First Time - Biggest Misconception?

[jococat]

The time is here - finally got a couple of well reviewed ladies to agree to meet this newbie - I just need to pic one. Now I am really friggin nervous. Any feedback from the guys on your first time - biggest difference from what you expected and what reality was?

[love2fishfork]

Can't tell from your question, are you talking about a threesome? If so nervousness is your enemy! Nothing to fear, let the providers guide the show, lay back and enjoy.

A stiff drink 30 minutes prior never hurts

You're going to love it!

[jococat]

Sorry - just meant that I had two to pick from!

[boardman]

If these really are well reviewed ladies with good reputations, by all means, let them know this is your first time and that you are nervous. They will appreciate the honesty and will know what to do to make you more comfortable. Put yourself in their hands.

As long as you are comfortable with the lady in person and the surroundings go ahead and get the donation out of the way. Don't make her ask for it. Put the cash in a plain envelope and have it in your pocket. After exchanging initial greetings lay the envelope somewhere in plain sight on a desk or table and say nothing about it. She know's why it's there.

Don't go in with too many expectations other than enjoying yourself this first time. Hopefully you have chosen a lady that is capable of taking the lead. As things progress, tell her what you like and if she is doing something you don't like politely direct her to a different activity. Last thing. Be a gentleman.

We look forward to your review.

[cuddlyteddybear]

Overall, I was more comfortable with it than I expected.

The initial meeting was awkward, but once we got undressed and got started, I was more relaxed than I expected. Getting past those first few awkward moments was the hardest part for me.

My first was a very experienced lady, which helped because she had the experience to know how to smooth out the awkward moments. She even coaxed me into a trip to Greece.

[jococat]

Wow - those were exactly the types of tips I was looking for. Thanks guys and I will definitely do the review. - I am just hoping she won't review me

Bear... She sounds awesome.

[cuddlyteddybear]

Originally Posted by boardman

If these really are well reviewed ladies with good reputations, by all means, let them know this is your first time and that you are nervous. They will appreciate the honesty and will know what to do to make you more comfortable. Put yourself in their hands.

As long as you are comfortable with the lady in person and the surroundings go ahead and get the donation out of the way. Don't make her ask for it. Put the cash in a plain envelope and have it in your pocket. After exchanging initial greetings lay the envelope somewhere in plain sight on a desk or table and say nothing about it. She know's why it's there.

Don't go in with too many expectations other than enjoying yourself this first time. Hopefully you have chosen a lady that is capable of taking the lead. As things progress, tell her what you like and if she is doing something you don't like politely direct her to a different activity. Last thing. Be a gentleman.

We look forward to your review.

I never thought I'd ever find myself writing these words, but I agree with Boardman. [shiver]. LOL.

I usually put down the donation and then ask if I can use the bathroom, and then stay in there long enough for her to check it if she wants.

As was said above, just enjoy it. Don't worry about being "super stud." If she's experienced, remember that she's seen more freaky stuff than you can probably imagine, so don't be afraid to tell her what you like. A good provider enjoys making you feel good so let her, and tell her when she does.

Finally, she's a person. Just because you paid her doesn't mean you own her. You don't own your doctor or your mechanic just because you pay them. Try to show some appreciation for the fact that she's sharing a very personal part of her.

[Guest041014-2]

The hardest part is walking through the lobby of the hotel, down the hall and knocking on the door. And when it opens...the moment of truth!!! It is a blast!

[equation]

If you are married or have a steady girlfriend, request no perfume or other aromatics; that can get you into trouble. Also, if she is a kisser, make certain you don't have lipstick on you after you're finished. A little personal psych up doesn't hurt - I like to pretend a centerfold has come to life and is welcoming me into her inner sanctum. ONE MORE THING...remember this is for YOUR pleasure primarily - don't pay to please HER or to show her what a fuckmonster you are. This is a trick bag a lot of us fall into.

[guest010313]

Originally Posted by equation

If you are married or have a steady girlfriend, request no perfume or other aromatics; that can get you into trouble. Also, if she is a kisser, make certain you don't have lipstick on you after you're finished. A little personal psych up doesn't hurt - I like to pretend a centerfold has come to life and is welcoming me into her inner sanctum. ONE MORE THING...remember this is for YOUR pleasure primarily - don't pay to please HER or to show her what a fuckmonster you are. This is a trick bag a lot of us fall into.

Well don't you sound like fun.

[1963Cobra]

Originally Posted by equation

ONE MORE THING...remember this is for YOUR pleasure primarily - don't pay to please HER or to show her what a fuckmonster you are. This is a trick bag a lot of us fall into.

Play time should be enjoyed by both players - If not whats the point?

Thats not to say a quick BBBJ isn't fun... but most of the time I would have to say I try to make her time as much fun as my time.

[themaster]

Originally Posted by jococat

The time is here - finally got a couple of well reviewed ladies to agree to meet this newbie - I just need to pic one. Now I am really friggin nervous. Any feedback from the guys on your first time - biggest difference from what you expected and what reality was?

Biggest difference is probably to make sure your "attracted" to her.. don't go with people your only semi-attracted too.. I don't know if that helps.. but that's 1 of my first time lessons.. that and I would suggest non-smokers.. less you smoke..

[guest010313]

Not all smokers smoke in session and if she does, well fuck her. She has no manners.

[boardman]

Originally Posted by cuddlyteddybear

I never thought I'd ever find myself writing these words, but I agree with Boardman. [shiver]. LOL.

I usually put down the donation and then ask if I can use the bathroom, and then stay in there long enough for her to check it if she wants.

As was said above, just enjoy it. Don't worry about being "super stud." If she's experienced, remember that she's seen more freaky stuff than you can probably imagine, so don't be afraid to tell her what you like. A good provider enjoys making you feel good so let her, and tell her when she does.

Finally, she's a person. Just because you paid her doesn't mean you own her. You don't own your doctor or your mechanic just because you pay them. Try to show some appreciation for the fact that she's sharing a very personal part of her.

I didn't mean a word of it...Does that make you feel better?

[KCQuestor]

Originally Posted by boardman

I didn't mean a word of it...Does that make you feel better?

Seriously, boardman, what's your game? You can't really be offering good, reasonable advice. Something's going on here....