Eeny, meeny, miny, moe....

[finlay]

I hesitate to post, but its been a long time concern that I have had.

It seems that the majority of gentlemen that contact me are any combination of very low/no posts, no reviews, or two week accounts.

I used to go through the whole deal of provide me with at least two references, and then try to go through the whole procedure of vetting them. But its a lot of work that has always (no exaggeration) fizzed out. Hats off to yall that are a whole lot more serious about hobbying that I am.

And that bothers me too. I feel like I'm not really a fit for here because I am overweight, and only try to dabble where as everyone here is so beautiful and professional. And I don't want to take something away from someone else that deserves more than me.

I don't know.

I guess my question is, is it ok for me to not respond to these types of requests, and does it happen to you?

[Netx9]

Originally Posted by finlay

And I don't want to take something away from someone else that deserves more than me.

I don't know.

I guess my question is, is it ok for me to not respond to these types of requests, and does it happen to you?

First, change the way you think!

You deserve no more or no less than anyone else, provider and hobbyist alike! You deserve to be safe, to enjoy yourself, to see or not see whomever you like and as often or infrequent as you want, no matter how you look or who you are.

Post that you're not newbie friendly if you like, but either way, simply ignoring the requests from new/recent accounts is just fine. You could also simply respond with a nice note: "I'm sorry, I only see more established gents". That's entirely up to you. I don't know what it's like to get those pm-s so i may be wrong, but i think the courteous thing to do on this site would be to send that note. Again, you can just ignore them too and that would be just fine as well. Do whatever you are comfortable with and all will be well.

Appreciate your candor and willingness to share your concerns and wish you all the best!

[Laz]

Originally Posted by Netx9

First, change the way you think!

You deserve no more or no less than anyone else, provider and hobbyist alike! You deserve to be safe, to enjoy yourself, to see or not see whomever you like and as often or infrequent as you want, no matter how you look or who you are.

Post that you're not newbie friendly if you like, but either way, simply ignoring the requests from new/recent accounts is just fine. You could also simply respond with a nice note: "I'm sorry, I only see more established gents". That's entirely up to you. I don't know what it's like to get those pm-s so i may be wrong, but i think the courteous thing to do on this site would be to send that note. Again, you can just ignore them too and that would be just fine as well. Do whatever you are comfortable with and all will be well.

Appreciate your candor and willingness to share your concerns and wish you all the best!

+1 on everything he said, especially the first part.

I would add that I favor the idea of some response even if it is a polite refusal. That way the person knows they need to move on. The downside is you might run into a few jerks that get upset but you can ignore them from that point on and it also gives you the knowledge that you made the right decision about them.

[Guest042015]

Not everyone is into the spinners or even average sized women! There's someone out there for all of us.... And some people appreciate women of all sizes, shapes, and colors....

I hate that you feel that you're not fit to be here, because everyone has a right to be here, advertise or solicit the ones that interest them.

I got some very sound advice when I started here, own who you are, be confident in yourself, and that aura will pull the right ones in!

Yea, respond to these requests, it is proper :-)

[Netx9]

+1 DD and Laz

I, too, think the courteous thing to do is to respond and politely decline. My only point was that if you choose not to, that is OK.

[finlay]

well thanks guys I will continue along as I have been. I was mostly concerned that I was perhaps being targeted by people who were not necessarily who they said they were or with intentions that perhaps would leave me in handcuffs, and I don't mean the fluffy pink kind *wink*

[KlassyKelliAnn]

Originally Posted by Netx9

First, change the way you think!

You deserve no more or no less than anyone else, provider and hobbyist alike! You deserve to be safe, to enjoy yourself, to see or not see whomever you like and as often or infrequent as you want, no matter how you look or who you are.

Post that you're not newbie friendly if you like, but either way, simply ignoring the requests from new/recent accounts is just fine. You could also simply respond with a nice note: "I'm sorry, I only see more established gents". That's entirely up to you. I don't know what it's like to get those pm-s so i may be wrong, but i think the courteous thing to do on this site would be to send that note. Again, you can just ignore them too and that would be just fine as well. Do whatever you are comfortable with and all will be well.

Appreciate your candor and willingness to share your concerns and wish you all the best!

+ a million!!!


Woman! Be proud of who you are! You deserve the best just as much as anyone else here or elsewhere. I also have those extra pounds and I am fucking hot! So lets have fun and be hot together! Set your standards where they are comfortable and benefit YOU. Because you ARE worth every bit of it and more.

[Guest101314]

Finlay, I've noticed that too. That just means there are more hobbyists coming into the game.. when they get more established, then you can see them.

And definitely change your way of thinking girl! You are beautiful how you are and if you are concerned with any weight issue you think you have, you can always reach out to me or the other girls on here for tips. Most of us are very nice, especially to fellow providers. And like the guys said, not everyone wants a petite spinner type, or maybe they do today and want to try someone more voluptuous next time. The more variety on here the better. Can you imagine how boring it would be if we all looked the same?

XOXO

[sms918]

hi finlay, believe me when I say I know what your talking about. I might be a guy
and technically the women are supposed to act like it doesn't matter, but I also live in the real world too. We live in a kind of reverse reality, I see reviews guys comments on a provider looks that in the rw they wouldn't have a chance with.

Like the other comments said, just put not newbie friendly, be honest about looks, tcb/bcd , shake off the rude, and everybody worries about the unfriendlies.

There are all types for all types. all colors, sizes, ages, genders, fetishes, it just depends what people want.

Just so you know, I know for me, and I have to think for some providers and hobbists, meeting new friends is nerve racking. I don't care what you look like or how long you've been doing this.

I'm white, not a inch or two taller than you, couple of years older than, weigh quite bit more than you, sexually size and ability (nothing to brag about), worry about unfriendlies, about providers I don't when meeting for first time.
I've met some really nice women, but there's also some that can't past my looks.

[Guest061815-1]

For the guys and the gals: be honest. The best part about telling the truth is that you don't have to remember what you said.

[Charlottehoney]

Originally Posted by finlay

I hesitate to post, but its been a long time concern that I have had.

It seems that the majority of gentlemen that contact me are any combination of very low/no posts, no reviews, or two week accounts.

I used to go through the whole deal of provide me with at least two references, and then try to go through the whole procedure of vetting them. But its a lot of work that has always (no exaggeration) fizzed out. Hats off to yall that are a whole lot more serious about hobbying that I am.

And that bothers me too. I feel like I'm not really a fit for here because I am overweight, and only try to dabble where as everyone here is so beautiful and professional. And I don't want to take something away from someone else that deserves more than me.

I don't know.

I guess my question is, is it ok for me to not respond to these types of requests, and does it happen to you?

Honey I felt the same way when I first got online but there is something about being a BBW and being proud of it that' makes us sexy!

I have found rather than having new people all the time I take time with the gentlemen I have going back through contacts and letting people know I'm available and thinking about them. I have my favorites I have to admit that. And I have been getting a lot of feedback that gentlemen like older full women. Otherwise they feel like they are with their tiny teenage niece and that's weird to them.

I see a lot of newbies and what I do is ask if they have not seen a girl on eccie have they seen anyone before. I have screened a few people through some girl on bp or another random site so it is possible. I suggest talking to the girl as opposed to texting if your going to use someone not from eccie so you know they are real.

I know some girls have them send pictures of IDs and paycheck stubs as well. If they are a serious about entering the hobby world they will give you what you need to feel comfortable. So don't ever be afraid to stand your ground and ask.

I think you need a good photo shoot! That always helps me. Just ask one of your favorites!

Play safe honey!

[mwsatx]

Originally Posted by DDMcGee

Not everyone is into the spinners or even average sized women! There's someone out there for all of us.... And some people appreciate women of all sizes, shapes, and colors...

+1 for DD. Variety is the spice of life!

Originally Posted by KlassyKelliAnn

Woman! Be proud of who you are! You deserve the best just as much as anyone else here or elsewhere. I also have those extra pounds and I am fucking hot! So lets have fun and be hot together! Set your standards where they are comfortable and benefit YOU. Because you ARE worth every bit of it and more.

A full figured, curvy woman is oh so sexy to me, but attitude and confidence are just as sexy! I've never seen KKA but the way she's expressed herself here has definitely got me turned on! Her advice is spot on

Originally Posted by Charlottehoney

I have found rather than having new people all the time I take time with the gentlemen I have going back through contacts and letting people know I'm available and thinking about them. I have my favorites I have to admit that. And I have been getting a lot of feedback that gentlemen like older full women. Otherwise they feel like they are with their tiny teenage niece and that's weird to them. Play safe honey!

Good points here by Charlotte. From a provider point of view, it's much easier to see an existing client than to get a new one. From a client point of view, I love to get a little PM from someone I've seen, letting me know they're available and interested in seeing me again. Yes, I know it's just business, but it's a nice touch and adds to the fantasy. And I'll take an older, full figured MILF over a spinner any day of the week

[Guest042015]

WHOA DOGGY, misfire!

[Charlottehoney]

DD is right its more than just good buisness it is about connection. And through that connection comes deeper sexier play and exploration of fantasies. That's my favorite part too honey. The play gets better the more sessions I have with someone.

[KlassyKelliAnn]

Originally Posted by mwsatx

A full figured, curvy woman is oh so sexy to me, but attitude and confidence are just as sexy! I've never seen KKA but the way she's expressed herself here has definitely got me turned on! Her advice is spot on

I'll wrap my curves around you any day, honey! Maybe even more than once.




KKA
XOXO