Ever dated a provider?

[guest031112]

has any one on here ever dated a provider or any providers dated guys who new what they did for a living? I had seen a girl a few times and she caught me off gaurd when she called me up out of the blue and offered to take me to dinner one night, we had a great time and have seen each other a few times now and just mondering how it workd out for any one else

[merriamman]

I've been there. My situation may be somewhat unique, but it has turned into something serious and really good. Polo, check your PM

[The Sixth Beatle]

I had a similar experience, in that one night a provider I'd seen many times called me up (she knew I was single) and asked if I'd like to go out with her (I think this was 2002). Unfortunately, I wasn't home and the message was on my answering machine when I got home. I called her up and she downplayed it (essentially she took the invitation back), but I didn't hold it against her and continued to see her from time to time.

Then one afternoon I called her for an outcall and she came over. After a rather spirited session, which included an uncharacteristically loud orgasm from her, she laid next to me and said, "I love you." You could've knocked me over with a feather.

She quit providing shortly afterward (not immediately - and no, I didn't ask her to) and we got very serious and eventually talked marriage. We didn't get that far, as there were some issues with forthrightness (is that a word?), but we still see each other and knock boots from time to time. A pretty good relationship in all.

[guest031112]

I got a few PM's no I am not looking to settle down and get married, kids, etc with her. And no she is not trying to play for money ( I am not one of the guys at the strip club who say " I think she really like me" while giving her 20's like they are play money.. just wondering how it worked out for any one else

[bartipero]

These guys had good experiences and so have I for the most part, but you might want to take a look at the Erin Paige thread from a few months back on an example of how they can go south. I would say sometimes they weren't honest when they had no real need to lie, though. Depends on the person. There are some fantastic gals out there.

[FireSerpent]

I've been in a few relationships with providers... longest one lasted about a year. With that girl... we were friends and she started doing it a couple years into my knowing her. Later we got together in a relationship.

The others had just been "buddies"... providers who I had met up with for business in one sense or another and it turned out that we enjoyed each other's sexual company on a more frequent basis. A couple of them wanted relationships but I declined.

Since then I've run into a few providers I've gotten to know outside of the hobby and found them to be very interesting and fun people. I wouldn't ever say I'd never date another provider... just have to have the stars align just right for it to happen

[KCQuestor]

Done the relationship thing. Done the fuckbuddy thing.

[old-tyme-racer]

Originally Posted by KCQuestor

Done the relationship thing. Done the fuckbuddy thing.

Glad to see it happened to others.

[CaptainKaos]

I've done it. It was pretty much like any other relationship. Started well, got fucked up and then it ended. When I reflect on it, I couldn't get over the idea that if she bought me something or took me out, it made me feel kind of bad because I knew what she did to earn the money. Also, if I did something nice for her, I think it made me feel like I was being taken advantage of or something. At any rate, YMMV is the general rule. If your heart says go for it, do it. You never know what could happen.

[Sweetwilliam]

Many years ago I dated a girl from the old Executive Suites. She was gorgeous and personable and I thought I was living the dream. However, she was fourteen years younger than me and just had different interests and a different outlook. Knowing what she did for a living didn't enter into our relationship while we dated but it might have if we had continued. Not too long after we went our own ways she quit the massage biz. I heard from a mutual friend that the girl had decided that she couldn't attract the kind of guy she wanted doing what she did. I used to see a lot of girls at the different massage places back then and she was probably the only one I seriously considered for something longer term. I really liked a lot of those girls but they just weren't the type to take home to meet mom and dad!

[guest010313]

Such a hypocrite but I would only date a client if he stopped seeing providers lol.

[The Sixth Beatle]

During the time that our relationship was serious, I did not see any providers. Not because she asked me, but because I genuinely didn't want to see anyone but her. She no longer provided services for others during that time either (although I didn't ask that of her). That's part of the definition of serious, isn't it?

That doesn't mean I'm passing judgment on married guys who partake in the hobby. For any number of reasons, I could see myself in that situation if I was married.

Because of the dynamics of the client/provider relationship, I could not imagine a relationship ever starting without the woman taking the initiative. There are too many landmines involved with the man bringing up the possibility.

[Redwolf]

Originally Posted by SillyGirl

Such a hypocrite but I would only date a client if he stopped seeing providers lol.

I don't see that as being hypocritical.

You are providing to pay the bills. A gentleman is seeking the services of an escort because he is not getting any or much at home, doesn't have time to date, or likes variety. You are not picking out guys to whom you are attracted to meet. A gentleman is. It is not hypocritical for a provider to continue her business while expecting her SO to stop seeing other providers.

Similarly, a stripper can dance for her clients, while desiring her SO not to get lap dances from other strippers.

[bigryan222]

I have dated a few strippers and one of them started providing at about the time I started seeing her. I didnt find out about her change in occupation until 3 or 4 months after I last saw her. It didnt bother me, but it did explain a few things where I knew she was hiding something and she gave me a BS answer. One case was she meant to show me a picture of her kids and a couple nude pictures came up on her phone. She said they were to her female roommate as a sign to kiss her butt. It was obviously a lie for several reasons, but I didnt know her well enough for me to think I deserved an explaination at the time.

[jan-w]

I'm too freakin' ugly for a provider to want to date. Isn't that why I'm paying them?