, sexy, wonderful women is larger than the "I'm gonna keep gettin' it done for your fun until the hour has run" set.

[Sam54]

Very Well said NB! You are right on!

[roscoe14850]

I try to hold back (unsuccessfully most times) but because the release is usually stronger.

[petiteassman]

are with women i have been thinking about seeing for quite sometime. i probably only hobby 6-10 year for various reasons and usually it is with a girl from this board or a canadian girl in niagara fallls. while i can come on my own the activities i long for with these women are far more important than the act of ejaculation.

while there are hundreds if not thousands of beautiful women on this board i would love to have sex with there are 4 that just captivates my mind body and soul.

from a national standpoint shayla from calgary canada and sonya playmate from san antonio tx to me are not only 2 of the sexiest women alive but also have that board persona and way of expressing themselves that make them women you would die to have sex with and remember each day of your life. unfortunately with their locations the odds of me ever experiencing in the flesh is very remote.

in wny the 2 women i most long to have are naughty nikki and chloe. both these women exude sexuality and a personality that makes you beg to have if only once.

as these 2 women are local its possible that i will get to experience 1 or both of these women at some point. if i am fortunate enough for that to happen i will wish to enjoy each minute every second of my time with them. if there is an activity that exists i wanna do it. i could spend an entire hour kissing, licking, fondling either of them. whether i ejaculate is not nearly as important as getting to enjoy each minute with and inch of these works of art and treasures of wny. the thought of cumming in the first few minutes and not being able to continue certain activities actually worries me as who knows these truly could be a once in a lifetime opportunity.

if by holding out someone sees it as wrong i kinda look at it like savoring a fine meal. i would rather slowly taste and enjoy each aspect of the meal rather than gobble up as much as i can in a few minutes and not truly enjoy. when it is someone who i have longed to savor often i will take measures to ensure i do not end too soon to ensure i get to savor some of gods greatest gifts.

[tescra]

Originally Posted by petiteassman

are with women i have been thinking about seeing for quite sometime. i probably only hobby 6-10 year for various reasons and usually it is with a girl from this board or a canadian girl in niagara fallls. while i can come on my own the activities i long for with these women are far more important than the act of ejaculation.

while there are hundreds if not thousands of beautiful women on this board i would love to have sex with there are 4 that just captivates my mind body and soul.

from a national standpoint shayla from calgary canada and sonya playmate from san antonio tx to me are not only 2 of the sexiest women alive but also have that board persona and way of expressing themselves that make them women you would die to have sex with and remember each day of your life. unfortunately with their locations the odds of me ever experiencing in the flesh is very remote.

in wny the 2 women i most long to have are naughty nikki and chloe. both these women exude sexuality and a personality that makes you beg to have if only once.

as these 2 women are local its possible that i will get to experience 1 or both of these women at some point. if i am fortunate enough for that to happen i will wish to enjoy each minute every second of my time with them. if there is an activity that exists i wanna do it. i could spend an entire hour kissing, licking, fondling either of them. whether i ejaculate is not nearly as important as getting to enjoy each minute with and inch of these works of art and treasures of wny. the thought of cumming in the first few minutes and not being able to continue certain activities actually worries me as who knows these truly could be a once in a lifetime opportunity.

if by holding out someone sees it as wrong i kinda look at it like savoring a fine meal. i would rather slowly taste and enjoy each aspect of the meal rather than gobble up as much as i can in a few minutes and not truly enjoy. when it is someone who i have longed to savor often i will take measures to ensure i do not end too soon to ensure i get to savor some of gods greatest gifts.

WHAT HE SAID

[NormalBob]

Originally Posted by petiteassman

as these 2 women are local its possible that i will get to experience 1 or both of these women at some point. if i am fortunate enough for that to happen i will wish to enjoy each minute every second of my time with them. if there is an activity that exists i wanna do it. i could spend an entire hour kissing, licking, fondling either of them. whether i ejaculate is not nearly as important as getting to enjoy each minute with and inch of these works of art and treasures of wny. the thought of cumming in the first few minutes and not being able to continue certain activities actually worries me as who knows these truly could be a once in a lifetime opportunity.

It should worry you. They are both hot enough to where the natural thing to do is to start shooting jizz about the room within a very few minutes.

Thanks for the tip on Sonya. I'm going to be in San Antonio and was wondering if I should try to play down there.

[petiteassman]

as i do not hobby very often, mostly because of financial reasons i so look forward to the very few times i do. the women i mentioned here i find so overwhelmingly attractive i do fear not being able to last very long.. damn i can almost cum just looking at the pics of anyone of them. i cannot imagine actually having them naked there with me and me lasting a long time. i ave never had a problem with premature ejaculation but very seldom have i been with women as incredibly attractive as these girls. if i could afford 3-4 appointments thatss what i would do and never give a thought. but if you know your experience of a lifetime is for but an hour i would do everything in my power to lat the entire time. to me cumming is something i can do on my own the experiences these women can provide i cannot. in regards to sonya her reviews are the most amazing i have ever read and her interaction with guys on the board is incredible. she is the girl on my avatar. its funny but other than her ass which i think is incredible she does not fit my usual preferences but just the sum of the total package makes her amoongst the top choices of women on this planet i would choose to experience 1 time. i cannot tell you how much i wish i could be inside her just 1 time. if you go to s.a. i would think i would see her before the alamo.

Originally Posted by NormalBob

It should worry you. They are both hot enough to where the natural thing to do is to start shooting jizz about the room within a very few minutes.

Thanks for the tip on Sonya. I'm going to be in San Antonio and was wondering if I should try to play down there.

[offshoredrilling]

Guessing I did not take the statement the same way.

[theasianview]

Well said Petiteassman, I have had some issues where if I prolong for long period of time, I lose the erection and can't get it back until much later (usually after the session) it is most likely an age thing. If the point of the appointment is to get it done, I could do it watching porno at home. But when I'm with a provider (when she is someone new, I want to experience the person and what she brings to the table, personality, the first time meeting jitters etc), if she was someone I have seen before I would want to try different positions or environment (ie shower *not golden shower* maybe role play or something). So when I try to hold back, it is with the intention of trying something different and also try to satisfy the provider at the same time and make the both of us happy, more times then not, the waiting/hold back will backfire on me and I end up having some sort of a buyer's remorse of not sealing the deal. but I get over it later when I replay the scenes in my mind.

[petiteassman]

i think what so often gets forgotten is to us these are very rare occurrences. face it 99.9 percent of us are not meeting chloe/nikki in a restaurant/wegmans/ church or school play and end up in the sack with them. while this hobby may allow a man to experience hundreds of women over the course of decades those few special ones [ and to each individuals that term will vary] not only provide memories of a lifetime but also potentially provide opportunities for potential downsides. could you imagine not being able to get up fpr the occasion with chloe or go a second round with nikki. while we all pump our chests and pretend we are cool and sexual dynamos the reality is we rarely get a chance whether in rl or hobby to be with what we consider playmates and when we do we cherish the chance but nerves always come into play. i remember leaving my appointment with gabrielle i was more relieved just to have done it than anything else. i liken it to meeting a high end celebrity.. we all know they are people just like the rest of us but then when we meet one our tongues get tied and our speech slurred.

Originally Posted by theasianview

Well said Petiteassman, I have had some issues where if I prolong for long period of time, I lose the erection and can't get it back until much later (usually after the session) it is most likely an age thing. If the point of the appointment is to get it done, I could do it watching porno at home. But when I'm with a provider (when she is someone new, I want to experience the person and what she brings to the table, personality, the first time meeting jitters etc), if she was someone I have seen before I would want to try different positions or environment (ie shower *not golden shower* maybe role play or something). So when I try to hold back, it is with the intention of trying something different and also try to satisfy the provider at the same time and make the both of us happy, more times then not, the waiting/hold back will backfire on me and I end up having some sort of a buyer's remorse of not sealing the deal. but I get over it later when I replay the scenes in my mind.

[GP]

"Is it Wrong for a Guy to Hold Back?"

I say no. You paid for the hour, how you use it is upto you.

[Chaz108]

Originally Posted by GP

I say no. You paid for the hour, how you use it is up to you.

As long as both parties agree to any/all activities, I agree with that statement.

[jokacz]

I thought I was paying the SP to get me off. Or is that attitude too disrespectful for this place? ED meds don't exactly make it easy to get your gun either. But I use them as an insurance policy for money invested. I went without them a few days ago because the SP and I have a history of rocking each others world, and we did it again. Thank You, HLH!

[Lexxxy]

I am comfortable with Gents holding back to have one really big O or with rushing to get as many Os as possible in our time together. The only thing the sucks about a Gent holding back is that for A LOT of Gents once they hold back it makes it hard for them to reach their O once they are ready or our time is about to be over. We can tell if a Gent holds back, it really makes me mad if we have 5 mins left and I can tell he just held back. Mind you, I am not a clock watcher or anything of the sort but 15 mins over with no tip because the Gent held back and can't reach the big O really makes me mad.
I sell time shares and time is money.

[GP]

I think that is an awesome answer and commentary Lexxxy!