kaylee, glad that things are getting back to normal at your place!
sounds like you're a great mom!
a provider's family life is another one of those areas that i
generally dont want to know about.
esp if the provider were to start talking about it without any prompting or asking. while i get that her life and family are very important to her, to me it's just not very erotically stimulating.
there are times [after i've consulted w/ a provider several times and we have some sort of connection or personal acquaintance] where i may ask her "how are things in your world?" or "what about <something i remember or know she was into>?". those discussions are fine. we're both people - each has info to share and an ear to listen to their stuff [maybe even venting]. i dont get perturbed if i hear about all kinds of real life stuff. if it gets too much, then i'll change the subject.
again, kaylee, glad the kiddo and you are doing well!
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Originally Posted by Kayleehotchick
Hi guys,
I would like to remind you that providers have real lives.
==>pmd: excellent! sorry that some folks are too wrapped in "ME!" that they cant see others as people.
compassion and understanding go a long way in realizing that we are all pretty much the same wrt human needs and priorities!
.... Last night I didn't HAVE TIME to explain why.
==>pmd: and you really shouldnt have to. (see below)
I didn't no show the guy. I canceled and yes it was short notice.
I'm a MOTHER and my KIDS WILL ALWAYS COME FIRST PERIOD.
==>pmd: i support you 100% on that.
i'm a grandpa and my family comes first. then my business. then my delites.
SO before you go calling a provider "not real" or a "flake", stand back and take in consideration that she did show you respect by contacting you to cancel and that sometimes real life happens and it is NOT HER OBLIGATION to explain herself to you.
==>pmd: i learned this concept long ago and have followed it as best i can.
(note, "you" = generic you, not you kaylee)
when you have to tell someone your personal decision, just state the decision.
dont explain why or how you came up with the decision.
if you do so, that gives some people a chance to make you second think your decision or make you feel bad cos you made that decision.
IF that makes me a bitch or a flake, then so be it.
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i heard that flakes are good for the digestive system!
oh, that's fiber. same difference :^)
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Originally Posted by Kayleehotchick
... In all that chaos. I still had the presence of mind and the RESPECT to at least contact to him and cancel.
[/b][b]Damn if we do and damn if we don't.
On the high note. My daughter is doing better and that's all that matters to this "flakey" provider but serious mom.
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see pfmtony's, angie's, and my posts in this thread wrt your bolded thought.
http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=969220
as john maynard keynes said, "in the end, we are all dead."
he also drank champagne from his mistress' high heel shoes, so it's been said.
i just want to go where are the fun and sexy people go in the afterlife!
Providers have real lives you know....
