Question for Providers and hobbiests

[travelingjoe69]

I haven't met many ladies. I see some ask for references but if you have me a lot of girls how do you get references? I have met a lady in Topeka, Justice was her handle I believe. Last month I met a lady near Leavenworth. Do I just give their name or numbers out if asked? I'm an Army guy that is interested in meeting just not sure of the processes. Any help is appreciated. thanks

[JRLawrence]

Originally Posted by travelingjoe69

I haven't met many ladies. I see some ask for references but if you have me a lot of girls how do you get references? I have met a lady in Topeka, Justice was her handle I believe. Last month I met a lady near Leavenworth. Do I just give their name or numbers out if asked? I'm an Army guy that is interested in meeting just not sure of the processes. Any help is appreciated. thanks

Don't worry about it. Just ignore the reference thing and go with your gut feelings. Do not ever give out your personal information to anyone you don't know well. Have you ever heard of identity theft? Be ready to walk away is the situation does not seem right. The hobby should be about pleasure, not power or control.

It sounds like you are doing OK. It is more important that you do some checking on the lady you see. You don't want to be robbed.

Above all, play safe! Be nice, but careful.

JR

[MsElena]

Do NOT ignore the reference "thing" that most all ladies require.

Its completely up to you on who you wish to see and what information you're willing to give. Just remember that if you're not comfortable giving someone information on yourself, then chances are you're not going to see a well known/legit lady.

Of course, you could go the other route and find someone who'll see you without being screened, but then you run the chances of ending up in jail.

Choose which devil you wish to dance with.

[Bassman67]

I would agree with what JR said about trusting your gut feeling, walking away if it doesn't feel right, and doing as much research as you can on a provider you're interested in seeing. I would also agree with everything Ms Elena said as well (:

If you are interested in seeing providers who ask you for references (which as Ms. Elena said most all well known/legit ladies do, or have some type of screening/verification process) then you have to decide how badly you want to see them and provide the information they ask for. Each lady does business how she sees fit and in turn you can either decide to follow her guidelines, or find another provider. As a matter of courtesy, I would make sure that any provider you are using as a reference is aware that you are doing so (contact them to make sure they are okay with you giving out their info to other ladies...most will be okay vouching for you, but it's always polite to make sure)

I would also be prepared for the possibility of providers not accepting your references if they don't feel comfortable with their legitimacy (it happened to me once when I started..a provider didn't accept two of my references, even though they were ECCIE verified providers) Again, each lady can decide who she meets however she likes...so you either follow her protocol if you would like to spend time with her...or you find someone else. I ended up finding other providers who enjoyed meeting me and I enjoyed spending time with as well...so that one experience (although disappointing) wasn't that big of a deal.

There are also good newbie friendly providers who are great to see when you're starting out and help build up references, which is kind of what I did...so do your research...be safe...and have fun (:

[KenMonk]

When I got started I saw ladies who would see me to be honest. I asked if I could use them as a reference, some said yes and refused to reply to reference checks, 2 flat out said no after the deed was done, and a few said yes and actually kept their word.

The point is, ask the ladies if it is okay to use them as a reference. The good providers will honor this request because when the shoe is on the other foot, they get what they need. If a lady refuses contact, or simply doesn't want to offer a reference, the ladies typically let the rest know.

[JRLawrence]

The observations made about this site is:

Those ladies who preach the most about references seem to know each other.
Question, what is the connections and how is the information shared.
This activity is illegal.
Conclusion: One does not expect the normal police protection
Conclusion: Don't trust the brains in your little head. It doesn't have any.

JR

[JD Barleycorn]

I would say DON'T trust your feelings, use your brain. Analyze what she says and how she says it. If you don't want to meet LE then don't volunteer any suggestions to what you want to do to her. Anything recorded can be used against you. Stay with well reviewed providers until you learn the ropes. If you meet someone that no one knows then proceed with caution.