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OldHobbyist · 07-20-2012, 12:15 PM

There is a provider who used to advertise all the time. In recent years her ads come and go. I have known her for several years, more as a friend than a customer. I am considering asking her to completely retire and accept support.

I know other cases like this that have not worked out well, either because the Suga Daddy tried to "own" the girl or because the girl just wanted support and had no other interest in the guy. I also know of cases where the girl continued living a life that would be hard for a man to accept.

I only know of one case that seems to be working.

I am weighing all angles and wonder if anyone knows of situations like this that have worked for both parties.

blowpop · 07-20-2012, 12:20 PM

Anything's possible. But the odds are heavily against you here.

Out_of_Bounds · 07-20-2012, 12:21 PM

Walk away completely or be that chump who thinks he's the only one hitting it for a premium.

Nick11796 · 07-20-2012, 12:28 PM

I married a former escort. She is very pretty and also is younger than I am. It turns out that a lot of her self esteem comes from men wanting her. She is not faithful.

Be prepared for someone who may not change certain aspects of her lifestyle.

MrClark · 07-20-2012, 01:14 PM

Read SoulMan Ikes ( Whatever it's Called ) page . That basically says .Sex for money is usually cheaper than sex for free .If you can afford it do her every day . This is a free country ( mostly ) you have the right to screw up a good thing.If it does not work out it probably won't go back to how it is now. I hope it works out for you whatever you decide.

tbone2u · 07-20-2012, 01:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Nick11796

I married a former escort. She is very pretty and also is younger than I am. It turns out that a lot of her self esteem comes from men wanting her. She is not faithful.

Be prepared for someone who may not change certain aspects of her lifestyle.

This is VERY good advice. Most ladies here DON'T do it just for the money, especially the ones who do it well

4karlos · 07-20-2012, 03:18 PM

With the years you may have observed that a majority of providers have common stories in their history. Divorced parents, abusive mom or dad, extremely poor childhood, low education, violence and some times all the above at once. It is not all about the money or financial stability. The thick agenda is always there, and it will bite you. There are a few ladies very well grounded and with zero issues...but those would never consider a SD arragements...they are providing because their freedom has no price and they truely enjoy it. Those...let them be, because those are the ones blowing our minds.

Eva Damita · 07-20-2012, 03:39 PM

Also factor in the price of happiness...if its worth it (does the marginal benefit outweigh the marginal cost???) then go for it if it makes you happy.

utr_guy_in_houston · 07-20-2012, 03:49 PM

I'm somewhat of an expert on this topic having had several dozen sugar babies over many years, one lasting 3 years alone. I can say without reservation that it is possible, and that it is possible for the sb relationship to be cheaper than to have an escort the same number of times per month. The downside is you're hitting the same pussy all the time and that can get boring . . . It's also possible to have genuine feelings for your sb, and for her to have them for you, but be careful with that, it's like playing with fire if your sb falls in love with you.

On the "cheating" front: that's never an issue for me because I encourage them to date up front. I tell them it would be wrong for a beautiful young woman not to have bf's or gf's. However, I ask them not to turn pro, mainly because I think it increases the chance for something bad to happen to her, not necessarily to me. The only pro's who are candidates for being my sugar baby are the ones who tried it and being an escort absolutely disgusted them. This is a good candidate because they are comfortable with the idea of sex for money but they are uncomfortable with having sex with someone they are not attracted to. Assuming you're not an ugly smelly pig, you might be able to turn this into something.

When I'm in the market for a new sb (like right now), I hunt for them where escorts do not normally go. Sugardaddy sites and other dating venues . . . and I present myself as a "fun and very generous" man. That gets a lot of attention. lol

Mojojo · 07-20-2012, 06:12 PM

You're already on a collision course if you asking her to change something she has selected to do with her own free will, that decision should be up to her. People will change when they want to not when they are asked to.

Guest021824 · 07-20-2012, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by utr_guy_in_houston

I'm somewhat of an expert on this topic having had several dozen sugar babies over many years, one lasting 3 years alone. I can say without reservation that it is possible, and that it is possible for the sb relationship to be cheaper than to have an escort the same number of times per month. The downside is you're hitting the same pussy all the time and that can get boring . . . It's also possible to have genuine feelings for your sb, and for her to have them for you, but be careful with that, it's like playing with fire if your sb falls in love with you.

On the "cheating" front: that's never an issue for me because I encourage them to date up front. I tell them it would be wrong for a beautiful young woman not to have bf's or gf's. However, I ask them not to turn pro, mainly because I think it increases the chance for something bad to happen to her, not necessarily to me. The only pro's who are candidates for being my sugar baby are the ones who tried it and being an escort absolutely disgusted them. This is a good candidate because they are comfortable with the idea of sex for money but they are uncomfortable with having sex with someone they are not attracted to. Assuming you're not an ugly smelly pig, you might be able to turn this into something.

When I'm in the market for a new sb (like right now), I hunt for them where escorts do not normally go. Sugardaddy sites and other dating venues . . . and I present myself as a "fun and very generous" man. That gets a lot of attention. lol

Very wise and sage advice in this post.....................Happy Hunting.......

brandilynn · 07-20-2012, 06:49 PM

Being a sugar daddy is great, but don't expect her to leave the business, most aren't ready to leave.

cumalot · 07-20-2012, 06:52 PM

Why buy the cow when you only need a glass of milk???

pyramider · 07-20-2012, 07:26 PM

I am looking for a Sugar Mama ... I am almost house broken ...

Sweet Discretion · 07-20-2012, 09:22 PM

If I was looking for a sb, I'd definitely try to stay away from any girl who's ever been a provider. Maybe one who tried it and decided it wasn't for her, like utr_guy mentioned above, but definitely not a woman who's completely comfortable selling her body to any swinging dick with a couple benjis.