When to Respond Via Text

[Guest062813-1]

So last night a client was texting me as my phone was dying. Now that my

phone is charged back up today I was going to respond. As I was doing this I

started to wonder...I know a lot of clients have to be all discrete and sneaky

and such, this man that was texting me I haven't seen before and I wasn't sure

if it was appropriate to respond seeing as I don't know his situation. On the

other hand, I didn't want to be portrayed as an illegitimate provider or lets say

"wishy washy" by not responding. So when is it okay and how do you know?

[Big Bud]

You're in a pickle! Here's an idea: You could make up a name and text "Joe, not sure I wrote down your number correctly. Is this you? My apologies if you're not Joe. ~ Jack." If HE recognizes the number, he'll call you or text when it's convenient. If he doesn't recognize it, the message seems innocuous if somebody else sees it (SO, for example).

[simshunter]

I think that once a person sends a text, they expect to have it returned. I agree with your point of discretion, but out of courtesy, I don't think responding to the text would be that great of an imposition.

I also believe that responding to the text explaining what happened would go a long way in keeping someone from getting the wrong impression about what kind of provider you are or are not. its a customer service thing

[simshunter]

Originally Posted by Big Bud

You're in a pickle! Here's an idea: You could make up a name and text "Joe, not sure I wrote down your number correctly. Is this you? My apologies if you're not Joe. ~ Jack." If HE recognizes the number, he'll call you or text when it's convenient. If he doesn't recognize it, the message seems innocuous if somebody else sees it (SO, for example).

Great idea Bud!

[KCSmutMonkey]

Last night he was looking for a response, not today. That said, you are still probably ok responding since I would guess most guys are not around their SO during the day.

[KCSmutMonkey]

That said, keep it VERY generic so he can play it off as a wrong number if he needs to.

[Fastcar]

Suggesting a text a day after they were texting is the advice of a single man. The last one that did that to me did so at a very bad time and I put her on my dns list.

[KCSmutMonkey]

Yeah, probably true. Wouldn't be an issue for me except in the rarest of circumstances. Murphy's Law suggests that's when the text would arrive.

[emosissy]

Originally Posted by KCSmutMonkey

That said, keep it VERY generic so he can play it off as a wrong number if he needs to.

I concur. Definitely don't use his name in the text.

[Wizard of Ahhhhs]

Originally Posted by Big Bud

You're in a pickle! Here's an idea: You could make up a name and text "Joe, not sure I wrote down your number correctly. Is this you? My apologies if you're not Joe. ~ Jack." If HE recognizes the number, he'll call you or text when it's convenient. If he doesn't recognize it, the message seems innocuous if somebody else sees it (SO, for example).

This guy's luck, his actual name is Joe, his SO sees the text, and now accuses him of hiding a gay relationship with this "Jack" guy...

My 2 cents, don't text the next day. I don't mind the texts on a "day of", if I am expecting it, say just before a meeting to relay location, perhaps a "give me 5 more minutes" request, etc. If it's now the next day, use another method, such as e-mail or a private message to the guy on here, explaining the phone charge situation, etc.

Discretion is everything, and I would treat any unexpected texts as random and potentially hazardous to my health.

[Guest062813-1]

this is pure Genius! Thanks Guys

[bigryan222]

I would recommend not texting with a made up name. If I am contacted asking for the wrong person or from someone implying they are someone else I am going to assume the worst. That is just me though. I would assume you dont have your shit together. Good luck with finding a decent way to communicate.