How to ask the right way

[Tigerbait929]

Hi all.

I'm pretty new to this hobby and I want to know what is the right way of going about asking for certain things. I do research before I meet with a provider and know what is on the menu but what Is the right and polite way of asking a lady if she is willing to do certain things with me. I don't want to be a jerk or seem rude. I'd like for the 2 of us to have a good time.

So should I just ask before hand because If I want to do Greek and try to just do it and she says not happening I'll feel like an ass

For example if I want to CIM I don't want to just put out there and she tell me not today that could ruin the mood quick.

So any pointers would be great especially from some providers would be awesome.

Thanks

[Carguy350]

Discuss what u want at the beginning of the session.

[When You Are Ready]

Carguy's suggestion is a good one. I also think that most ladies do not want to discuss their menus over the phone or in PMs. This is what I do. My first meeting with a lady is usually going to include only those things I read about in her reviews. After our session, and we are relaxed and carrying on a conversation, I bring up things I would like to do the nest time. At that point she will let me know if she does them or not. Have Fun!

[heidilynnla]

Once you are screened, it is a little more acceptable to ask questions. I would recommend going with the "sure thing" until you build up a few reputable references. Some ladies will never feel comfortable discussing money and/or services over the phone, so don't get offended.

[mriley000]

I also have incorporated some fictitious activities I enjoy BCD into a signature line (for which no monetary exchanges occur, see below). It is intended so that providers can get a quick idea of what I am about. Once I am properly screened, I have had providers offer comments about it (if they felt comfortable doing so). If I have misread the providers showcase and/or website, and we are not as compatible as I had thought, I have had them comment about it too. By doing this, the provider does not have to talk about their services. I am not absolutely sure if this is the best way, and I am trying it out new this month. So far I have not had a provider tell me this made them uncomfortable or nervous. It has been received positively so far. You are all free to comment about this idea.

[DallasRain]

Ditto Heidi {you are not only sexy...but wise too}

After screening,I tell guys to read my reviews and gather their "ideas" for what they want in a session and we can discuss that as it gets close to our date

[Guest113012]

I love how mriley has done it! It's perfect. I always check a guys p411 profile first for his likes/dislikes as well as previous reviews beforehand so that I can be prepared. But I know many guys do not have that.

It may be the fact that I taught sex Ed for 6 years but I have no problem discussing things up front at the beginning of a meeting. I usually offer a drink after our intros then move straight into "tell me some of your favorite things" as I'm undressing him and I.

I don't think it's a mood killer for a girl to say she doesn't do certain things on a first meeting unless her list goes on and on lol. I usually make it clear that I'm pretty no holds barred with a few minor exceptions on first time clients. I suppose it's a matter of you doing your homework.... Read her reviews.

[gimme_that]

After I have inquired about a specific booking day screening has taken place and I'm in the clear.....ill ask about specific services questions if she doesn't have reviews......but I'm sorta shy at times to do it via phone, so I rely on a very carefully written email. I may elude to the fact that I have questions and concerns I may want answered after I'm screened though when we talk. For the most part though I limit talking to just after I'm screened so the conversation is less tense.

After that I give them a firm time and place of the appointment day. I also fully use my p411 profile and explain in vivid detail what I'm looking for. If she finds that risky or offensive at that point I take it as a sign she couldn't accommodate me anyway.

[gimme_that]

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Originally Posted by CarmenAlexis

I don't think it's a mood killer for a girl to say she doesn't do certain things on a first meeting unless her list goes on and on lol. I usually make it clear that I'm pretty no holds barred with a few minor exceptions on first time clients. I suppose it's a matter of you doing your homework.... Read her reviews.

I would think it would be a mood killer for me, unless she was openly YMMV.......cause in rare occasions MDMV (my donation may vary) if she is in fact ymmv and her highly reviewed services are left to chance.

For instance, I once saw a lady who had multiple reviews for BBBJCIMnqns swallowing reviews and GFE. Well when We finally got to the appointment she said she couldnt do any "on top" activities.......which limited the session to all missionary positions for her lazy self. And then when I finally wanted to get some of those swallows.....primarily the ffirst one......right before I pulled out and aim for her mouth she covered my dick with her hands as I was coming and said "I don't swallow the first nut, its usually too big and thick." That was a severely depressing experience for me, and since then I don't mind clarifying my wants and needs. Same as a lady clarifys her rate as some often do.

[Lowboy77]

I'm going to copy mriely. It seems like it would. It out a lot of awkward Convo. Great idea

[Tigerbait929]

I like mriely and his idea. Gonna use it from now it on

[mriley000]

Wish I could take credit for the idea. I saw another dog list something similar. I just expanded and refined my preference. The other dog also used the line "fictitious activities for which no monetary exchanges occurred". Wish I could give credit where it's due but I forgot where I first saw it. Thanks to that dog.

[mriley000]

Oh I forgot. Carmen I had a great time today. Guys she is not kidding about that wide open menu. Think grand canyon wide. Thanks Carmen.

[Guest113012]

Awe I had a great time too lol

I don't like to limit the fun to be had.... Just sayin! Lol