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Adabear · 09-10-2013, 11:16 PM

As you look around this site, you start to question what the hell is wrong with people. I am sick and tired of seeing guys act like asses, treating women like dirt and going on their merry little way. I am tired of the smart ass comments that do nothing but attempt to hurt someone. So here and now, I am asking that everyone that was raised, start speaking up. I am asking you all to stop the bullies, stop the personal attacks, and help clean this place up a little. Let me share a little of what I am talking about....

1. Just because a woman is a hooker, it does not mean she is a whore. A person's profession does not dictate who or what they are. In fact, if you do not know them in the real world, you do not have a leg to stand on to begin with.

2. The smart ass comments (fat, ugly, etc.) when someone is looking for assistance, advice, or posts a thread is childlike and unproductive. If you can't say something nice, then you should not say anything. If you are adding useful information, please do so in a respectful way. There is nothing wrong with sharing a useful opinion but, it can be done in a mature way without degrading someone.

3. Respect is a two way street. While I am asking the guys to respect the ladies, I am doing the same for the ladies towards the guys. If a guy is being respectful, then be nice back. There is no place for a lady to tear into a guy, just because he gave her a bad review as long as he did not lie.

4. Can we get back to a little honesty. While I have no doubt that there are guys out here with better sexual skills than I have, I still find it highly doubtful that they hit 12 positions, came 7 times, and got her to have an orgasm 11 times in 15 minutes. For reviews to be worthwhile, they need to be honest.

This goes both ways. Ladies, if you are actually 180 pounds, then own it. Do not let a guy show up expecting a spinner and getting a BBW. There is nothing wrong or right with either one, they are preferences. Just please make sure that we are one the same accurate page together.

5. Show a little common courtesy. I know you have seen 1000 newbies post the same question. They do not know that because they are new. Help them if you can. If they are just being lazy, you can call them on it but, you can do that in a nice way.

It does not matter if it is a guy taking shots at a lady, another guy, or just acting a fool, he should be called out for this and be told by everyone that we will not accept this behavior. If a lady does it, then they should be treated the same.

I am happy to say that I have met a lot of great people on here. I believe there are more good people than bad. The issue we have is that we let those with the biggest and most inappropriate mouths take control. We need to take the board back and hold these people accountable for their actions. We need to start being polite on both side, and we need to treat others the way we want to be treated. If you can not do that...maybe you are not in the right spot.

I get it. Some people act this way because they can get away with it. However, if the good people stood up and put a stop to it, I think you would be amazed to see how many more of us than there are of them.

Thank you for reading this and I hope to see some of the hostility cleared up soon.

Guest090716-1 · 09-10-2013, 11:31 PM

Adabear, This was very well articulated and i agree with you 100%.

I will also add in the ones that post on reviews that the guy lists "CBJ" in the activities, and then has to qualify it because of all of the "CBJ, i'll pass comments". If you won't see a lady because of her CBJ, no one needs to see every review about her saying the same thing.

It really appears many are not here to hobby anymore.

Again, good post Aabear!!!

SofaKingFun · 09-11-2013, 12:44 AM

"Enough is Enough"?

I thinck you'll find that some want more than enough....ijs.

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gearslut · 09-11-2013, 01:53 AM

This should be a productive discussion.....

Eccie Addict · 09-11-2013, 04:24 AM

Nothing will change....

Let me edit this by saying that there are a lot of people not on this site telling the people on this site that we are wrong for being in this lifestyle. Do you think the "good" people out there saying that are right?

Just a question..... Are you married OP?

ZedX79 · 09-11-2013, 05:57 AM

This will get nowhere.

Adabear · 09-11-2013, 06:30 AM

Fair question. I am not married. I also have no issue with the lifestyle. Personally, I think it should be legal. There are many good people on this site. My only issue is the way people are treated by some of the more vocal men and women on the site.

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Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

Nothing will change....

Let me edit this by saying that there are a lot of people not on this site telling the people on this site that we are wrong for being in this lifestyle. Do you think the "good" people out there saying that are right?

Just a question..... Are you married OP?

Don T. Lukbak · 09-11-2013, 06:40 AM

Enough?

Everything is not enough.

Nothing is too damn much to bear.

Enough enough. ijs

tbone77494 · 09-11-2013, 06:41 AM

After a few weeks you learn whose comments to just ignore.

looking2havefun · 09-11-2013, 07:12 AM

#1 - Avoid cases of unprovoked rudeness to others. No place for it here. Yes, with the dynamic nature of the threads and topics, tempers will flare and things will become heated from time to time. You may often encounter individuals who become passionate or emotional when expressing one's opinion or point of view. That's all understood and perfectly acceptable within reason…….but, start slamming or bashing another member and be met with consequences.

OP I agree with you. Most of the posts you describe violate the very first rule in the Forum Guidelines. If someone sees a post which violates that rule, hit the RTM button and report it
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Wakeup · 09-11-2013, 07:15 AM

What's your plan of action for "taking the board back", OP? Let me know how this works out for you...

Oh yeah...whores...

Ur_1_only · 09-11-2013, 07:17 AM

I'm with you Adabear and think you stated it very well!
Maybe some others are correct that nothing will change but I feel there is a need for something to change. Some people seem to just enjoy belittling, criticizing and just being down right rude. If they were ever to say something positive about any thing. It would be a shock to me! I may not be the one who posts or reviews the most but I do appreciate the information exchange aspect of the site. IMHO

Ok u negative bugs have at it!

Ur_1_only · 09-11-2013, 07:21 AM

Didn't take long for one member to respond!
Typical response.... NEGATIVE X ???? (Fill in #)

lesbianbob · 09-11-2013, 07:38 AM

Adabear, nice effort, won't change a thing. Sorry to say but there is nothing in the rules about being nice, or even having any class. The most base common element of men can flourish here.

Adabear · 09-11-2013, 07:44 AM

I won't share the whole plan but, I will tell you that when someone posts something rude and or offensive for no reason other than to me mean or hurt someone, I will call it out when I see it. My guess is that you will be getting a lot of attention. That should make you happy. Ironically, I actually believe you have good contributions to the board, you could just do it in a nicer way.

I hope you have a great day my friend.

PS - The best you could do was to write whores? How about next post you try telling me why something is wrong or will not work without name calling and just simply expressing yourself in a respectful and professional way.

Thanks

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Originally Posted by Wakeuр

What's your plan of action for "taking the board back", OP? Let me know how this works out for you...

Oh yeah...whores...