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polarbear6828 · 12-20-2013, 06:33 PM

My post concerns a friend, and service provider. She is not posting according to what the real deal is? Im not gonna give a negative review, its my friend. She really used me, my fault, took her and family in, made sure she had a phone, trying to not communicate with her, but the ad's posted by her, are not all honest? I guess Im asking direction from the moderators. I have other friends here, that are straight up, maybe I just got the bad apple? Its not an age issue, my friends are all ages. Help!!!!

Guest030114 · 12-20-2013, 06:48 PM

You are not alone with this situation. Many a person in this hobby has, at one time or another, befriended a provider, gave her extra consideration because she was friendly to you, only to have her take advantage of your kindness until you reach a point where you have to tell yourself "this has to stop". If you do not wish to reveal the name of the provider or write a review, that is your choice (and probably the best course of action). My advice - chalk it up to an experience learned and be glad you are away from the burden that the relationship caused you. You will probably never recover the money you gave her and definitely will never reclaim the emotions she took from you.

polarbear6828 · 12-20-2013, 06:59 PM

Thank you for the reply, not meaning to harm her, or her reputation, but she is not who or what she posts, no reclaiming the monies, large, Ive know that from the beginning, She knows that I give my other friends reviews, I just dont sleep well knowing that someone else may be wrapped up in a lie. She knows I have been observing for months, she knows that the money stopped, when I took them back to the city, and the phone, also, I think she must have that worked out, she has posted 2wice since I took them all home. and Texted me yesterday, for a dig, not a how ya doin...Im grown, she still has a ways to go

Guest030114 · 12-20-2013, 07:11 PM

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Originally Posted by polarbear6828

Thank you for the reply, not meaning to harm her, or her reputation, but she is not who or what she posts...

No one does. Almost every provider and hobbyist has something to hide - mainly for their own personal and emotional protection. Very rarely will you find a provider who is willing to be truthful with you because they don't want to have a relationship with you - they just want your money, provide a quick service, have you leave and get on with their personal lives. As long as the provider provides her services for the price she states and for the length of time she quotes, then she is considered to be a well-respected provider. Her personal issues or situations should play no part in your brief encounters. As for your friend (if she still is), what she states in her ads or posts, so long as her clients are happy with her service, is advertising to get clients to come and see her. Advertising is often exaggerated to get the most attention and, by extension, to get the most money with the least amount of effort.

aubie79 · 12-21-2013, 07:03 AM

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Originally Posted by RoamingTheMidwest

No one does. Almost every provider and hobbyist has something to hide - mainly for their own personal and emotional protection. Very rarely will you find a provider who is willing to be truthful with you because they don't want to have a relationship with you - they just want your money, provide a quick service, have you leave and get on with their personal lives. As long as the provider provides her services for the price she states and for the length of time she quotes, then she is considered to be a well-respected provider. Her personal issues or situations should play no part in your brief encounters. As for your friend (if she still is), what she states in her ads or posts, so long as her clients are happy with her service, is advertising to get clients to come and see her. Advertising is often exaggerated to get the most attention and, by extension, to get the most money with the least amount of effort.

Agreed...pick your battles.

luvinkdgrlz · 12-21-2013, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by RoamingTheMidwest

You are not alone with this situation. Many a person in this hobby has, at one time or another, befriended a provider, gave her extra consideration because she was friendly to you, only to have her take advantage of your kindness until you reach a point where you have to tell yourself "this has to stop". If you do not wish to reveal the name of the provider or write a review, that is your choice (and probably the best course of action). My advice - chalk it up to an experience learned and be glad you are away from the burden that the relationship caused you. You will probably never recover the money you gave her and definitely will never reclaim the emotions she took from you.

+1

When I found out that my ATF actually had a pimp that had coerced her into the business and later physically assaulted her to keep her from quitting, I got this stupid idea in my head that I needed to "save" her. When she finally decided to ditch the asshole and quit the business, I paid her rent for 6 months while she tried to make a better life for herself and her daughter, only to have her get back together with that piece of shit, get back into the hobby, and lie to me about it. I was heartbroken. Nothing I could do though. As Roaming said, just had to chalk it up to a lesson learned and move on.

Johnny4455 · 12-21-2013, 05:14 PM

Just get away, and try not to get close again.

Guest030114 · 12-21-2013, 05:53 PM

Just in case the emotions get to you:

http://miami.cbslocal.com/2013/12/20...ly-does-exist/

bartipero · 12-21-2013, 08:14 PM

I disagree somewhat. If the ad is dishonest then at least point out that part. If the person is predatory that's an issue. These things become a safety issue as do pimps.

badboy45tfm · 12-22-2013, 06:50 AM

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Originally Posted by polarbear6828

My post concerns a friend, and service provider. She is not posting according to what the real deal is? Im not gonna give a negative review, its my friend. She really used me, my fault, took her and family in, made sure she had a phone, trying to not communicate with her, but the ad's posted by her, are not all honest? I guess Im asking direction from the moderators. I have other friends here, that are straight up, maybe I just got the bad apple? Its not an age issue, my friends are all ages. Help!!!!

Really a friend??? well im not going to beat any one up I sure cant throw the first stone but she is a provider. If she wants to see and be with you and not exchange money then she is a friend. Anyway we don't pay these sweet things for sex we pay them to leave. If you want to really get the facts go to a strip joint and let the strippers get close to ya and just listen to all the stories of I need help for my kids to my electric is going to be shut off or a thousand different ones. Here is a good one a stripper I have seen stopped me in a grocery store with her cart so full it was falling out and asked me for money and said never mind the grocery cart its all with food stamps,i walked away. So my friend just walk away Oh well never mind me Opps that aint a Marlboro

Saintliest · 12-22-2013, 05:04 PM

Pretty sure it's a little late to alert everyone that the provider is not who she says she is, without completely having her find out who he is...and seriously tanking her income in the process. Tread lightly, you may be in for a tornado.

malwoody · 12-22-2013, 07:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Saintliest

Pretty sure it's a little late to alert everyone that the provider is not who she says she is, without completely having her find out who he is...and seriously tanking her income in the process. Tread lightly, you may be in for a tornado.

Soooo....are you alluding to the provider in question being one of the providers you refer to in your soap box thread..? http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=931640

By advising the OP to "tread lightly" are you suggesting that he drop it or maybe shouldn't have brought it up to begin with lest he might be "seriously tanking her income in the process"? Since you think "it's a little late to alert everyone"...when do you think would be a good time?

bp6570 · 12-23-2013, 06:45 AM

And is he showing the lady the proper amount of "respect & diginity" by revealing her to the community?????

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Originally Posted by malwoody

Soooo....are you alluding to the provider in question being one of the providers you refer to in your soap box thread..? http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=931640

By advising the OP to "tread lightly" are you suggesting that he drop it or maybe shouldn't have brought it up to begin with lest he might be "seriously tanking her income in the process"? Since you think "it's a little late to alert everyone"...when do you think would be a good time?

Saintliest · 12-23-2013, 10:04 AM

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Originally Posted by malwoody

Soooo....are you alluding to the provider in question being one of the providers you refer to in your soap box thread..? http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=931640

"EEEEH, Sorry Hans, Wrong Guess. Would you like to try for Double Jeopardy where the scores can really change?" Did I say in my thread that it was just ONE person? I think I alluded to more than one. I have a guess on who it might be, but I could be very very wrong, so I'm not about to speculate.

By advising the OP to "tread lightly" are you suggesting that he drop it or maybe shouldn't have brought it up to begin with lest he might be "seriously tanking her income in the process"? Since you think "it's a little late to alert everyone"...when do you think would be a good time?

What I am saying is this, by going out and saying everything that he has about this person...she knows who he is. Now, mentioning the name with all the baggage attached to it...everyone on this post will most likely avoid her like the plague. It's a little too late for little damage to be done to him, since she's bound to retaliate against him. It's a little too late for little damage to be done to her, as she's going to suffer dearly for it all. Will we see a nasty mudfight here soon? I hope not.

malwoody · 12-23-2013, 10:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Saintliest

What I am saying is this, by going out and saying everything that he has about this person...she knows who he is. Now, mentioning the name with all the baggage attached to it...everyone on this post will most likely avoid her like the plague. It's a little too late for little damage to be done to him, since she's bound to retaliate against him. It's a little too late for little damage to be done to her, as she's going to suffer dearly for it all. Will we see a nasty mudfight here soon? I hope not.

Yes, I know all of that...what I am curious about is what would your solution be..?
You have implied that you know a lot of girls and are acutely aware of their ongoing dealings with pushy and disrespectful clients..soooo once again, how would you have the OP go about dealing with his original issue??...Should he just chalk it up and not say anything..?..I too have been privy to many of the struggles that providers face over time but like Johnny and others have stated, it is in fact a two way street...is it not?

Maybe it's just me but your ongoing comments..ie "everyone on this post will most likely avoid her like the plague." leads me to believe that maybe you know the provider in question and are aware of the OPs problem...with her...

Got a news flash for you...if her name was announced it would create MORE traffic for her not less...IMO..because you are certainly not the only WK roaming about this forum...

No offense, just my take..

Merry Christmas.....