Is it cool if a forum buddy asks an sp what you are like?

[Frankie Fine]

It happens quite a bit.

Goes like this:

"Hey, have you seen so and so...what are they like in person?"..

I do not indulge in details, I am just thrown back by it at times..

Not trying to shit disturb here.

Thought this might be an important discussion for both ladies and gents...

It bothers me I find it inappropriate and ..well..that's it. Throwing it out here fwiw

[Lovelyelle_01]

Miss Fine, your spidey senses are correct. VERY inappropriate. If a gentleman is THAT concerned with what another man is like, he can always PM him about getting together for a few beers during happy hour down at the local titty bar. I would never ask a a fellow what a lady was like in person. If I'm that curious (for whatever reason), I have no issue introducing myself for a chance to get together for "girl time" if we can. I have made many successful provider connections in the areas I frequent this way.

[Sam54]

I don't really have a problem with that, as long as personal info isn't given out. You can still be discrete and generalize your conversation with them. I remember a fav sp of mine who has retired now who would chat with me about some interesting guys and ladies, without personalizing or bashing anyone. It's more interesting than just talking about the weather or your favorite color, food, or position.
BTW Frankie....I love your tag line!! I don't know if your original with it or not, but I chuckle every time I see it.

[Lexxxy]

Awesome question beautiful! I am curious as well, it does happen.

[jokacz]

Frankie runs a tight ship.
One reason why there is never any drama around her.
But a little harmless pillow talk is OK within the constraints of safety.

[Guest120615-3]

One of the things we pay for is discretion. Other than "he's a nice guy" or "he's an asshole," comments about other named board members should be discouraged. Anonymous stuff is fine.

[RochBob]

This is a good question. I've considered asking Provider's we have in common some general questions about a few fellow ECCIE members due to comments they have posted on the board. But I thought better of it and never have. If a Provider happens to mention something during a Session or Private conversation with me about another client. I consider that "Privilaged Information" and keep it to myself.

[naughtyfun]

Great question Frankie, here is one for you. What are you doing on the board at midnight?

I am not sure if I have ever asked that but if I did I was just curious as to what the person was like in general, but only if I have seen posts that made me curious.

[Gotyour6]

Kind of creepy I think.
What does one care for?

[Maximum4]

I can't imagine asking about another man when I'm trying to keep things focused on myself. Who cares?!

[dominic716]

Originally Posted by Maximum4

I can't imagine asking about another man when I'm trying to keep things focused on myself. Who cares?!

my thoughts exactly very creepy imo

i cant think of one reason whatsoever that i would ever wanna know anything about another guy off here that i dont or will never know

[Vern0065]

Just dont tell them how small my Junior!!

[Frankie Fine]

Originally Posted by Sam54

BTW Frankie....I love your tag line!! I don't know if your original with it or not, but I chuckle every time I see it.

Thanks! It is not a Frankie original..when I found it online somewhere I couldn't resist. xo

Originally Posted by jokacz

Frankie runs a tight ship.
One reason why there is never any drama around her.
But a little harmless pillow talk is OK within the constraints of safety.

I try! Thank you for saying so! xo I have never been a big fan of drama. I am not perfect, I make mistakes in this biz. One thing I make sure to protect the best I can is everyone's discretion.

I do understand and agree that some "pillow talk" is not all that bad. When you have gents like "whosdair" on the board, lol, some gents can't help but ask what he is like in person..and I would probably ask someone what the heck he is like in person myself. To me, that is a harmless curiosity, but it would be the sp's responsibility to protect a client with a vague response if any response at all.

Originally Posted by naughtyfun

Great question Frankie, here is one for you. What are you doing on the board at midnight?

I am not sure if I have ever asked that but if I did I was just curious as to what the person was like in general, but only if I have seen posts that made me curious.

I was having a HUGE glass of wine, a beer...the girls needed a pep talk before bed!

[Frankie Fine]

I am pretty sure I just contradicted myself, and that doesn't surprise me since I tend to be a walking contradiction all the time..(eye roll myself) lol

Asking what someone is like isn't too bad, it almost makes sense there would be curiosity among hobby buddies. It just does seem weird at the same time.

How I felt, at times, is that it puts me on the spot and perhaps a gent should realize it is not fair to ask me about my clients and their character.

[GP]

The good ladies know how to handle these kinds question without giving out any info. Just give a generic response and politely move on.

Me personally, I never ask questions about the guys. I have had appointment with numerous ladies who just start blabbing completely unsolicited. I am amazed at the amount of details I have heard about some of the guys on here. I take it all with a grain of salt.

Here is another thing to think about. Sort of a similar subject. Some guys think it is ok to give refs for other guys, and some ladies actually take them. I find this to be poor judgment. How many "board buddies" do you know that well? Do you know if they like rough sex? Do they try an BB at every opportunity? These are the kinds of things that you as a guy will never know about other guys. That is why ladies should only take refs from other ladies. Don't get me wrong, this rule is not 100% accurate. I am sure there might be a few rare cases where it may be acceptable. I guess it all boils down to what the lady is comfortable with.