Provider needs ideas

[The Chelsea Stone]

I have someone who is interested in me being a dominant i have never tried it before he wants torture and humiliation I need ideas on how to make his experience unforgettable and to make it amazing.. If you have any really torturous ideas please give them to me i would greatly appreciate it

[tsmistressmia]

Don't let him manipulate you into a situation that you're obviously not mentally or physically prepared for, nothing good can come of it. If he wants true torture and humiliation he needs to find a knowledgeable Pro Domme or Mistress that will satisfy that craving in a safe, sane, and consensual manner and just let you be you!

Since I know that you're not going to heed the advice given above I will say that a few simple wooden clothespins, silky thigh high stockings to use as a blindfold/hand tie, and your mind can be very effective tools to use against that cheap undeserving dog

[DallasRain]

Ms Athena is great at that aspect...pm her

have fun!

[ElisabethWhispers]

If he used the term "torture" and then he also wants humiliation, that's a tall order.

First, you need to establish how experienced he is. There is a wide variance of meaning for the word "torture". Then, you need to be honest with yourself and figure out if you have the emotional and physical knowledge to complete what he desires.

Frankly, it's taken me years to hone my skills and I still consider myself relatively new. I'm not, of course, but I do NOT put my skill set up there with very experienced Dommes in this field.

So with that being said, good luck! So much of "this" is between the ears. Even whispering in his ear what you're about to do is a good start.

As far as specific techniques, you're a little vague on what this guy wants. So I don't have any help for you there.

But good luck and let us know if you have specific questions, i.e. about punishment, spanking, whipping, electricity and the sort.

Elisabeth

[whitechocolate]

Since he wants torture and you are into a "penis on fire" that you can blow out, you might want to find a way you can ignite his penis before you blow out the fire without causing him too much discomfort.

[Ms. Athena]

Sugar, that is a TALL order to fill. And if you dont have the tool, skills, want to and passion...You will both come away unfilled. This is not something one can just say do A,B,C and poof his fantasy is fulfilled. You can also harm one if you use certain toys/tools without proper knowledge. I refer clients to other providers all the time, if what they are asking is not within my skills range or comfort zone. Why would I set myself up for failure going into a session. I want both of us to walk away happy and pleasured................

[Centralarnewguy]

I may have a different view point here but everyone had to start someone and I this is a long time client of yours then he inherently trusts you and that is a good thing! Don't get too crazy but maybe you and he could find a place tht u both will enjoy!

[cumalot]

If the torture involves the family jewels, blood letting, making holes in the skin, or sharp pointy objects, I would refer him to an expert...ijs

[Ms. Athena]

I agree everyone must start somewhere. But is with a paying client whom is expecting you to deliver his fantasy the right place? I try to always bottom before I top, meaning I try to have done to me what they expect done to them, so I really know how it feels and can understand the physical and mental aspects of it. I also stated out learning from very trained and skilled subs whom taught me how they liked to be Dommed and controlled. And as it was a learning session it was a free play session. We are suppose to be Pros here, and skilled in the services that we offer. If her client is aware of all this and is willing to allow her to learn on him, then go for it and have fun!!

[Centralarnewguy]

+1 Athena

[Satyrrical]

And don't forget the safe word.

[ElisabethWhispers]

Athena brought up a very good point. There isn't anything that I've done to a guy that I haven't had done to myself, first. Except for cock and ball torture for the obvious reasons.

This includes spanking, which I've done a lot of. I'm not into spanking done on me but the point is, you need to know how things feel before administering them. That REALLY helps.

There are a lot of escorts, and I'm not suggesting that you're like this by the way, that think that they can make a few extra bucks doing Domme work. And it just isn't a good idea at all. Again, this isn't the case with you, I know.

So ... the poster above was right. You need to start somewhere. Since I agree with Mia and you're probably going to go for it, start light and ask for some guidance.

Oh ... quick hint. Don't ruin the moment by asking a submissive, "I'm not hurting you, am I?" Cheap advice but it has served me well.

Safe words are important, too.

And try to scroll to the many pages of topics here. Doing that is going to give you a lot of ideas.

There are also some books, too. Jay Wiseman always writes good stuff.

Here is a decent starter book:

http://jaywiseman.com/MER_SM%20101.php You can probably find this on amazon as well.

There is also a comprehensive reading list somewhere in this forum if you wish to start studying further.

Good luck,
Elisabeth

[The Chelsea Stone]

Thank you guys it is one of my atf's he just wanted to try something new. Me and him both are natural subs so we couldn't decide who would be the dom.

[Ms. Athena]

UMM, Then bring in a Domme to Dom both of yall in a session...WIN WIN!! I love to Dom couples and have them service each other and myself as I control the session and deliver the pleasure............YUM

[BoomShakaLaka]

Originally Posted by Ms. Athena

UMM, Then bring in a Domme to Dom both of yall in a session...WIN WIN!! I love to Dom couples and have them service each other and myself as I control the session and deliver the pleasure............YUM

Thats something Id love to watch --- I in no way am sub -- just wont happen LOL