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Originally Posted by Becca Blossoms
I'm happy to discuss my screening process and why I do it however, I won't involve myself in drama. I will simply ignore it. I'm not criticizing anyone, only sharing my opinion. No one has to like or agree with it however, I respect others enough to be honest. I'm all about safety.
Simply having your info does nothing for safety. What a lady does with it is what matters. If I don't use it for screening, it does me no good to have your info. HAVING your info does nothing to minimize my risk if I don't use it for screening. I'm making sure he's the gentleman I screened. Simply having your info doesn't make me feel an ounce of safety.
I don't feel safe with the theory "I have his info so he won't hurt me",
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Thanks for the reply. You seem to be responding negatively to the word criticize, and I know you don't want drama, but the girl from the OP is not involved in this thread so I don't see why there would be any drama. Think of this as dialogue, I am just trying to figure out why her screening process is flawed.
"What a lady does with it is what matters."
But how do you know what she does or doesn't do with that information? Why assume she does nothing?
" Simply having your info doesn't make me feel an ounce of safety."
Why not?
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Originally Posted by Becca Blossoms
P411 is great, I love that site however, from their number, I can only tell your first name, the day you were born the last digits from something from your wallet. How many "Johns" or "Mikes" were born on the 2nd of any given month? Personally, I don't feel safe using this as a way to identify you,
I won't accept an expired driver's license or one that has info blacked out. I would walk out of the meeting if someone did this.
I accept P411, if you have OKs, it makes it easy to contact other ladies for a reference. I would ask for your legal name and check your ID to be sure you are you.
Most providers I know use verifyhim, it checks blacklists, sex offender registry, criminal records and reports from other providers. Most clients I search on this site are fine, they have nothing that keeps me from seeing them. This site has kept me from seeing a gentleman that's a sex offender in 4 different states, one with a history of domestic violence and another known to be violent towards providers. These are only 3 bad guys I found on there. They all had references, 2 of them had references that checked out.
In this hobby we are all responsible for our own safety and we all choose which level of safety is right for us. We alone are the only ones that can keep us safe. I don't get my feelings hurt when someone doesn't want to see me because of my screening, I wouldn't see them to begin with so it's no big deal. For every guy that doesn't see me, there are 5 that do. I often get compliments from my clients for being so careful. Some see me because of my screening, they feel safer.
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" I love that site however, from their number, I can only tell your first name, the day you were born the last digits from something from your wallet. How many "Johns" or "Mikes" were born on the 2nd of any given month?"
But you are forgetting the last piece of data, how many also have the same last 2 digits on their credit card. I don't know anything about P411, but I am assuming they verify the guy's identity, correct? So if anything happened to you the guy would be caught. Again, this deters them from committing a crime, although you don't seem to agree.
"Most providers I know use verifyhim, it checks blacklists, sex offender registry, criminal records and reports from other providers."
You seem to think having this info greatly reduces your risk. I agree, having this info def decreases your risk of having a bad encounter, but I think the major deterrent is having the guy's info. 99.9% criminals will not commit a crime knowing they will be caught. This is where we seem to disagree. Also, some "bad" guys don't have a record. Some of these guys have done some bad things but have yet to be caught while others are just waiting for the right opportunity.
" These are only 3 bad guys I found on there. They all had references, 2 of them had references that checked out."
You are proving my point. Even though they were criminals, they weren't a danger because they knew they would be caught.
I also just want to say your screening process is about as good as it gets, I know I would be doing the same. These conversations can help a lot of ppl out, especially younger women.
