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equation · 04-22-2011, 02:51 PM

Providers, please help me to understand. I recently "worked with" a provider who told me that she had a boyfriend who, "she never cheated on". Dumbfounded, I said, "but we just (fill in the blank)". to which she replyed, "it's not the same thing, I didn't do it for my own pleasure." *Ouch*, okay, what is the difference here ladies? I am approaching understanding, but the mechanics are the same in both cases to me. I marvel (and cherish) the complexity of women, but providers, a little insight would be appreciated

Cheaper2buyit · 04-22-2011, 03:32 PM

women are like that I have been others wives who would let me cum in their mouth but told me never to try to kiss them. womens minds the 17th wonder of all worlds

Guest102513-1 · 04-22-2011, 04:20 PM

Big difference...the hobby is business to providers. Just as the hobby is fun to guys.
Therefore, of course she's not cheating on boyfriend, and in some cases the boyfriend encourages it...which really should not be consider a bad thing.

To think of it any less, runs into BIG Time problems.

That's not to say, we all can attempt to enjoy Professional Friendships with each other

Cheaper, you ever figure out how wives/GF process info...let me know and I'll buy ya
a bottle of the best scotch that can be bought

perpetualdesign · 04-22-2011, 04:28 PM

I was told that if they get paid, it's not cheating. If they don't get paid, it's cheating.

Autumnkc · 04-22-2011, 05:02 PM

Providers DO think of this as business only... thats not to say we dont have our personal 'favorites' who we enjoy our time with more, but we would never leave our boyfriends for the guy most of the time. Cheating to us is when we 'play' with someone for our pleasure. Period.

sweetxpetite · 04-22-2011, 05:03 PM

hahaha perpetualdesign that was funny but the providers that do have boyfriends you have to understand that they are working with feelings and most likely doing eveything bare with their boyfriend. she could have re-worded it instead of saying she doent do it for her pleasure. a girl like me loves what i do and i am doing it for your pleasure as well as mine. some guys see it as cheating when the provider is letting the hobbyist do the same things she would let het boyfriend do ya know. hope i was any help.

naughtynatale · 04-23-2011, 08:58 AM

All of these responses are true. If you get paid (in a woman's eyes) it is a job. Fortunately for me and many ladies we have a pleasurable job for all parties involved. Yes a bf would get more as in more time. The ups the downs etc. And definitely bareback. You guys nothing mean intended only get us as a fantasy for a set period of time. There are men that are open to us ladies working but in my experience most are not. Heck I have (for lack of a better word) clients who say they do not want to share me

But that is why we are all individuals... totally different and but the same.

Ok need more coffee

Allie_Kat · 04-23-2011, 01:06 PM

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Originally Posted by perpetualdesign

I was told that if they get paid, it's not cheating. If they don't get paid, it's cheating.

+1

equation · 04-23-2011, 03:53 PM

If you are just drunk and trying to have fun...that's cheating, yes? The client you just spent the best day you've had in a month with is nothing more than, "business"?

KCQuestor · 04-23-2011, 04:08 PM

Ever wonder why some providers don't allow DFK or DATY? This is why.

katkisses2000 · 04-23-2011, 04:44 PM

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Originally Posted by KCQuestor

Ever wonder why some providers don't allow DFK or DATY? This is why.

well those providers dont know what they are missing i find that to be one of the best parts,next to meeting great(you know who you are) people learning new things everyday and love what i do and doing what i love.I find that dfk and daty are just the perks and forplay befor the real fun begins

Allie_Kat · 04-23-2011, 06:32 PM

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Originally Posted by equation

If you are just drunk and trying to have fun...that's cheating, yes? The client you just spent the best day you've had in a month with is nothing more than, "business"?

I don't see it as "just business". But then again, I don't have a boyfriend. LOL.
I genuinely enjoy meeting all my clients be they new or known. For me, escorting isn't just a job, it's a lifestyle and I like to make everyone, including myself, comfortable and happy.

Longermonger · 04-24-2011, 06:27 AM

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Originally Posted by perpetualdesign

I was told that if they get paid, it's not cheating. If they don't get paid, it's cheating.

So that allows their boyfriend or husband to bang an unlimited amount of women as long as they pay him a dollar or two. Nice loophole.

Why do women think crazy things like this instead of just accepting the fact that they have sex for money and be cool with that? Ladies, if you have sexual relations with anybody (male or female) other than your SO...THAT IS CHEATING. Period! Exclamation point.

Men that allow you to cheat are using you. Time to find a new man!

JS42 · 04-24-2011, 06:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Longermonger

Ladies, if you have sexual relations with anybody (male or female) other than your SO...THAT IS CHEATING.

Wow, I can't believe I'm agreeing with Longer on something. No offense, and not being judgemental, but come on ladies, no amount of rationalization will change the fact this is cheating, regardless.

naughtynatale · 04-24-2011, 01:18 PM

Ok so are you guys saying you are all cheating and that it is only black and white no gray area. I already know you are going to say you are. Providing is such a different life than the real civi world. For the most part I have found that we ladies do not think like civilian ladies.

Oh and I too do not have a SO so maybe I don't know what I am talking about