Any other autistic men?

[AdventurousMouse]

I'm wondering if there are any other autistic men on here.

When you think about it, the format of the escort game is ideal for autistic men. For a number of reasons.

We hate uncertainty. With an escort, you don't have to wonder whether you'll get laid.

We're not cut out to make the first move (when it comes to pursuing a woman). Utilizing an escort provides a loophole where we can pay to bypass the courtship stage.

We're terrible at reading a woman's clues of interest. With an escort, there's no need to read her clues. We know she's not into us...but it doesn't matter; she's willing to give us sex in exchange for money.

For that matter, the traits that come with autism are a turn off to the vast majority of the female population, thus necessitating the utilization of escorts by many autistic men.

Even when we manage to initially secure the interest of a free woman, our autism tends to drive her away quickly. With an escort, on the other hand, as long as we pay her, she'll continue to get with us, even if we say/do something socially inept during a session.

Many autistic men were viewed as repulsive by female classmates growing up. So our adolescent rejections were more along the lines of "ew, you're a freak no girl will ever want" than "no, you're simply not my type." As a result, we're more sensitive to rejection than neurotypical men. So a lot of us sideline ourselves entirely when it comes to asking out a free woman. With an escort, on the other hand, we pay her to accept our advances. And even if we get rejected by an escort (which has happened), we can at least find another escort quickly. When dealing with non-escorts though, it could be ages before we find a partner. In the past year, I've given my number to probably at least 25 gals. Not one has contacted me (Yeah, I know I said I sideline myself. Which I do. Giving out my number, rather than asking her out, is a loophole I use to avoid an official rejection)

We hate spontaneity. A girlfriend surprising a man with sex might sound awesome to a neurotypical man, yet it could be aggravating for an autistic man. With escorts, we get to ensure the sex takes place at a time that's convenient for us.

Lastly, normal daily life exhausts autists to such a severe degree, many of us simply lack the energy to maintain a relationship.

[trey32]

Thanks. I never saw this part of autism

[Ed Highlight]

I have been told I'm very artistic.

[SecretE]

There is a lot of developmental trauma that has been misdiagnosed as spectrum disorders. Think that "autism" label is thrown around way too much. With that said, if a guy doesn't get positive key referential experiences early on in life with potential romantic partners, I think there is a sort of sexual blindness or awkwardness that can follow, where utilizing sex work becomes necessary (at least for a period of time).

[AdventurousMouse]

Originally Posted by SecretE

There is a lot of developmental trauma that has been misdiagnosed as spectrum disorders. Think that "autism" label is thrown around way too much. With that said, if a guy doesn't get positive key referential experiences early on in life with potential romantic partners, I think there is a sort of sexual blindness or awkwardness that can follow, where utilizing sex work becomes necessary (at least for a period of time).

I was told I have Asperger's back in 2003 (this was when they still differentiated between Asperger's and more serious degrees of autism)

I got the diagnosis from a psychiatrist at a mental hospital. When I was first admitted to the mental hospital, the psychiatrist said I exhibited possible signs of Asperger's, yet she was going to examine me some more before making a definite diagnosis (and by the end of my visit, she had made her conclusion)

Only including the backstory to illustrate a point: Even though some might have been misdiagnosed, I don't think my case was a misdiagnosis. It's not like she rushed into giving the diagnosis. Plus, this happened before the era where medical professionals began overdiagnosing.

Utilizing sex workers has become a permanent thing for me. In the past decade, I've only had sex I didn't pay for once.