Am I doing this wrong?

[Chicken Fingers]

Ok, I’ve lurked on this site for a while and joined a few months ago. Never posted until now, but haven’t been much of a hobbyist. I would usually go to AMP’s if I had the urge, but decided to start moving up the food chain, so to speak. My understanding from reading was that I would need to find providers that are newbie friendly or would go with employment verification to get started, get some references and work my way up from there . . . right?

This is the direction I took and saw three different providers within the past 4 months. All visits were good with no issues. Two of the providers event told me that I could use them as a reference. I figured it was time to try and move up a notch to a provider that required references. I saw an ad on here with good reviews and sent an email. She responded and asked for references, and I provided names and numbers of the previous three, along with my name, number and a brief physical description of myself. Three days later, no answer. I sent another email to ask if there were any problems with the info I provided . . . silence.

So, I thought she was just a flake, saw another ad I liked, but this one had a phone number. I called, she seemed nice, but had some uncertainty in her schedule to see me on short notice. I wouldn’t need short notice if I hadn’t been brushed aside with the first one. Said she would call back, also asked that I send her a PM. I sent the PM and after a few hours with no call back, I called again and went to voicemail. Went back to the web site and her ad was no longer there. PM is still marked as unread.

Seriously, WTF and I doing wrong here. Do the providers have a secret board where I have been wrongly outed as a member of LE, pimps anonymous, or Al Qaeda? If there was a problem with my references, should I expect an email telling me that. Should I expect a call back when she says she will, even if either of these responses are to tell me GTFO? I have nothing to hide and provided work info to my first provider several months ago, and don’t mind providing this info again. I’m thinking my references, since I was new, didn’t remember me, so this could be the problem, but I guess I’m never going to find out.

All right Co-Ed board, let me have it. Tell me I should just stick with the AMP’s and leave this part of hobbying to the big boys. Tell me I suck at life or that I should just spend my money on fried chicken, I can take all that, but it is killing me to not know what I am doing wrong here. I do appreciate all of the posters here. The reviews and info provided by all of you made me feel safe enough to give this a try in the first place. TIA.

[Lexieinhouston]

Hmm, wondering if you are related to PrimeTime, ha? Seriously, it seems to me like you did everything right. At least one of the people you saw should vouch for you. Yes, there are boards were ladies share info about the safety issues, etc. Hopefully, you are not on one of them. I would just give it another shot. There are also several newbie friendly ladies here as well, if you need to start over.

Now I'm craving Cane's! :)


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[Alyssa XOXO]

Sweetie, could it be your references? Sometimes a gent will contact me and it's not "them", it's their references. I just simply let them know (not by name) that they have references that I Personally choose not to accept and redirect them to my showcase. Don't give up, it'll get better

Edit: Possibly a couple of your references could vouch you for P411.

[GlobeSpotter]

OP, welcome to the club. Just understand sometimes paying to get laid is not all that easy. I have P411 with 20+ okays (more but I've deleted some), I have almost 40 reviews on this site. And I didn't review every lady I saw and I've seen many of them more than once. Some double digit times. The reviews were put up in basically one year...so the lady can clearly see how much cash I'm spending. Yeah....and I have 3000 posts on here.

And there are still days it is hard to get laid...or the morning of the appointment the lady says, "Oh, can I get your references and you need to call me from your hobby phone that is locked in your office with a dead battery and doesn't have credit."

[SpiceItUp]

Lol get p411, problem solved.

[Guest072624]

Get P411. Your answer to everything.

[BFCjosh]

Originally Posted by Alyssa XOXO

Sweetie, could it be your references? Sometimes a gent will contact me and it's not "them", it's their references. I just simply let them know (not by name) that they have references that I Personally choose not to accept and redirect them to my showcase. Don't give up, it'll get better

Edit: Possibly a couple of your references could vouch you for P411.

From your showcase: (Not BP or agency and please make sure that the provider is not on my "do not use list")

What steps would you recommend that a potential customer take to "make sure" of this?

[BFCjosh]

Originally Posted by Chicken Fingers

Ok, I’ve lurked on this site for a while and joined a few months ago. Never posted until now, but haven’t been much of a hobbyist. I would usually go to AMP’s if I had the urge, but decided to start moving up the food chain, so to speak. My understanding from reading was that I would need to find providers that are newbie friendly or would go with employment verification to get started, get some references and work my way up from there . . . right?

This is the direction I took and saw three different providers within the past 4 months. All visits were good with no issues. Two of the providers event told me that I could use them as a reference. I figured it was time to try and move up a notch to a provider that required references. I saw an ad on here with good reviews and sent an email. She responded and asked for references, and I provided names and numbers of the previous three, along with my name, number and a brief physical description of myself. Three days later, no answer. I sent another email to ask if there were any problems with the info I provided . . . silence.

So, I thought she was just a flake, saw another ad I liked, but this one had a phone number. I called, she seemed nice, but had some uncertainty in her schedule to see me on short notice. I wouldn’t need short notice if I hadn’t been brushed aside with the first one. Said she would call back, also asked that I send her a PM. I sent the PM and after a few hours with no call back, I called again and went to voicemail. Went back to the web site and her ad was no longer there. PM is still marked as unread.

Seriously, WTF and I doing wrong here. Do the providers have a secret board where I have been wrongly outed as a member of LE, pimps anonymous, or Al Qaeda? If there was a problem with my references, should I expect an email telling me that. Should I expect a call back when she says she will, even if either of these responses are to tell me GTFO? I have nothing to hide and provided work info to my first provider several months ago, and don’t mind providing this info again. I’m thinking my references, since I was new, didn’t remember me, so this could be the problem, but I guess I’m never going to find out.

All right Co-Ed board, let me have it. Tell me I should just stick with the AMP’s and leave this part of hobbying to the big boys. Tell me I suck at life or that I should just spend my money on fried chicken, I can take all that, but it is killing me to not know what I am doing wrong here. I do appreciate all of the posters here. The reviews and info provided by all of you made me feel safe enough to give this a try in the first place. TIA.

You're doing it right. Some providers are good about getting back to you in a timely manner with a yes or no, but many others are not. Just keep trying different providers.

[Alyssa XOXO]

Originally Posted by BFCjosh

From your showcase: (Not BP or agency and please make sure that the provider is not on my "do not use list")

What steps would you recommend that a potential customer take to "make sure" of this?

In past, they have simply asked about a particular one and I "yay" or "nay"

[Guest072624]

I too have "No Bp or Agency girls as references" on my showcase. And like Alyssa i just tell them a simple yes or no. ☺

Originally Posted by Alyssa XOXO

In past, they have simply asked about a particular one and I "yay" or "nay"

[GlobeSpotter]

yes P411 helps....but it doesn't fix "FLAKE" or bad BCD.

Edit: today's case in point -> Click the photo....\/

[Chicken Fingers]

Wow! I really thought I was going to get insulted far more than this. If my OP came off as a woe is me post, that wasn’t the intention. It is what it is and I’m fine with whatever the outcome turns out to be (Provider . . . AMP . . .Hand . . .Meatloaf . . . whatever). I appreciate the help (both through PM and posted here) and it seems that 411 is the consensus. I will look into it. I think the problem was with my references and I can fix that by starting over.
I really just wanted to know why someone didn’t contact me and tell me to fuck off or something to that extent and if that was the norm. At least then, I know the problem and how to fix it. After Globespotter’s comments, I think I was probably expecting too much. Just press on and expect this every now and then, right?
Thanks again everyone, I think you have helped me see the light and set me straight.

[GlobeSpotter]

Originally Posted by Chicken Fingers

----- After Globespotter’s comments, I think I was probably expecting too much. Just press on and expect this every now and then, right?
.....

Just click the photo above your post....from my last post.

I'm telling you....many times this is not easy. And 90% of my outcall visits are late. I plan on late so it works. Plus the NC/NS.

I will say,...some times things fall into place. Even bad luck turning to good luck. On an international trip last year, I was craving something specific. So I taxi'd to an exclusive club that was supposed to have two or three of anything I wanted. Well,...I got there and, yes, there was plenty of pussy. But the business model of the establishment was not of my liking. No....it was not because I'm so cheap. It was just not what I was told/expecting and I was not prepared and it was a turn off even if I had been prepared.

I'm a smart engineer and entrepreneur so I ranked my options of how to make it work and take one to my hotel. By the time I did this, I had completely lost interest in the girls that were circling me like buzzards.

So I left. I got the dumb taxi driver to drop me where he picked me up and I started walking back to my hotel. I thought I'd stop for a beer at a disco (lady bar) I'd been before....I actually had to piss. I had a "no cover charge" pass in my passport wallet so I got in for free, headed straight back to the toilet, took care of my biz and freshened up. I tipped the young boy working the lavatory there. He provided some upgraded towels and had some mouthwash and mints. I try to be generous. A lot to them is not much to me.

Then I walked out to get a beer and there she was waiting for me. EXACTLY what I was looking for. EXACTLY. There was a place for us at the first bar. We ordered drinks. Talked for one drink. Agreed on the price for all night. I agreed to her asking price even though it was high. I didn't want to fuck things up. I wrote it on the napkin and she agree. I folded the napkin, put it in my shirt pocket and we left. She was remarkable. Hell, I was remarkable. Several hours of pent up frustration and anxiety taken out on her for 2 hours plus some fun after the sun came up. That girl has slept next to me at least 10 times since that night. She's the one I took the iPad and roller blades to and she spent 4 nights with me in trade. (edit: actually, the expensive roller blades were a gift from me.)

The message....it is all going to work out. There will be some great days. You'll meet some great ladies.

But,.....some days....are just gonna SUCK....and not in a good way.

[Out_of_Bounds]

You did everything right OP. Sometimes it just don't work out. Some women have it together, some don't.
But getting a p411 account helps a lot.
I hate to say it but your references could have also failed to follow through on the recommendation. Some hookers don't like to share. Which is.... ironic, don't you think?

Nice one GS!

[Guest062217]

I was unaware that you could delete 'okays' on 411. I know there are a few I would like to delete.

Originally Posted by GlobeSpotter

OP, welcome to the club. Just understand sometimes paying to get laid is not all that easy. I have P411 with 20+ okays (more but I've deleted some), I have almost 40 reviews on this site. And I didn't review every lady I saw and I've seen many of them more than once. Some double digit times. The reviews were put up in basically one year...so the lady can clearly see how much cash I'm spending. Yeah....and I have 3000 posts on here.

And there are still days it is hard to get laid...or the morning of the appointment the lady says, "Oh, can I get your references and you need to call me from your hobby phone that is locked in your office with a dead battery and doesn't have credit."